The Art of Influencing

The Art of Influencing

 

To fully understand the art of influencing others,
I like to refer to this quote…

“No man is an island”

This saying basically means that we perform better and achieve the best results when we collaborate with each other or work as a team.

Napoleon Hill referred to this as “Master Mind“, a group of people that get together to discuss and share ideas with the purpose of a better outcome for all concerned.

This concept applies to all aspects of life, including our family life, our social life, and our business matters; thus, collaboration is a very important aspect for peaceful human coexistence.

We are, after all, social beings. However, you have probably found by now that it is not always easy to get others to follow you or even acknowledge the benefit of taking a particular route together in order to achieve success.

Many people have different ideas or misguided views about what works at producing great results. This probably has to do with individual opinions and life experiences; but more often than not, it has to do with lack of know-how and vision.

Therefore, if your goal is to be successful at teamwork and achieve goals through a group effort, refining your persuasive abilities should be a priority in your “must-learn” list. Learning the art of influence persuasion is key when it comes to enticing people to follow your command in a particular thing in life.

Your ability to achieve personal and professional fulfillment is not necessarily the same ability that others in your personal and business circles have; hence you must learn the fine art of influencing towards approaching life and business from a certain angle with a precise objective in mind.

But… before we continue, let’s clarify one important point. The art of influencing otherss has nothing to do with manipulative obscure techniques to have others surrender their will and have them act as your puppets or servants for your sole benefit. Influencing others is about team work towards the achievement of a mutually beneficial goal.

Aggressive Persuation vs. Assertive Persuasion

It is definitely possible to influence people to see things from a certain angle if some amount of force is applied. This is called aggressive persuasion. It uses manipulation and pressure in a way that when people are implicitly warned, threatened, or faced with a consequence or form of punishment for doing other that what you say, they will adhere to your requests out of fear of losing something, either tangible (a job) or intangible (love.)

Therefore, aggressive persuasion creates fear, anger, resentment and other negative emotions. It is very unlikely toproduce long term results with this kind of pesuation.

There are innumerable examples of this kind of negative persuasion and aggressive influencing in history… can you think of one? Hint: You can find plenty of examples in governments based on authoritarian practices, and even closer to home if you know an authoritarian parent. No matter what example you look at, you’ll find out that in instances of aggresive persuation, the results are always short lived; i.e. revolutions, civil wars, and rebelious children, are examples of this.

Even when you have people’s best interest at heart (like in the case of your children doing their homework and chores), there is an added downfall to aggressive persuasion. When people feel pressed and are coerced in this manner they’ll often miss the point and never get to grasp why doing things your way may truly be the best approach for them. This happens despite the fact that your intentions are genuinely good!

Assertive persuasion, on the other hand, is the true art of influencing others in a positive manner and with a common and beneficial goal in mind. This type of persuasion, motivates people to eagerly collaborate with you because they are being exosed to the benefits they’ll get by following your command, even when they are consciously unaware of this!

To an extent, assertive persuasion is like gentle coercion without the consequences of non-compliance being highlighted. When people are offered the opportunity to see the positive outcome of their actions, they experience positive emotions that prompt them to embrace cooperation and this benefits everyone. The great news is that it is not difficult at all to learn assertive persuasion to influence people in this manner. All it takes is fine tuning your observation skills, learning to read people, and communicating effectively based on what you observed.

Once you’ve mastered the fine art of influencing, you will begin to experience more oomph in your life that will manifest in less struggle, more cooperation, and true teamwork in your personal and professional life.


 

Whether you want your child or life partner to grasp the importance of becoming a group prayer by cooperating in household chores, or your co-workers or employees to understand how fair delegation of duties can positively impact the end result, the art of influencing others with assertive persuation will definitely take you to new heights.

If you wish to create and sustain positive change, both in your family and in your professional life, I highly recommend you study assertive persuation and master the art of influencing others – positively.

The Code of Influence by Paul Mascetta is a fantastic program to learn the art of influence persuation from someone who’s spent years researching persuasion in marketing, human behavior and psychology, and the works neuroscientists and psychologists like Carl Jung, BF Skinner, Leon Festinger, Sigmund Freud, Erik Erickson, Kurt Lewin, Abraham Maslow, Ivan Pavlov and many others. Paul has certainly influenced his way to success… BIG time!

Visit Paul’s site! You’ve got here an excellent opportunity to learn this valuable skill from somebody that has mastered what he preaches; something that will certainly help you succeed at exerting assertive influence right at home and in the marketplace!

AND… if you are ready to take your influencing skills to the next level, get The Code of Influence and I will send you a special gift… your own copy of “Influence: How to Exert It” by Yoritomo-Tashi, founder of the first “Japanese Dynasty of Shoguns” — a $11.97 value — yours free as a bonus gift! Take a look here but do NOT buy it if you are ordering “The Code of Influence” by Paul Mascetta. Just send me a copy of your invoice and I will send you access to “Influence: How to Exert It” as a thank you gift, right away.

I believe the best way to learn anything is to soak our minds in the subject at hand. Paul Macetta will take you by the hand and teach you how to persuade others assertively in today’s world; while Yoritomo-Tashi’s ebook, will give you a different perspective. His teachings date back to the XII century; nevertheless the principles work today just as well as they did back then!

Once you learn these techniques, you’ll be on your way to influencing people of all walks of life in the benefit of all concerned.

Are you goodat incluencing people already? Then, you may also want to take a look at ARVARI by clicking on the banner below. Prepare to be amazed with what you’ll learn… It will knock your socks off!

The Power of Concentration

The Power of Concentration

Do you ever find yourself wondering why some succeed at a certain task while others don’t? Training aside, would you believe me if I told you that much of success has to do with your ability to focus your mind and concentrate on one task at a time?

From mundane daily tasts and all the way to manifesting larger things in life, this happens at every level. Let’s explore this in more detail…

In today’s high paced world, one of the biggest challenges for most of us is to keep our mind quiet and focused even if for a few moments sometimes! Think about it…

From TV commercials, highway billboards, cell phones ringing, traffic, newspapers, radio, documents and files at work – and yes, the Internet, social media and the like, we’re being bombarded most every minute of the day with all kinds of information. Hey, we are living in the Information Age after all!  🙂

Now let’s see what goes on inside our brains… like an overworked librarian classifying information and organizing books at ultra speed, our brains are constantly struggling to decide what to let “in”, what to keep, what to file, what to ignore, and what to discard completely. On top of that, there are the subjective thoughts that go on in our minds on automatic… you know, the kinds of thoughts such as the argument with your partner this morning, taking the car for an oil change, paying the bills, the PTA meeting tomorrow morning, picking the suit up from the cleaners, deadlines at work, etc. etc. And then again, while all of this is happening, we are supposed to perform at work and at home… Wow! No wonder we feel exhausted at the end of the day!

Something similar happens when we are trying to manifest a larger goal.  You see, we’ve heard plenty of times about the power of thought, and how we can give life to our thoughts and create physical things. After all, every single thing was first conceived as a thought. These are the very principles of the law of attraction… we get what we think about most of the time… right? But with scattered thoughts it is close to impossible to manifest anything.

“Concentration, in its truest, unadulterated form,
means the ability to focus the mind on one single solitary thing.” 

~ Komar

Due to all of this, we must consider this vital element that too many people overlook when trying to get a daily task done or manifesting something larger. It is called concentration or focused attention, and when you think about it, this element cannot be ignored if what you want is to take a thought from your mind into physical form, be it delivering a report on time or the 2 week Greek island cruise you’ve been dreaming of for a while.

When you learn to firmly concentrate all of your attention on one particular thought or thing at a time, all of your thoughts and actions are on target with your one specific goal. Now, this does not mean that you just concentrate in one thing day in and day out until it’s completed and ignore all others. What it means is to focus ALL of your attention when you are at something, even if it takes just a few minutes. For instance, you focus your attention 100% to write your report when you sit down to write it. Yiu leave every other thing out of your mind while you write it, however long it takes. Then, you can dedicate 15 minutes of complete focus to visualizing your Greek cruise later in the day.

Realize that the secret is to use the power of concentration while you are doing a task, instead of letting your mind wander into other things while you’re at it. Got it?

Once you discover that the ability to focus your attention on one thing at a time is one of the best things you can do to prevent fatigue, overwhelm, and unnecesary stress, you’ll understand how trying to tackle several things at once has hindered your performance as well as your manifesting efforts. You’ll also clearly see why you’ve been getting the kind of results that you’ve got.

At this point it is safe to say that you must make the learning of focus and concentration a priority. Is that right?

The good news is that concentration is not something you’re born with but a skill that can be learned. Learning to control your mind and get focused could mean the difference between living aimlessly and living on purpose.

Do I have your attention now?

As you waste less time you experience faster results… And if that wasn’t enough, you also become more efficient because your mind is not being bugged with useless thoughts (what shirt whould I wear tomorrow? – kind of thoughts.) As a result, your fresher and less cluttered mind starts going on override, which will get you new ideas that you couldn’t have thought of when your thoughts were all scattered and your mind cluttered.

How’s that for increasing your performance, manifesting, and achievement?

One of my favorite New Thought Movement authors, Theron Q. Dumont (William Walker Atkinson), author of “Personal Magnetism“, “Practical Memory Training” and yes, The Power of Concentration among several others, wrote…

“It is of the utmost value to learn how to concentrate.”

To succeed at anything you must be able to concentrate your entire thought upon the idea you are working on. You must be able to set all other tasks and obligations aside – for the time being. Know that the person that is able to concentrate utilizes all constructive thoughts and shuts out all destructive ones.

The greatest man would accomplish nothing if he lacked concentration. There is actually nothing that you cannot achieve when you dominate the power of concentration!

Now here is the fun part… I want to invite you today to learn this powerful skill from the master himself, Theron Q. Dumont, for just the price of a latte. After reading and practicing the principles in this ebook, you will soon find yourself being more focused, and more on target to achieve any goal you set your mind into.

And, once you learn the principles of the power of concentration, you can instantly activate your focus by downloading this MP3 to train your mind to succeed with the power of concentration and ultra-focus. Give it a go. It’s totally free! Get it by clicking on the banner below…

Success Mindset

Develop a

Success Mindset

You’ve heard it before. To succeed at anything, you must develop a Success Mind Set but what exactly is “mind set” and how can we use it to our advantage?

Mindset is best described as the mental attitude that takes shape based on life experiences, environment, education and the ideas of the people we interact with the most.

 

Your mindset influences your interpretation of life’s events and predetermines the way in which you commonly respond to situations. Eventually, your frequent responses settle and become habits, and they give rise to your predominant state of mind.

People with a positive mindset tend to find opportunity in every problem. They are problem solvers by nature while those with a negative mindset feel as if the world is collapsing under their feet every time they encounter an unpleasant life experience.

Obviously, these people’s attitudes are not conductive to creating a state of stability, optimism, well-being and success. For them, a small thing can translate into a huge problem, it’s hard for them to think outside the box, they can’t seem to find solutions, they become easily confused and overwhelmed, and they seem to live in a state of constant anxiety, stress and crisis. Life seems like a real burden for them!

Interestingly, it is not that these people have out of the ordinary, tougher circumstances or a mountain of unusual problems as compared to their counterparts.

You’ve probably met someone that becomes really anxious at something you wouldn’t even consider a big deal. These individuals don’t have the proper mindset to go through the ups and downs of life without an enormous amount of stress. Usually, they are clueless of the fact that while they have no control of circumstances, they do have total control of how they react to those circumstances.

Their thoughts are the starting point for solving -or not- every problem in life.

In short, having a “Can Do” attitude is the main difference between people with a mindset for success and people who live in confusion and feel crushed at the slightest sign of trouble.

Mind set is directly linked to Thoughts, and… Thoughts become Things.

Here is an example to better understand this concept… Take a look at the chair you’re sitting on while reading this article. Before it existed as a physical object, it was conceived in somebody’s imagination. After that initial idea, the thought of building it came to mind and -eventually- after planing and acting on the idea, it was made a reality. That person had the correct mindset, one of creativity and expectancy of positive outcome.

Now imagine if the person thinking about that chair believed it was going to be a huge problem or insurmountable task task to build it, that nobody would like to sit on chairs, that it was a silly idea, that people were better off without chairs, etc. etc… with the wrong mindset, the list of excuses could be unlimited!

Realize that every single thing ever -tangible or not- created by humans, either positive or negative, started as a thought in someone’s mind. Without the proper mindset and optimistic outlook, we’d still be living in caves and sitting on rocks!

Thus, you are the result of your most common thoughts, the ones you have had throughout your lifetime which have brought about very specific results. While we all have positive and negative thoughts throughout our lives, the life experience we manifest at any given time represents the sum our most predominant thoughts.

Thoughts are powerful indeed. As conscious beings, we have the privilege to control them –by choice. Unfortunately, this is not what most people do. They unconsciously allow their minds to jump from one thought to the next allowing their thoughts to rule their lives without even being aware of it.

But, the important question here is… now that you know what’s going on between your ears, what kind of thoughts will you choose? And most importantly, what kind of life will you choose to lead?

Will you live a life controlled by random thoughts or will you choose your thoughts carefully and develop a success mindset on purpose?

When you get a hold of your thoughts you have the power to create wonderful things in your life, all by just taking command, training and instructing your mind to think properly.

You get to choose what you think!!

Thoughts can be changed and conformed to our advantage, and with this awareness we can develop the right attitude and the mindset needed to succeed at anything we want.

You now you know… you can direct your thoughts at will. All of a sudden the clichéd phrase Success is a MindSet makes perfect sense. Doesn’t it?

“What lies behind us, and what lies before us
are tiny matters, compared to what lies within us.”

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

OK, so success is a state of mind but… is that all we need to achieve goals in life?

Many people still claim that more than mindset, success is only the natural result of proper planning, actual preparation, and focused, relentless action.

This is actually true, but there are a number of exceptions that oppose this common belief. If you have ever wondered why two people with the exact same circumstances and with similar goals don’t get the same results, you know that there must be something less obvious that contributed to the success of one and the failure of the other.

Do you believe it has to do with resolve or determination, or maybe with timing or mere luck? It is true that many elements play a part in it; however, more often than not, the main factor is what is going on inside their head. Adopting a success mindset is the determining factor which makes a world of difference between success and failure, regardless of other circumstances. What’s more, some people will achieve success even though the circumstances seem to be all against them.

Keep on reading the next section by clicking on the link below. You’ll get to discover the MUST haves to develop a success mindset.

Click here to read The Success Mind Set Fundamentals

Akashic Records

Learn to Read

The Akashic Records

It’s been said that knowledge is power, and in the case of the Akashic Records, I couldn’t agree more… Imagine having a library of unlimited information at your disposal, documented information that contains everything that has happened or will ever happen in the whole history of human kind… what will you do with that information?

Getting secrets to re-establish your health? Attain resources to gain financial stability for yourself and your family? Getting feedback on a particular issue that can save an endangered species? Learning the reason behind a great mystery of the past? Preventing a future pandemic? Attract favorable situations to your life experience based on what you learn from your ancestors?

Truly… What would you do with such an unlimited power?

I first learned about the Akashic Records back in 2002, when I read the Biography of Edgar Cayce, a renowned American psychic who had the special ability to get information through a state of altered consciousness. This ability enabled him to download -allegedly from The Records- answers to specific questions to help people in a variety of situations, especially health related issues. Needless to say, I found it fascinating; however, I could not find too many details on the Akashic Records back then.

A few years later, I came across a different manuscript that not only mentioned the Records, but shared more detail about them. I learned that the term Akashic derives from a Sanskrit word, Akasha, which means “boundless time and space”. Akasha translates literally into ether, a substance that Wallace D. Wattles referred to as the ‘Formless Stuff‘ or ‘Original Substance‘ from which the Universe was made of –but not all of it was used in forming the Universe. The spaces within, from and in between the things of the visible matter are also permeated with this ‘stuff’, making it the raw material of everything, everywhere… (ref. The Science of Getting Rich, chapter 3, 1910)

Thus, the Akashic Records are a component of this ether; they are just in the unseen; in that part of the invisible Universe that is all around us. In these Records, every single thing that has happened and will happen has been documented, just like a mega history book that encompasses ALL times.

The Akashic Records can be described as a mega computer or huge file cabinet where every thought, emotion, intention, and action ever experienced by human kind has been documented.

Other names for Akashic Records are ‘The Book of Life‘ or ‘Heavenly Library‘. By these names we can determine that these Records have a powerful influence over the present day. Deeds, emotions and events that occurred in the past have a large connection with the ‘hows’ and the ‘whys’ of the present time.

In other words, the present is a consequence of the past; and the information within is totally unbiased, matter-of-fact, and non-judgmental. What we have done in the past, has been recorded and has become a compass that determines the probabilities of whatever we attract into our present time. This goes beyond individuality, as it affects us all as the human race.

From the Akashic Records emerge myths, beliefs, symbols and the well known archetypes of Carl Jung. Jungian Archetypes –as they are called- are “ancient or archaic images that derive from the collective unconscious”; the innate universal psychic predispositions common to all human kind.

This is not to be confused with intuition or instinct. Jung believed that instinct is “an unconscious physical impulse toward actions while the archetype is the psychic counterpart”. Once we are in-the-know, it becomes quite obvious that without these Records, human evolution –and survival- would not have happened and could not had been  possible… to this day.

It is also said that the Akashic Records are part of the Universal Mind. So when you learn to access them, it is like getting loving guidance from the One for the future. Moreover, when these records are combined with the four elements (earth, air, fire and water), they symbolize the five human senses: smell, sight, hearing, touch and taste.

Many psychics have talked about the Akashic Records. One of them was Helena Blavatsky, a Russian psychic (1831 to 1891), who described the Records as “the very core or essence of all types of energy, whether it be physical energy, psychic energy or even spiritual energy“. According to her, the very seeds of creation are within the Akashic Records, which are activated by the will of the Divine Spirit.

So… how can you benefit from this knowledge?

The Akashic Records are about absolute TRUTH, and as such they are meant to be explored. They can provide you with insight on your past, present, and future. Once you have access to every thought, feeling, and experience of human kind throughout limitless time, you can work on recreating your own life experiences.

For instance, if you feel you could have a block that is preventing you from achieving success, you could look into the cause of this block it in your past.

From this ‘knowing‘ you can get a better understanding of the block and know what to do to set yourself free from fear of failure or fear of success.

Here’s another example… If you find yourself picking the wrong person for a romantic relationship time and again, you can learn the reason behind that behavior and from that point, you can let go of the past experience that has you stuck in order to start facilitating meetings of possible right partners for you.

In this manner, the Akashic Records can become your book of answers. Once you learn to ask ‘why‘ you’ll find the answers by reading the Records.

The Akashic Records are THE origin of and for everything. They are a trusted source for truth. Just as Edgar Cayce used to read them, we can learn to access these records through states of altered consciousness, such as hypnosis. You don’t have to be a psychic or have special abilities to access, read and learn from the Akashic Records!

The possibilities are limitless… think about it! Imagine being able to peek into time -past and future- and see everything that has ever happened in the Universe. Picture being able to get reasons and explanations to mysteries of human history, or to get the understanding behind a profound event that altered history and even your own life… Imagine that!!

It is like becoming ONE with the Universe! Once you know how to access this power, every single thought, idea, event or intention that has ever existed will be at your fingertips for you to improve upon yourself and the world at large.

Would you like to learn how to access the Akashic Records?

Click on the image below and follow me down the rabbit hole…

 

Remote Viewing

Remote Viewing

and Remote Influencing

 

Time travel, artificial intelligence, teleportation and mind reading have fired the imagination of numerous science fiction authors since the early part of the 19th century, when –according to many- the very first science fiction novel was written. Can you guess it? None less than Frankenstein by Mary Wollstonecraft Shelley!

By the mid-nineteenth century, para-psychological research intended to explain paranormal phenomena like telepathy, telekinesis and other ESP, but because these activities could not be replicated or understood in terms of known scientific principles, they were regarded as weird, abnormal and even uncanny, and eventually got discarded by the general public as non-sense pseudoscience.

However, with science making significant advances in recent years – especially in the field of quantum mechanics and quantum physics, mounting evidence appears to support the existence of a world that is imperceptible by the five senses, where the seemingly impossible can be possible, and where the unlimited power of the human mind is becoming more evident than ever.

Thus, even though parapsychologists have long accepted the fact that thoughts and ideas cannot be passed from one mind to another directly, they believe that telepathy –as well as other paranormal activities, are not only real but at work in most of us at any given time (if you have ever thought of a friend or relative that you have not heard of in a long time and then received a phone call from them ‘out of the blue’, you have experienced this first hand.) More importantly, parapsychologists believe that it is just a matter of time for human beings to get control of brain’s abilities.

To support this, neuroscientists are becoming more agreeable to the fact that there is more science than fiction in these precepts as they keep on researching and discovering that there is more than meets the eye. Will this be the marriage between science and fiction? Only time will tell, but for now, let’s explore something very exciting and available to all of us, right now…

Remove Viewing and Remote Influencing

When I first heard about RV and RI, I thought it was a term coined after an Isaac Asimov’s novel, but once I looked into it, I found a handful of fascinating facts.

Remote viewing refers to the ability to see without using our eyes with the purpose of acquiring information from an object or scene at a distance. This is done using the power of the mind, bypassing the sense of sight and allowing the mind to perceive and ‘see‘ regardless of space and time.

This process was first tested and used by the U.S. Federal Government. The goal of the “Stargate Project” –as it was coined- was to determine the potential of this psychic phenomenon for use in military applications. Unfortunately, the project was discarded in 1995, stating “lack of documented evidence.

As I kept reading, I came across Gerald O’Donnell, President and Founder of ARVARI, the Academy of Remote Viewing and Remote Influencing. Mr. O’Donnell, is an Hypnotherapist, who also holds MBA, Mathematics B.Sc. and Computer Science M.Sc. degrees.

His expertise in remote viewing earned him recognition as one of the world’s top technical commodities expert by Paine Webber and Bache Co. and back in the 80’s he was approached by a European Intelligence Agency to set up an experimental program on mental espionage.

It was during his work that he discovered that by using specific mental techniques, he was able to conquer time and space as stipulated in the non-locality theorem of quantum physics, which allowed him “to experience the perceived past and the probable future.

With this realization, Mr. O’Donnell decided to retire from the Intelligence Community and made it his mission to teach these principles to individuals for their personal growth, as well as on a global scale, with the intention to create healthier realities and a better world overall.

The techniques that he has developed and teaches to his students prove that limitations are a perception of the mind; thus, there are no limitations but only those we impose on ourselves. Gerald O’Donnell shows us that the path to live a happier existence is available to all of us. The only requirement is to learn to use our mind to our advantage and in the benefit of all. Fascinating, don’t you think?

Now the question is… what would you do if you could not only ‘see’ at a distance, regardless of time and space, but were able toinfluence‘ your future? Impossible, you say?

I invite you to further explore this possibility, and to learn more about Gerald O’Donnell and his work by visiting his virtual Academy site, ARVARI. Prepare to get your mind opened to the possibilities and then, you can draw your own conclusions…


 

Love Yourself

Love Yourself

… and Transform Your Life!

We live in an amazing world, filled with abundance that manifests in so many forms; one of them being the individuality that makes each one of us uniquely valuable and beautiful in a very special way.

Unfortunately, many people fail to recognize their amazing abilities, talents, and characteristics, as they spend hours and days comparing themselves to others that are seemingly more intelligent, more beautiful, more attractive, slimmer, taller, richer, stronger, younger, and the like.

All of these comparisons lead to self-criticism and feelings of inadequacy which are only reinforced by what the media says we should look and feel like; and to achieve that, we need to get this or that gadget, lotion or potion, of course.

To add insult to injury, many harbor the belief that loving oneself is narcisistic; an act of selfishness based on ego, detachment, and self-indulgence. This is due to the cultures and traditions that many of us were raised into. These cutures do not teach, promote or support self-love as a part of growing up wth a healthy self-esteem. Actually, some take it a bit further. They judge people that talk openly about their talents or that put themselves first, because that is what they learned to do as they grew up.

Despite this all, we know inherently that self-love is an essential part of a healthy psyque and a well-rounded individual. Self-love is extremely important as the central point to a well balanced life, yet many people don’t even know how to love themselves in a way that doesn’t nurture any of those undesirable adjectives listed above. The good news is that like anything else, you can learn to love yourself without feeling selfish or ‘out-of-place.’

First, become aware of the feelings you have been harboring about self-love as a result of the way you were brought up. To do this, think of the way you feel when you receive a compliment about a talent you have or a job well done. Do you feel uncomfotable? Shy or inadequate, perhaps? If so, this may reveal the block you have toward accepting and loving yourself.

As you think of this, realize that you cannot give something that you don’t have, and that applies to love as well. In other words, you cannot truly love others if you don’t love yourself first. On the contrary, when you don’t love yourself you become needy and you tend to look for love ‘out there‘ to fill the emptiness. Each one of us wants to be loved. Love is, after all, a human basic need and the true power that moves the world.

However, seeking love from a needy stance is a risky proposition because you may end up accepting love from people who do not have your best interest at heart. This is not genuine love and it will not last long. This kind of situation eventually leaves you feeling isolated, sad, and even depressed.

Secondly, realize that you are not perfect, nobody is. I know you know this; however, it is important to acknowledge this and bring it to awareness because from this perspective, you will not expect perfection from yourself.

Also, once you get to this point, it will be easier to learn to love yourself with respect and unconditional acceptance. Know that in spite of your flaws and imperfections, you are entitled to and worthy of love, and the first love you deserve is from yourself.

This does not mean that you will settle in your old ways. Personal growth lays its foundation in self-respect, self-recognition, and self-love. From that stand, you will be seeking improvement in whatever area you want to better yourself at.

Lastly, I suggest you make a list of the things that you love about yourself. Don’t be shy. You know your talents and abilities. Then, dedicate some time to read and re-read them often, and learn to value yourself as much as you deserve it. Don’t let yourself down. Learn to be your best friend by supporting and applauding the successes you’ve had because of your individual traits and talents.

Benefits of Self-Love

Once you learn to love yourself you will get a feeling of permanent contentment and satisfaction. Your self-esteem improves and you become more self-reliant because you don’t need the validation of others or ask their permission to do anything. You don’t need approval to be who you are and pursue your dreams on your own terms. You don’t have to be a ‘people pleaser‘ either, and you can certainly can say ‘no’ without feeling guilty when you authentically cannot help someone.

Love has so many different connotations. Learning to feel love for yourself is the foundation behind living an emotionally and spiritually sound life with the potential for many successes. There is much potential, talent, ability and drive within you to do great things – you just need to start loving yourself and give yourself the opportunity to try whatever you want to try.

When you love yourself you put out your abilities which translates into doing your best at any given task. You embrace the fact that you deserve just as much happiness and success as anyone else. You will also open the gates to receive much love as well, for genuine, true love is reciprocal at best.

In closing, some of us may still need help to break those cultural blocks we were discussing earlier. If this is your case, I suggest you give EFT (Tapping) a try. This amazing technique is easy to learn and implement in just a few minutes. It can be done by anyone and in any place. This technique is very powerful to help you overcome all sorts of challenges. As a matter of fact, the statements you will be using regularly when you practice Tapping start with “Even though (fill in the blank with the situation you want to change)___________ I completely love and accept myself.”

When you think about it, loving and accepting yourself regardless of circumstances plays a major part of EFT’s success. No wonder it works!  Give it a try and prepare to be amazed!



Love yourself and witness a complete transformation in every area of your life!

 

 

Tips To Be Happier

Tips To Be Happier

All of us have difficult days every now and then, days in which we wish we were feeling more positive to endure the complexities of life. We may try to convince ourselves that these things happen in life, that it’s no big deal, and that this soon ‘shall pass.’ While these thoughts are positive in nature and even a bit encouraging, they may not be enough to get us into a better state of mind. Truth is, it may not be as easy as it sounds.

Have you experienced something like this yourself? If you feel stuck in your own emotional loopholes when the going gets rough, and if you find that feeling happier is a struggle sometimes, these “Seven Tips To Be Happier” will help you lift your mood in no time at all, so you can feel happy NOW

  • Take a walk
     
    Most of us know that taking a short daily walk is a wonderful form of physical exercise. And when we are feeling down it is also beneficial for our inner state. So, if you feel overwhelmed or if things are not going your way, take a walk in a natural location where you can admire plants, birds and yes, even butterflies.
     
    Take deep breaths and feel your lungs expand with fresh air. Make it a point to focus in the beauty of nature and smile. Forget about your problem for a few minutes. You will not only feel more relaxed and happier, but will look at your situation from a different angle when you return to it.
  • Listen to beautiful music
     
    Research has proven that music is a great tool to shift the listener’s state of being within moments. Its effects can be almost magical.When you feel blue, dig out that CD you haven’t listened to in years or tune in your favorite radio station to something you have not listened to in awhile, or even something totally new. If stress is getting the best out of you, classical music may be helpful as well. Vivaldi tones are known to improve mood and overall well-being.

    You may want to jump to the bottom of this page, and push play before you keep on reading this article so you can experience Vivaldi’s Four Seasons for a few moments of bliss… 🙂

  • Be open to discover and explore something new
     
    Go to a library and read something different than what you’d normally read. Go to a bookstore and browse through the magazine section. What catches your eye? Buy a magazine you wouldn’t normally buy. This will help you open your mind to learning a new thing or two, and/or feel the enthusiasm of discovering a wonderful activity or new hobby.
  • Laugh out loud!
     
    Laughter is the best medicine. We’ve all heard this phrase and it is true! Laughter is one of the best ways to lift your spirits and it is free.Read a humorous book, or watch a comedy. Allow yourself to laugh big! Try to learn a few new jokes to share with others. And don’t take life too seriously. We’ve all been silly at times. We’ve all goofed off some other times. It’s totally OK to learn to laugh at ourselves too!
  • Learn to breathe and meditate
     
    Breathing-meditation is a great exercise that you can do anywhere for just a few minutes and it has wonderful side effects. Simply look for a place where you won’t be disturbed, and sit comfortably with your back straight. Then, close your eyes and place your attention on the flow of air going in and out of your nostrils and follow it all the way to your lungs. Do this slowly.
     
    Relax and smile as you do it. For better results, add an imaginary color to the air that goes in and out. Choose a bright color going in, and a darker color going out. Associate colors with your mood; i.e. pink for happy, brown for unhappy. Breathe happiness in and let go of unhappiness. That’s all there is to it. When you do this for 10 to 15 minutes, you will be pleasantly surprised at how you will feel afterward!
  • Drawing for fun
     
    Do you remember when you used to scribble for hours as a child? We all loved drawing silly little pictures when we were younger. And doodling is not just for kids or artists, so go get a few pens, color pencils, crayons or whatever you have and just draw whatever comes to you for the fun of it. Notice how you get distracted as your state of mind shifts. On a stressful day, this can be therapeutic!
  • Acknowledge the less fortunate
     
    The fact that you are reading this article and have access to the web suggests that most likely you are much better off than most people on this planet. It may be hard to believe, but those two things alone mean that you are better off than most people in the world.
     
    Unfortunately, many human beings live in poverty and barely have access to the basics for survival. There are many people who live in pain, hunger and despair. When you give yourself a few moments to feel compassion for them, you’ll get a warm feeling of gratefulness and happiness for what you have in your life.


 
These seven simple tips are nothing profound, new or life changing, but when all you need is a quick pick me up these may be just what you need.

Want more quick “pick me up” moments? Watch these two mini movies titled Finding Joy can be Simple and Laughter is an Instant Vacation. They will warm your heart and make you smile!

In conclusion, when you put simple ideas, methods, tools and techniques into action you will be helping yourself into living happily, much quicker than you imagine.

The Four Seasons
by Antonio L. Vivaldi

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The Pursuit of Happiness

The Pursuit of 

Happiness

Regardless of your profession or career path, your culture or language, your age or where you live in this vast planet, the pursuit of happiness is one common goal to all of us, human beings. Every time we have a dream, set a goal, pray, or wish for something, the underlying emotion we are seeking is happiness. When we have an experience that causes pleasure or has meaning to us, we bring about a positive feeling that translates into joy.

According to the dictionary, happiness is a state of mind or feeling characterized by contentment, satisfaction, pleasure, or joy. One definition I found at a Princeton University website says that happiness is a state of well-being characterized by emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy.

I believe happiness can be compared to an elusive butterfly going from one flower to another in the garden of life. Let’s use this analogy and imagine a young child walking in the park on a sunny day.

The child sees a colorful butterfly and with eyes of wonder follows its flying pattern. Curiosity makes him want to get close, touch it and even hold it in his little hands.

The child walks with his arms stretched out towards the flower where the butterfly is resting on, but as soon as he gets within reach, the butterfly takes off to land on another flower.

Determined, the child follows the butterfly to the next flower, and then the next, and the next… but no matter how much he chases it, the butterfly always remains out of his reach.

As adults, happiness can seem like a butterfly, always a few steps away… over there… out of our reach. To some, it may become an obsession. They believe that if only… this or that would happen they’d be truly happy. Their minds are caught up in the ‘if only’ mode continuously…. If only I had more money, a better job or my own business… if only I was in a great relationship, if my partner was more loving or my child was a better student… if only I could have the SUV I’ve been dreaming about, live in a bigger home or travel to Hawaii for a week or two… then, I’d be happy.

Even if they were to achieve one of their ‘if only’ desires, the bliss would be temporary. They would sooner or later get accustomed to what they got, and start feeling unhappy because they don’t have –or they want- something else. This feeling gives birth to the next ‘if only’ desire perpetually. Do you know anyone like this?

See, when you go through life feeling blue most of the time, you tend to believe that external events, things, or circumstances you want will give you the happiness you are seeking when these things happen. However, let’s realize that material possessions, circumstances, and events will just bring short-term happiness. These things will never have a lasting effect in your life even if you get to keep them for a while.

Just like the saying goes… “The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence”, if you base your happiness on things, you’ll always be chasing happiness based on things out there, “on the other side of the fence.” Subsequently, your focus and perception are always based on outer events, which will harbor feelings of dissatisfaction, discouragement and unhappiness in your heart and life experience as a whole.

Every human experience encompasses a mixture of pleasant and unpleasant circumstances. Because of this, no one should rely on experiences as a source of happiness unless they want to live in constant turmoil or experience the eroding ups and downs of an emotional roller coaster ride.

If what you want is true, long-lasting happiness, you must become aware of the fact that living happy is a state of  being, not a state of having.

Happiness is an inner condition that can be attained by all who truly desire to live in happiness most of the time. Yes, I say ‘most of the time‘ because certain unavoidable life events will bring sadness, that’s just a part of life. However, if your normal state is that of happiness, sadness will be temporary as you will recover faster from sorrow or despair.

There is no gene that determines who’ll be happy and who won’t. You and I are capable of becoming happy people and living happy lives IF we understand that happiness is never related to the world out there, but to the world within.

The inner contentment that allows you to navigate through the ups and downs of life has its roots deep within your being. Thus, the only true source of happiness comes from finding and embracing who you are as a person, and from there you can live a happy life overall. Finding peace in every aspect of your life is also important… the physical, the mental, the emotional and the spiritual.

Once you accept yourself ‘as you are’ and find peace in all of these areas, you get a sense of completeness in life; and the result is a flowing state of happiness.

If you neglect any one of these areas, you’ll experience a sense of emptiness. You may not be able to identify this nagging feeling right away. It just feels like something is missing. If this happens, it will be hard to get a solid foundation for building permanent happiness within. Like I mentioned above, many will try to fill this incompleteness by looking for outer stuff, such as the cars, the trips, the things.

This is the reason why falling into the elusive butterfly syndrome is quite common for so many people. They may get what they want and feel happy for awhile, only to discover later on that they’re feeling empty all over again. The feeling of frustration lingers and the cycle repeats itself once and again, unless they learn the secret to being happy despite life’s circumstances which starts with working on their inner self.

So… is happiness an elusive butterfly for you? If so, spend some time in quiet reflection. Ask yourself how you’re doing in regard to the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual aspects of your being. If you notice that you are neglecting one of these four important elements of your being,  you’ll know why you are experiencing a sense of emptiness within. This is a good starting point that gives you direction to modify or improve your life experience.

Remember, it is perfectly fine to desire more and get some things to make your life easier, more comfortable or pleasant, but do not confuse the euphoric feeling of getting things with real happiness.  Enjoy the fruit of your labor. You deserve it. But, do not let the object possess your happiness, ever.

The more you experience happiness as an inner job, the more often you will experience the butterfly of happiness landing on your shoulder.

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Wealth Consciousness

Wealth Consciousness

The Meaning of Money

Life has an interesting way of giving back to us what we put out. It always seems that the kind of energy we radiate as we go through our day to day activities, inherently impacts the results we get from our relationships, business ventures and personal undertakings.

Some call this Karma. Others call it Sowing and Reaping, the Law of Cause and Effect, or the Law of Attraction. Whatever title you give to this, the meaning is the same. You do X and receive Y… every single time.

This is especially true when we talk about making money. Many people wonder why they can’t seem to reap the financial rewards of their labor, even after sweating and toiling for several years.

The answer to this is the presence  of a certain lack that has nothing to do with money, but the lack of a proper mindset, that of  wealth consciousness.

Thus, regardless of how hard they work or for how many hours a day, they keep on attracting according to their ‘poverty’ mindset. They don’t realize that they are the cause and the lack is their effect. They get this automatically and as a result of an unconscious belief.

The truth of the matter is that until we understand the true meaning of money and wealth, and accept the fact that we are meant to live in abundance of all kinds, money being one of them, we will continue to be in the position to create just enough to survive! Here are a couple of premises for you to consider…

First, you must acknowledge that you are destined to live in wealth simply because you are a valuable and worthwhile individual. You are unique and as such you have significant and distinctive experiences, gifts and talents that you can share with the world. When you give of yourself to others you are entitled to wealth as you are contributing to the betterment of others and of the planet as a whole. Thus, the first thing is to work on acknowledging your self-worth and what you can offer to people, society and the world.

Then, you must break away from the belief that money is what makes you wealthy, when in reality it is just a symbol of exchange and just one of many representations of wealth. In other words, to be truly wealthy means much more than having lots of money. To better understand this, let’s take a look at the personal story of Gary Heavin, co-founder of the women-only gym, Curves International.

You may or may not know this but Gary Heavin lost all of his money and filed for bankruptcy only to recover and climb to the top again

Wonder why?

Aside from the fact that smart people learn from mistakes, the main point shouldn’t come as a surprise at all: Mr. Heavin never lost his wealth consciousness, he just lost his money… temporarily!

Now, let’s recognize that money is not everything in life. Money is just one expression of true wealth, and Gary Heavin’s story is just one example of this.

Realize that when you acquire a wealth consciousness you will never live in actual lack and limitation even when you encounter a few bumps on the road of your life, because you will have acquired the experience, and when combined with your self-confidence, and the proper mindset for wealth, you’ll be able to rectify the direction of your path and build material wealth yet again.

In short, wealth consciousness is a mindset, and one you can adopt with resolution if you want to change your living experience to that of abundance regardless of what life throws at you.  Here are three steps to help you build your wealth consciousness:

  • Explore the origin of your beliefs about money

We develop beliefs from our own experiences and from what we repeatedly see around us from birth. Once you know this, ask yourself…

What did I learn about money while growing up? Was it always a cause of friction at home? Did I hear “we can’t afford it” often? Was money frequently lacking? Was having money seen as non-spiritual? Was I reprimanded when I asked for money, with statements like “don’t you know that money doesn’t grow on trees”? What opinions of wealthy people do I remember hearing? What were some of the adjectives used in my home and around me when talking about the rich?

  • Discover your attitudes about money

Realize that your present views and attitudes about money derive from your beliefs, and these beliefs were created by your life’s experiences. Thus, to discover your beliefs about money, you must dedicate time to remember some passages of your childhood and answer the questions above. Once you remember, write down your answers, here are a few more for you…

Do I believe money is a cause of conflict? Do I link money to dishonest, arrogant, shallow and selfish people? Do I handle it as dirty stuff? Do I feel materialistic and non-spiritual when I think of accumulating money? Do I believe having money will change me in a negative way? Do I believe I will lose my friends as a result of having money?

Once you have these two sets of answers on paper, analyze how these lists relate to each otherYou are very likely to see a pattern in which your attitudes relate to what you experienced in the past. Now, let’s dissect them one by one and explore the real truth in every statement you wrote.

  • Decide to modify your beliefs

As soon as you become aware of your attitudes and beliefs as well as the underlying cause of them, you will be in the best position to determine what beliefs are not serving you any longer. Consider that beliefs are not true or false intrinsically. It is you who gives them value according to your experiences.

From this point of awareness it’ll be much easier to change any belief, because once you know, you cannot pretend you don’t know. For instance, if you have always believed that to have money you must work like a slave, realize that there are many people who are wealthy and just work a few hours per week while spending most of their time on vacation or pursuing hobbies.

You don’t need to know them personally; just acknowledge the fact that working like a slave has nothing to do with accumulating wealth. This will help you debunk your old belief, as now you have brought this fact to awareness.

There are several resources to help you understand the meaning of true wealth and help you get rid of blocks so you can transform limiting beliefs into empowering beliefs, and acquire a wealth consciousness. I’m going to recommend two that I have used with excellent results.

The first one is EFT, a technique that has been used successfully to heal and change a variety of conditions, including the clearing of energy blocks and limiting beliefs.

A remarkable EFT wealth consciousness creation technique, is described in Dr. Carol Look‘s Attracting Abundance with EFT book and MP3 audio package. This is a hands-on system, meaning you will get to practice as you learn, which is the most effective way to acquire a new skill.

Dr. Look, an EFT Practitioner, Energy Healer and Psychotherapist has identified the 40 most common subconscious limiting beliefs about money.

In her book she guides you to properly use EFT to create a wealth consciousness with over 60 different EFT Exercises including hundreds of statements that you can pick and choose from to release blocks or limiting beliefs that prevent you from receiving wealth and joy in your life.

She also makes it fun with 8 Abundance Games to help you raise your vibration. The “Yes” game and “Thank You” game are especially powerful. And if you learn better through audio, the MP3 will provide you with the guidance to tap correctly using her affirmations for a successful outcome.

My second recommendation is a book that explains beautifully and clearly the meaning of true wealth and how it relates to money. Written by David Cameron Gikandi, “A Happy Pocket Full of Money” clears the many of the misconceptions that most of us acquired while growing up.

Be prepared to engage fully in this reading (or listen to the MP3) as it is comprised of 234 pages of pure wealth knowledge that will definitely help you question, clarify and shift your beliefs about wealth and money.

I’d venture to say that “A Happy Pocket Full of Money” is very likely one of the best books on money ever written, and I highly recommend you get your copy and dedicate time to study the concepts within. Just click on the book’s image to the right and get David’s book or audio MP3.

For optimal results, I suggest you get both. David will teach you the concepts related to wealth consciousness and money in detail. In my opinion this is a must; much like Wealth 101 to open your eyes to the possibilities.

Then, Dr. Carol Look’s ebook and MP3 files will guide you into releasing blocks that may be affecting your abundance flow. You get to download these files right after your purchase so you can start learning how to attract money in just a couple of minutes! Dr. Look will guide you to generate your own wealth with simple but very powerful EFT techniques.

You’ve heard it a million times. Success starts with your state of mind. Invest in these two great resources that offer a powerful combination for the creation of your wealth consciousness!

 

 

Success Mindset Fundamentals

Success Mindset Fundamentals

Mindset is the term used to describe the predominant state of mind that a person has on a regular basis. I like to describe it as a day-to-day attitude that influences the outcome of our life experiences. While we all have ups and downs in life, it is what we think about, talk about, focus on, and expect, what sets our mindset in motion.

When we thinktalk and act from a positive standpoint, the natural result is the emergence of a success mindset – regardless of the task at hand.

In contrast, when we contemplate what can go wrong, we think negatively,  narrow our views and become pessimistic about our options. This leads to expectations of the worst -even if unconsciously- and that is exactly what we draw into our life experience. .. the worst possible scenarios.

Fortunately, mindset is malleable and it is based on choice -meaning, you can consciously decide to develop a success mindset by thinking positively and expecting the best on a regular basis.

Once you adopt this frame of mind, you put yourself in an advantageous position that propels you into action while anticipating and expecting a successful outcome. The rest falls into place and it is very likely you’ll end up getting your intended result. And even if you don’t succeed at first, you will take it positively, just as a lesson to learn from. You will have learned something that does not work, so you are closer to encounter what works.

Enlightening information, isn’t it? But… how does it work, precisely? How is it that a success mindset can translate into a world of difference regardless of the goal?

The following are three fundamentals that go hand in hand with a success mindset. Learn and apply them and you’ll be better able to determine if you will be successful at any given task even before you start working on it. How is that for getting in an advantageous position, or -like the saying goes- starting out on the right foot?

  • Mindset and Self-Confidence

When you lack belief in yourself and your capabilities, your self-esteem suffers. As a result, you get to feel helpless or even hopeless which makes you feel inadequate. When you doubt yourself, you see everything as pointless; you stop trying because you believe whatever you want to achieve won’t happen anyway. Obviously, this kind of mindset is a recipe for disaster, and one that must be addressed as soon as it is identified.

On the other hand, acquiring a real success mindset means you have a strong belief in yourself and your abilities. Even if you don’t know how to do a particular thing, this “Can Do” attitude will drive you to learn what you need in order to accomplish your goal.

Therefore, you must work on boosting your self-confidence so your attitude becomes that of a champion. From that point on, you’ll be willing to give anything your best shot. The best part is that the more you try, the more confident you become. And, the more confident you become, the more your self-esteem grows. This cycle can make you virtually unstoppable!

  • Mindset, Determination and Perseverance

Without a success mindset, one failure will be enough to convince you that pursuing any goal is a total waste of time. This is when determination and perseverance come into play.

Most of us won’t become a raving success the first time around, especially when the task at hand requires some sort of training or practice.

Thus, before discarding it as something impossible for you to do, acknowledge that very few things worth having or doing are achieved easily.

When you have a success mindset you become conscious of the fact that one failure is not the end of the story but just a way for you to learn what doesn’t work. In fact, when you embrace a success mindset you become aware of this truth: Failure just happens when you stop trying.

It is possible to improve your determination with thought and behavior modification tools. This type of conditioning is quite powerful as it reprograms the mind to become relentless and determined to succeed at anything.

  • Mindset and Action

Have you ever felt intimidated or inadequate because you didn’t know the best approach to a specific task? Even if you had a vague idea of the course of action, the actual action steps might have been unclear, and as a result you ended up procrastinating or self-sabotaging yourself as you hoped for an easier or less frightening way to attain your goal. Needless to say, this is the wrong mindset to embark in any endeavor.

On the contrary, when you have a true success mindset, a Can Do attitude, even when you don’t know all the right steps, you become proactive, you are determined to search and find the proper information, you are relentless until find the most effective action steps that will lead directly to your goal… you are unstoppable!

When you add inner confidence, tenacity and persistence to the mix, you will have acquired a success mindset; a sure recipe for success!

One of the best descriptions of success ever, by none other than Earl Nightingale…
The Miracle of Your Mind… take the time to listen. It’s well worth your time, promise!