Job Interview

Successful Interviewing Tips to

Find the Job of Your Dreams!

You can call it anything you want… “laid off,” “let go” or “downsized”… at the end, it all means the same. What matters the most is the emotional turmoil that goes through a person’s mind once the news sinks in, from self-esteem to relationships to actually being able to pay the bills, the enormous burden can be felt in every area of life.

I don’t have to tell you about statistics. We are all quite familiar with the common challenges and the problematic times we are facing worldwide. But…. if you have lost your job, I’m going to ask you to read this article as you may find a couple of bits of useful information to use in your next job interview. So, step back for a little bit, and try to see things from a different perspective.

Re-focus your mind even if for a few minutes and allow yourself to see this experience as a blessing in disguise; as a time to re-evaluate your talents and finally have the opportunity to be, do and have whatever you want in your life. The Internet is filled with countless stories of people who thought everything was lost when they got laid off, only to discover that it was the best thing that happened to them a few weeks or months down the road.

In other words, now is the time to get courageous, go out, get a job interview, or step up to start a new and exciting career. Luckily for us these days, becoming an entrepreneur not as difficult as it once was!

You literally have thousands of resources at your fingertips to help you land a job interview for the job of your dreams, and if you are willing (or able) to relocate, your options are multiplied. Besides the common sources such as the local papers (especially weekend editions), your local library and the multiple employment search engines in the Internet, you may want to consider hiring a Head Hunter to help you get job interviews that match your talents, education, and goals. Networking groups, the gym and even your friends are good sources too. Don’t be afraid to reach out in a big way!

Not sure what you want to do or how you can take your experience into a new career or business venture? You may want to consider hiring a Life Coach to help you explore your options. What I want to convey here is that regardless of how terrible the horizon looks at this time, there are always better days ahead. Trust me on this.

I realize how frightening this situation can be (I have been in your shoes myself!), especially if you had been employed at the same place for several years. Hitting the job market again can be intimidating, for sure! So, I’m going to take you through the basic points so soon enough, you can land the job of your dreams.

Your Resume

Once you’ve found a job that you are interested in, it’s time to update and submit your resume with the goal of getting called for a job interview.

This first step may seem like a huge task, especially if you had been employed for a long time before you were let go. Thus, remember that your resume is the first item to represent you and sell you to a potential employer even before you meet face to face. It should reflect who you are in an extremely positive light. It should make you stand out among other applicants and urge the person in charge of hiring to want to call you first!

Also know that a resume should not be a “one-size-fits-all” kind of deal. In other words, you should plan to modify your resume and cover letter (more on this in a bit) according to the specific position you are applying to. There are plenty of sites and services to help you create a winning resume. A comprehensive search and dedicated time will get you writing your resume profesionally and relatively fast. You may also consider hiring a professional resume writer.

Your Cover Letter

In most cases, you will also need a cover letter to accompany your resume. In general, the cover letter should be as concise and to the point as possible. Don’t ramble on and on, let your resume do the talking. The cover letter is just a basic introduction to your resume where you can include your main qualities that make you the perfect candidate for the position you are applying for. Above it all, use very positive language and be concise. Some experts recommend using bullet points. I believe it is a good idea as it draws attention to your main talents first.

If you don’t have a specific person to address the letter to, you should address it to “Ladies and Gentlemen”. DO NOT address it to “To Whom It May Concern”. That is considered unprofessional and very non-businesslike.

Just as with the resume, you should match your cover letter to the specific position you are applying for. Think about your talents and experience and match them to the specifics of the position. Be truthful and always proofread extensively to make sure that there are no typographical errors and that your punctuation and grammar is all correct.

Preparing for the Job Interview

A good, solid resume and cover letter will get you a job interview. At that point, you’ll be given the opportunity to shine and stand out from other applicants. And… how do you do that? Preparation is key in the process. Being prepared for a job interview includes two main points: knowing about the industry and your prospective employer, and knowing yourself. It means paying attention to details like personal appearance, punctuality, and demeanor. And it means feeling confident about your interviewing skills. Do your homework and be prepared!

You may want to prepare by thinking of a couple of instances where you handled difficult situations successfully. They may ask you this. Also, make a list some of your attributes, and have those present in your mind to answer specific questions. Talk to former co-workers with whom you worked closely. Ask them to list some work related traits about you that they most admired. While you are at it, ask them if you can list them as references.

Try to find some faults as well just in case they come up as questions. By studying your faults, you will be able to choose one that is somewhat innocuous and turn it around into a positive. For example, if you are obsessively organized, this could be presented as a fault but most employers look at organizational skills as assets not liabilities. So in an interview, I would tell them “one of my shortcomings was that I wanted to be too organized.”

Practice how you will answer possible questions during your job interview. You want to be perceived somewhat spontaneous, but you also want to appear self-confident and professional. The way to do that is to rehearse, not exactly what you will say, but how you will say it. This will increase your confidence tremendously.

A great method is to rehearse in front of a mirror. Study your posture, the way you make eye contact, the tone of your voice, and your body language. Ask a friend to do pretend interviews with you. The more you repeat a scenario, the more comfortable you will begin to feel with it.

What To Wear

First, you must dress properly. Generally speaking, it’s a good idea to wear a suit for a job interview or a classy dress if you are a woman. Go with something simple, in a neutral tone. The more conservative your field, the more conservative your suit should be.

It’s also a good idea to match your interview attire to the prospective job. If you are applying for a job working on a warehouse floor, you will look out of place wearing a formal suit. Keeping that in mind, dress a little better than you would for a day at work and make sure your clothes are neat and clean. A good, classic style and cut for a suit is a good choice since it’s appropriate for many situations. Do not wear jeans unless the job you are applying calls for it.

In all instances, wear closed-toe shoes. Sandals are never appropriate for a job interview. And, of course… sneakers are not appropriate either.

If you are a woman, don’t wear an excessive amount of jewelry or makeup. You want to make a good impression at your job interview without distractions and just with your personality and qualifications. If you have long hair, it’s better to wear it up.

You’ll want to bring an extra copy of your resume along with your reference sheet. Leave the backpack at home. A woman can carry a small to medium sized handbag. A man can carry a briefcase if he wishes. A folder or a portfolio are good options as well.

The Job Interview

Once at the interview, you are going to be asked many questions by your potential employer. They will ask about you, your education and past experience. In particular, they’ll want to know about your strengths and weaknesses, and what you did to problem solve when a difficult situation occurred. If you prepared as suggested above, you’ll do great!

Speak slowly and clearly. Pause before you answer a question. Your answers will seem less rehearsed and it will give you a chance to collect your thoughts. Keep in mind that a very brief pause may seem like an eternity to you but it is not.

Since the interviewer’s job is to make sure that not only your skills, but that your personality is a good match as well, you must establish rapport with the person interviewing you. That begins the instant you walk in the door. Let the interviewer set the tone. For example, if the interviewer is speaking softly, so should you.

It’s alright for you to show your true personality, but be careful not to go over-board. Humor may help relax both, you and the person doing the job interview and may help you communicate much easier; but… use caution with humor and never joke about race, politics, faith or anything of that nature.

As you may know, body language gives more away about us than speech. Eye contact is very important but make sure it looks natural. A smiling, relaxed face is very inviting. Hands resting casually in your lap rather than arms folded across your chest also is more inviting. If you normally move your hands around a lot when you speak, tone it down a bit. You don’t want to look too stiff, but you don’t want to look like you’re a bundle of nervous energy.

After The Interview

After the interview, it is essential to follow up with a “Thank You” note. This serves two purposes. First, it tells the employer that you are grateful for their time and the opportunity to inverview. You want to do the polite thing by sending out a note thanking them for that. Also, a thank you note brings you back to mind which can be good if they are close to making a decision on who to hire.

And then, you are done with your part. It is now waiting time. You may get a call for a second interview or you will get a call to discuss salary and starting day. Congratulations!

If you are not chosen for the job, you may want to make a phone call to the person who interviewed you and ask why you weren’t chosen for the position.

Simply explain to the interviewer that you are looking for ways to improve yourself for your next job interview and would appreciate his/her input.

Above it all, do not despair. You may have to go through several job interviews until you land the job of your dreams. You may also find yourself yearning to turn a beloved hobby into a business. Many people have done this. Like them, you can Become A Successful Entrepreneur and realize great success. Remember… it is YOUR life and YOUR time to decide what to do… feeling fulfilled will allow you to live a happier life. Isn’t this what life is all about?

Sleep Learning

Sleep Learning

Facts and Myths

Sleep learning is a technique that helps you harness the power of your subconscious while you sleep. When practiced, it facilitates the learning of new skills, foreign languages, new concepts, and several other self-help  improvements that you may want to implement on a particular area of your life.

Sleep learning -also called hypnopaedia– is not a new concept. In fact, it dates back to the 1930’s and it became more known after Aldous Huxley’s 1932 novel titled “Brave New World“, a fictional story of a Polish boy that was able to recite an entire radio broadcast in perfect English after a radio receiver had been left on during his sleep.

Novels aside, sleep learning has been highly debated and associated with ambiguity mainly because there have been conflicting theories about it. So the question remains… is it really possible to absorb information as you sleep? Can you truly learn new concepts, enhance your memory and learn by utilizing your mind’s full potential… all while you sleep?

Between 1955 and 1968, several studies indicated that it is very possible to learn during sleep when these 3 factors are in place:

  • The suggestions are aligned with the intention to reach a certain goal. This can be done successfully through subliminal messages.
  • The suggestions are received at the right time; during the REM sleep episodes of wakefulness that occur throughout the night or during alpha wave activity (alpha patterns are a normal part of REM sleep, they induce a semi-arousal period offering an optimal opportunity for learning), and…
  • The individual fully agrees with the suggestions and intention to participate.

Because of this findings, it was determined that hypnopaedia can be successfully used as a secondary learning method that supports daytime learning. It also seems to increase the speed of learning during daytime hours, a very useful skill for High School students and working adults alike.

In more recent studies, sleep has been associated with learning and memory enhancementSleep learning seems to hook procedural memories, which aid in learning new skills. It is thanks to procedural memories that you can master a tune on the piano, a chess strategy or a video game.

Thus, the answer is… yes, sleep learning is not only possible, but very helpful; however, there are some myths that need debunking before we proceed.

Here are the two main misguided beliefs about subliminal sleep learning

  • It won’t introduce knowledge directly. It won’t work by implanting information and facts into your brain like if it was a tape recorder. In other words, don’t expect to wake up speaking French if you have never studied it before. Conscious learning must take place during waking hours for sleep learning to work as an enhancer. Only then, it will help you take in data easier and faster.
  • It doesn’t work overnight or immediately. Like many other things that must be learned, practice makes perfect. It is a process in which the message sinks into your brain slowly as you listen often. With each session you become more sharp-witted and focused as your ability to learn starts improving until you absorb information quicker and more naturally.

The Benefits of Subliminal Sleep Learning

So now you know it. Sleep learning is not magical, mysterious or miraculous, and it’s certainly not instantaneous either.

However, more people are using it successfully as they learn about it. There are many reasons why it may be a good idea to engage in this kind of learning. Here are a few of them:

  • It is 100% non invasive. When used as indicated, the messages sink into your mind effortlessly while you sleep. This makes it easy to use where no additional action is needed from you. This is attractive for many as their lifestyle and routine doesn’t have to change. You can play the album at night and won’t interfere with your normal daytime activities.
  • You will experience gradual transformation, and it will support the actions you take.
  • It will facilitate congruence between your subconscious and your conscious minds, so you go about your actions in a way that is conducive to the achievement of your goals. You will be tapping into more of your natural abilities through your right brain and your left brain.
  • Sleep Learning can provide you with a short cut to learn almost anything. More importantly, it offers a way to enhance your self-development in nearly every imaginable way.

One more reason that subliminal messages for sleep learning are becoming more popular is because they are a form of mild hypnosis in which entering trance is not needed to achieve results. When using long term, these messages create important improvements to your subconscious mind and considerably improve your ability to learn. This is not to say that hypnosis does not work or is more complicated. One technique may work better for some people than others.

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One case that I recently heard of, is that of a student in Budapest, Hungary, who wanted to learn English quickly so he could participate and win a BBC contest. He decided to use the sleep learning technique and was able to memorize 1026 English words in six weeks during his sleep while just reviewing the information during the day. And… He won the first prize!

There are many stories like this conducted all over the world with great success. Imagine what you could do to prepare for tests, pass exams, undertake a new career, prepare your public speaking engagements and presentations, and even for fun! 

 

 

Speed Reading

The Advantages and Rewards of 

Speed Reading

One of the main means for us to acquire knowledge is by reading. Since most of us are visual learners, reading is one of the most effective ways of feeding the mind with information to promote intelligent thinking, imagination, innovation and to expand our creative and intellectual edge as a whole.

An amazing fact about the human brain is that it can take in unlimited amounts of data. When you pair this with the natural appetite for knowledge that most of us have, you’ve got an awesome combination.

Since you are into Personal Growth and Self Improvement, it’s easy to assume you are fond of reading, and would love to read (and learn) more in less time. After all, with all the breakthroughs and incredible content available to us nowadays, we would need another lifetime just to learn and absorb all that we want to read!

Do you agree? If so, speed reading may be a powerful skill to acquire. In fact, this is a MUST for people that are required to read a lot in school or at work. Fortunately, the idea of attaining this skill has been widespread. I believe that this skill should be incorporated as part of the usual curriculum in schools. After all, we are living in the Information Age, and the amount of available data in all kinds of subject matters is not showing signs of slowing down anytime soon.

On the contrary, as information is being made mmore available, people from all walks of life take it upon themselves to pursue and attain a speed reading ability. Since you’ve landed on this page, most likely you are part of this group of people who recognize the importance and the advantages of acquiring this skill.

The good news is that a variety of programs exist today that allow you to learn to read extra fast without decreasing comprehension and while enhancing the retention of the information read. Some of these trainings can be quite pricey but fortunately, you do not actually have to spend hundreds of dollars to attain this talent.

Learning the basics is relatively easy- there’s almost no need for expert guidance. As with the learning of any new skill, all it takes is a good guide, the desire to learn and the commitment to practice it by yourself. As with anything else. repetition is key. It strengthens and solidifies the learning, so the more you practice it the better you get at it.

Here are a few steps on the basics of speed reading.

  • Get your vision checked

    First, let’s talk about the obvious. Poor vision can be a hindrance. It strains your eyes as you read, making them become easily fatigued. So, if you believe your vision is not at 20/20, visit your ophthalmologist or optometrist and get your eyes checked. You may need prescription glasses. This will also help you with increased focus and concentration when you are reading.
  • Consider the place in which you read

    Choose the right setting in which to read. If indoors, make sure the temperature is not too cold or too hot and that the area is well ventilated with fresh air. This will keep you from getting drowsy. Sit in a comfortable chair suited for reading. Your spine should be well aligned too. This alone will help make your reading more enjoyable. Also, make sure you always read in a well-lit area to prevent eye tiredness and damaging your vision; preferably with the shaft of light coming from your back (over your shoulder) and into the book.
  • Free yourself from distractions

    If studying, it may be a good idea to get rid of any music in the background, unless it is a classical piece by Mozart which can help with comprehension. A busy room may also be distracting. Also, if you read outdoors, avoid places that are too noisy, such as kids playing nearby or close to a busy street or park. It’s very important to minimize distractionsto enhance comprehension and retention.
  • Be aware of your reading time

    Use your watch or a clock to keep track of your reading pace. Make sure you take note of the time you start reading and the time you finish. This way you will be able to first, see how fast you read; and it’ll help you track your progress as you learn speed reading as well.
  • Get rid of fillers in the items that your read

    This is one of the first things people do when trying to improve their speed reading. Try to focus your attention on the words that play a major role in every sentence. You may also want to skip words and focus on the complete thought. This ability -known as skimming– involves searching the words within the sentences for clues to meaning. This comes naturally for some, but most people require learning how to ‘skim’ though the pages.
  • Speed over comprehension

    When you start at speed reading, concentrate on hastening your pace leaving comprehension for later. Try to read one page as fast as you can and then take a pause to assess what you understood. As you go about your day, try to remember what you read and evaluate your retention of information as well. With constant practice both, your comprehension and retention will sharpen by themselves.
  • Avoid re-reading

    Re-reading will make you waste more time making your reading actually slower. The key is to use a guide, such as your finger or a pointer when reading a sentence. The usage of guides is called meta guiding. This will facilitate your reading and will lessen the chances of having to re-read words or sentences.
  • Do not read out loud

    Sub-vocalization as it is called, can slow you down because you end up reading word per word. Aside from that, your own voice could also act as a distraction and affect your focus.
  • Practice

    As the cliché goes, “Practice Makes Perfect.” You’ll need desire to learn this skill and persistence to acquire it. By applying yourself to the task of learning you’ll eventually master speed reading.  Above it all, do not stress over it. It can affect your learning curve and get you frustrated. Do it gradually, keep it fun. Before you know it you’ll get a hang of speed reading.

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Public Speaking

Beginners Guide to

Public Speaking

Did you know that fear of public speaking ranks #2 among most people’s top dreads? Yes, it goes above and beyond fear of illness, fear of flying or heights, and even fear of terrorism, and death itself.

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Yes, it is amazing that most people rather die before standing on a podium to give a speech! And I know better, cause I’ve been in that position myself… I’m not saying that I wanted to die, just that it is one of the most uncomfortable situations I’ve been in, especially at the beginning of my public speaking career. I must tell you that it gets easier with time, but stage fright never goes away completely.

Speaking in front of a congregation or to a crowd may be a harrowing experience for most of us. From physical symptoms such as accelerated pulse, blushing, breaking out into a sweat, dry mouth, nausea, and blurred vision, hand tremors, amongst others, to the internal dialog we must deal with (such as “People will laugh at me“, “I won’t be able to communicate my message clearly“, or “I will make a fool of myself“), the whole experience can be nerve-wreaking!

And sometimes, when the speaker gets an extreme case of performance anxiety, the words may escape his mind and the message may end up lost without getting the point across. This situation only aggravates things. The presenter may experience feelings of insecurity, defeat, fear of being criticized and rejected, and other uncomfortable feelings that no one wants to experience and much less in public.

Regardless of how good your presentation is, how much you prepared for it, or how well meant your message is, if the delivery is random and messy, it will be invaluable.

The good news is that public speaking is an art that can be learned. It includes not just mastery of the subject, but self control and lots of practice. Being well prepared for your speaking engagement has no substitute. And, with dedication and constant practice, you will be speaking to your audience confidently in no time at all.

You must be wondering why I said above than stage fright never goes away completely. Glad you are paying attention 🙂

Well, it’s true. Stage fright never goes away 100% mostly because many factors are beyond your reach. For example, the location, equipment malfunction, your plane being late, and even the type and size of the audience you will present to, among other things. Assuming all other factors are in check, the art of public speaking has to do more with self-confidence than anything else. This means that even though stage fright might be present, the more confident you become, the easier it will be to keep the anxiety in check.

Here are some pointers for you to follow during your public speaking endeavor:

  • Practice Visualization
    Several days before your speaking engagement, take time to do this exercise. Take a deep breath and relax. Now picture yourself in front of the audience delivering the speech confidently and see the crowd listening with interest, taking notes, smiling, nodding in agreement, and finally standing up and giving a round of applause as you finish. As with any visualization, the more you do it, the more effective it will be and the more confident you will feel. For a successful visualization, add details and emotion. Feel it “as if” you were already there, giving your presentation!
  • Practice Your Presentation or Topic Beforehand
    Make sure your presentation is topic-oriented, appropriate for what the audience is expecting and at the level of understanding. This includes even the language you will use. Draw a small audience to practice with. Assign a timer and an evaluator during the simulation exercise. The timer records the length of your delivery so that it fits perfectly within the allotted time, giving you the opportunity to cover all of your information, and possibly leaving time for Q&A. The task of the evaluator, on the other hand, will be to check on the manner of your delivery – as well as the content of your topic.
  • Be Confident
    Being a bit nervous is quite alright but over doing it can detrimental. Confidence relieves nervousness in any undertaking and especially in public speaking. You can build the confidence needed to prevent feeling anxious by working on simulated speaking sessions prior to the speaking engagement. Show your confidence by mastering your topic -not mere memorizing- but by truly knowing your topic inside-out. Everything that you need, such as equipment and technical requirements, must be set up and tested prior to the presentation day.
  • Present-ability and Body Language
    First impressions count. Dress appropriately for the occasion. Comfort is a primary consideration. Clothes/suits that you don’t feel comfortable with can affect your stance and disposition on stage. Use your body language to your advantage. Present in a charismatic way that draws the attention of your audience.

    Stand tall and erect (good posture), maintain eye contact, and precision-time your movements on stage.
    If you need to use gestures to express a point, that is OK but don’t overdo it. Moving lightly can release some tension and nervousness. A hand in the pocket also works wonders while on stage rather than flicking your hands around. Always pay attention to your audience’s reactions in the course of your presentation. There may be signs of ineffectiveness and you may need to make little adjustments as you go to capture your audience attention back. Injecting humor when appropriate is good but make sure the topic of your presentation allows for it. Be careful not to overdo it either.

  • Speak with Conviction
    Believe in every word you say. This will radiate through your audience and will manifest your confidence and mastery of the topic you are presenting. During an open forum, listen to the questions being asked and respond accordingly.

Finally, remember to take sips of water as you go to prevent dry mouth, walk from one side of the stage to the other at a nice pace, and be conscious of the fact that you are talking to an audience not an individual, so change your eye focus from one person to another as you talk.

click meHere is a secret… we know that every speaker gets nervous at one point or another, even after years of delivering speeches and lots of practice. This is because every audience is different, the topics may vary and our level of confidence changes from one day to another for a variety of reasons.

Some days we may feel more confident than others, so take that into consideration and feel at ease with this fact. It is perfectly fine to feel a bit anxious but that doesn’t have to disable you when you’re speaking in public.

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You’ll surely find exactly what you need for a successful presentation no matter what your topic or level of experience!

 

Procrastination

How to Conquer

Procrastination

Do you -like many- find yourself putting off your chores for later, only to find your deadlines approaching as fast as meteors breaking through the atmosphere? Do you find yourself postponing things until the very last moment? Do you do this more often than not?

If your answer was affirmative to any of those questions, you are one of the millions of people afflicted by the habit of procrastination.

One thing that not too many realize is that procrastination affects not only your life but the lives of the people around you. Think about these two scenarios:

At work, procrastination is the biggest reason for loss of productivity, reliability and trust. If you are late submitting a report, all those involved in the project will be affected as well.

On the other side, procrastination is a frequent cause of discord and friction at home. Really… how many times can you promise to help your spouse with their household chores or to change a light bulb before they stop believing you? Can you see how tension may escalate and create conflict? 

When you think about it, procrastination is one of the primary causes of stress for you and all people in your circle of influence. Thus, if you believe that postponing things indefinitely is affecting your life, your job and your relationships, you’d greatly benefit from tackling this habit as soon as today. Correct?

OK, you are still reading and that is good, but… where do you start? The good news is that since procrastination is a habit, it can be broken with relative ease – some say in as little as 21 days!

Too little time, you say? Think about this: when was the last time you put off your tasks until the last moment? Was it a conscious decision? For most, putting off their chores for later is not based on a conscious thought or desire. This is what makes procrastination a habit, and habits are easy to break once you become aware of them and get determined to change them.

Is it easy? Well… in all honesty, not always. It can be hard to get out of the groove if tackling your tasks in a timely fashion has not been a priority, particularly if you have been procrastinating for years and if the consequences for being late are things that you can bear with; but… if you want to improve this behavior of yours, then yes… it can be done.

With determination, practice and commitment, it is very possible to shake off your propensity for procrastination, especially when you realize that this habit is causing extra stress in your life. Who wants extra stress after all?!

Stop Procrastinating

The following five tips will help you become a more productive and reliable person, both at work and in your personal life:

  • Be realistic with yourself!
     
    Don’t want to do something? Admit it! Most of us do not procrastinate when we have to do something that we love. Have you noticed this? Thus, the first step to prevent procrastination is to acknowledge that the task you are postponing is something that you do not like nor do you want to do. Once you realize this, it’ll be much easier to just start it and get it done with.

    Think about the alternative and you’ll see what I mean: If you don’t do it right away, you’ll have to remember the undone task over and over again (until you finally do it) and/or deal with the problems of not having done it on time.For instance, you may hate to mow the lawn. If you postpone it indefinitely, your back yard will soon look like a jungle and the work will be twice as hard. So if you consciously acknowledge that you hate this chore and that there is no way to avoid it, it’ll be more likely for you to do it right away and get it out of the way. When you practice this way of thinking often, you will find yourself doing the stuff you don’t like quicker and faster just to get it done and avoid the on-going burden.

  • Lists are your best friends
     
    Keeping a journal will help you plan and schedule your tasks so that you can start them quickly and complete them on time. It will also be a place where you can write down and keep track of the tasks that you must accomplish in the near future.Make sure you have a “to-do” list for the things and activities you must start, do and complete every single day. And make sure you do not overbook yourself. When you have too many things in your to-do list for one day, you’ll end up procrastinating yet again. This journal will help you budget your time and resources realistically.

    One common problem is that procrastinators always feel like there is plenty of time to do a task… later. Acknowledge this and commit to tackle your tasks sooner rather than later. Also, once you start, you will be more likely to finish a task and get less concerned with “when” you’ll be doing it.

  • Save the fun for later
     
    Many people put their work off because it is more attractive to have fun right now. If you find yourself thinking… “I’ll just watch this movie and then do ‘xyz’” -or something along those lines, you are more likely to end up postponing, getting stressed and living with the consequences of having procrastinated yet again.While it may be true that you may have plenty of time to accomplish your tasks ‘a bit later‘, it’s much better to finish your work first and enjoy afterwards.

    If you instead choose to take it easy and relax before doing your job, you will be more prone to stress and exhaustion, especially when you know you are heading towards your deadline fast. Also, you won’t have something exciting left to look forward to after accomplishing a task!Believe me. Much like giving a child a star for a job well done, relaxation and fun are much more sweet and enjoyable after a taxing job, not before.

  • Do not underestimate time and resources
     
    Oftentimes procrastination sets in when you underestimate the resources, the difficulty, and the time needed to finish a particular task. For instance, if you have to clean the house because you expect guests later tonight, you may fool yourself by thinking along the lines of… “I just have to clean the house. It’s easy, I’ll do it in a jiffy.” The problem is, no matter how trivial the task, it’ll still take time and resources to get it done.When you underestimate the time you need to finish a task, you will most likely be less prepared and set little time to do it; also, you’ll schedule it too close to its deadline. This may cause stress as your guests may arrive before you are done with the cleaning!
  • Keep yourself busy – make it a new habit!
     
    Do not allow yourself to get comfortable doing nothing. Teach yourself to notice every time you have things in your “to-do” list and you find yourself wasting time. Commit to becoming aware of this! It will help you foster the notion that jobs accomplished now will mean more time for enjoyment and relaxation later. After all, realize that if you need to do something now, it will not go away if you don’t do it. So get on with it!

    However, make sure that you do not become a workaholic doing things continuously and compulsively. This is not a good alternative either. Allow yourself ample time to rest and to remove all thoughts of concern often and especially before you retire at night.The trick is to find the right balance, whatever works for you. Do not overdo your rest nor your work. There is a difference between taking a break and being idle. Always set a good amount of time to relax and rest while sticking to your work schedule. Lastly, remember to have fun too!

Remember the 21 day rule to break a habit that I mentioned above? What do you say? How about kicking the procrastination habit for good in just 21 days? Will you take the challenge?

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Mindfulness

Mindfulness

Have you ever felt like going through life following the motions, doing what you were supposed –or expected- to do, like an automated machine living outside or away of your true self?

I believe we all have felt this way to one degree or another. We suddenly become briefly aware of this every time we state things such as… “Where did time go?”… only to go back to our ingrained habits and usual routines short after this realization. This temporary awareness places us briefly in the present time, a momentary awakening that can be identified as a moment of mindfulness.

But before we delve deeper into exploring mindfulness, and just in case you are wondering why mindfulness should be adopted as a regular practice, just know for now that the practice of mindfulness is vital to live a well balanced and happy life.

Moreover, mindfulness is essential to practice meditation, and as we already know, meditation offers enormous benefits to our mental, emotional, and physical health. With that in mind, let’s continue…

The term mindfulness has its roots in Buddhism; however, it is not related to any particular faith but to the ideal state of the human beingMindfulness refers to the constancy of mind in the present moment. When you think of it, the present moment is all we truly have. The past is gone. The future is not here yet, and once it arrives, it becomes the present moment yet again.

Still, living in the present moment can prove quite a challenge for most of us living on today’s fast paced world. We tend to go through life dragging our past, and thinking of –or planning- a better future, usually dismissing the precious “now”

In fact, our ideal state as human beings is living in the present moment while keeping a balanced and healthy perspective between the now and future events. Buddhists call it “recollection” and it is used as a point of reference to return to focus every time the mind wanders away. This is one of the greatest challenges of the human mind. Have you thought about the fact that animals don’t experience anything else than the present moment?

A simple way to practice mindfulness is by watching one’s breath. When you focus on your breath you place your mind in the present time by paying attention to the air you breathe going in and out of your chest cavity. And while you maintain your attention on this function as your main objective, you must also remember to return back to focus when your mind wanders away.

In this manner, mindfulness means being aware of the present moment intentionally, and on a moment to moment basis while remembering what to do in the near future when/if your mind wanders away.

You can start practicing mindfulness by setting signals or indicators in your immediate environment that will prompt you to truly be in the present time even if for a few moments.

You can start doing this by committing to becoming aware of your self for a few seconds every time you see, hear, feel, taste, smell or do something that you have previously set your mind to.

For instance, every time you smell your morning coffee or hear a bird chirping or see a yellow car or whatever, you become centered in your present state for a few seconds.

And… how do you bring your attention to the present moment? -You may be wondering.

As stated above, an easy way to become aware of your present moment is by consciously observing your breath. Going with one of the examples mentioned, every time you hear a bird chirping, you take a few seconds to center yourself and observe your breathing.

When doing this, be aware of the fact that you are being conscious of your body’s breathing function, and you are noticing this with your mind while you keep engaged with your outer world. In this manner, you become fully aware of your being in and out at the same time. In other words, you acknowledge you’re inside your body as well as a part of the whole that surrounds you.

When you do this several times a day, you are actually training your mind to be in a state of mindfulness regularly. As you are able to hold these moments for longer periods of time, meditation will eventually become easier and you will be able to extend and sustain your meditative states.

Once you experience mindful moments habitually, you will start reaping the benefits of a more complete existence with less stress, more inner peace and more happiness.

Think about this… What if you could profoundly change your life just by becoming more mindful of your breathing? What if paying attention on purpose and non-judgmentally could help you improve your health?

On Mindfulness for Beginners, Dr. Kabat-Zinn, internationally known scientist, best-selling author, and teacher who brought mindfulness meditation into the mainstream of medicine and society gives you immediate access to a practice that can potentially add years to your life, and will certainly enhance the quality of your moments and your years.

Dr. Kabat-Zinn will help you…

  • Explore five guided meditations that lead you breath by breath into the essence of Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR), a program offered in medical clinics and hospitals around the world.
  • Cultivate the Seven Key Attitudinal Factors of MBSR—qualities of heart and mind that lay the foundation for mindfulness practice and for seeing and accepting things as they are as a first step to working wisely and compassionately with stress, pain, illness, and sorrow as well as life’s joys and pleasures—Zorba’s “full catastrophe”
  • Free yourself from limiting perspectives, and become more intimate with your own boundless awareness.

Learn more about this fabulous audio program, hear a sample, and prepare to be enlightened to rip the benefits of living in a mindful state, by clicking on the image above.

“You’re already in the perfect moment for inhabiting this liberating awareness,
which is always available…”
~ Jon Kabat-Zinn

May You Master Mindfulness…

 

 

Perseverance

Perseverance

An Essential Trait for Success

Have you ever set targets for yourself that you’ve not been able to achieve or attain? And… did you end up wondering just why things don’t seem to work out in your favor?

Perhaps the goal was too big, too complicated, too surreal? If this has happened to you, you are not alone. Millions of people never seem to achieve success in various goals they set up for themselves; and these very people often times lose hope in their abilities to do well on anything.

Interestingly, many fail to acknowledge that their not achieving a goal seldom has to do with the goal itself. It is easier to blame external factors; it is less painful than admiting that they may be lacking one of the main elements of success: Perseverance.

This character trait is essential for becoming successful in personal relationships, social situations, business endeavors, and anything else, regardless of how small or how enormous the goal might be.

What exactly is Perseverance?

Perseverance is the ability to start and the drive to continue steadfastly on the path towards any goal you set for yourself. Frequently this factor alone is the difference between failure and success. Perseverance is also a personal value, because it gives shape and strengthens your character which allows you to keep your focus on your goal.

Let’s take a look at the first part of the definition. You probably agree that most people who set a goal for themselves have ‘the ability to start’ working on their goal, especially if it’s something they’ve been wanting for a while. It is the second part “the drive to continue steadfastly…” that most fail at.

There are multiple reasons for this. Perhaps they realize that there is too much work involved and the price is not worthy enough. Maybe they changed their mind or decided on another goal. There is also the possibility of having lost interest in a particular thing. All of this is perfectly fine as long as the reason justifies their leaving their goal behind.

However, more often than not, people becoming distracted, too busy, sidetracked, or just get plain lazy. If this is the case, no matter how many goals they set for themselves, they will never accomplish anything if determination and perseverance are not present.

Thus, the minute you accept and come to the realization that nothing fundamentally good comes without hard work, determination, and perseverance, the sooner you will be on your way to attaining your every goal you set your mind to.

Let’s clarify one important point here. Perseverance doesn’t mean you have to do one particular thing over and over in a compulsively manner while expecting a different result. That is actually a version of insanity. When you have been on the same path more than once without achieving the result you seek, it may be a good idea to stop and evaluate the factors that are not working.

Based on your findings and conclusions, you will be in a better position to make a conscious decision to either pursuing a different approach or persevere on the same path. After all, all roads lead to Rome and some are less treacherous than others. Taken this into consideration, you will determine if your perseverance is based on tenacity and resolve or just plain stubbornness.

Another point to consider is your level of confidence. Being either doubtful about your abilities or overconfident of what you “have in the bag” are two states of mind that will undoubtedly determine the level of success you achieve.

Unfortunately, both mindsets result in people achieving less than their potential could allow them to. As the saying goes, “Hard work never killed a man”; the more effort you put into achieving success, the more likely it will be for you to actually achieve it… and for this you need dedication and determination.

You may not necessarily achieve what you pursue in the time you envision, but that’s just what it means to persevere. As long as you know you are on the right track… keep pushing, keep trying, and don’t succumb to frustration and despair until you hit your target.

A note of caution: Regardless of how exciting your goal may be, from time to time you will most likely become discouraged when things don’t seem to go as planned.

“Winners never quit and quitters never win.” 

~ Vincent Thomas “Vince” Lombardi

This is when it is essential to motivate yourself at that moment, and then on a regular basis. You can help yourself in several ways like with daily affirmationsvisualizations, journal writing, reading inspiring quotes, or engaging in a fun activity that distracts your mind from the temporary bump. And then my favorite one is to have a vision board hanged by your desk, where you can see it often and reflect on your “why,” the reason you want to achieve your goal.  Here’s a variety of tools to help you along with motivation and inspiration.

Above it all, remember that failure does not have to be an option once you know and practice the elements of the formula for success. Acquiring the trait of perseverance will allow you to have a more rewarding and enriching life, as you get to achieve goal after goal as you please. Imagine what that will do to your self-esteem and self-confidence!

Learn to persevere and you will build that indomitable spiritCommit not to quit on yourself no matter what. Stick to it and achieve success. Once you learn to persevere, nothing life throws at you can stand between you and your goals.

So how do you overcome the desire to quit?

Perseverance, Your Personal Key For Success” by L. Bessett, will get you inspired and in the right direction. This little ebook’s content gives you the basics to persevere in a variety of circumstances. It is available for immediate download for just $2.99. If you like to get ideas in writing, get it!  (Pssst… keep reading to learn how to get this ebook for free)  🙂

For a more hands on approach, I recommend you get this hypnnosis audio track. As you may already know, hypnosis is an amazing technique for a variety of personal development goals. As such, it can train your subconscious mind to persevere, regardless of what stands on your way. Click on the image below to find out how hypnosis can  help you become stronger and more determined than ever. With hypnosis, you will gain the necessary focus in order for perseverance to feel natural to you.

If what you want is to develop perseverance, hypnosis will help you get there. This audio training will give you the drive and challenge you to develop courage and determination to achieve new heights and experience fulfillment like never before!

You will find yourself going back to this audio training to reinforce your perseverance, especially in those moments when you need a push to “keep on keeping on.” Moreover, since you have read this far, get the audio and send me the invoice, here. I will send you the ebook “Perseverance, Your Personal Key For Success” for free.  🙂

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“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up.
The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.”

~ Thomas A. Edison

Laughter

Laughter

The Best Medicine!

We have all heard it at one time or another… “Laughter is the Best Medicine“, and most of us would completely agree with this statement.

However, when life gets tough and things are not going our way, laughter doesn’t come easy… even when we are presented with details, jokes, or situations that have made us laugh out loud in the past; and paradoxically, it is precisely in those moments when we need to laugh out loud the most.

In general, we are becoming too serious about life. That shouldn’t come as a surprise if we consider the turmoil of today’s world. It seems that wherever we go we find people who are tired, discouraged, stressed, disheartened, worried, and concerned. In extreme instances some of them go through life feeling hopeless and helpless, which is not only sad but extremely dangerous for their physical, emotional, and mental health.

Several studies have shown that when people focus often on the negative side of life and don’t laugh regularly, they become prone to depression; and it is well known that a depressed person tends to see reality in a distorted way, which will only feed the depression further.

The good news is that laughter is the best medicine to help prevent or break this vicious cycle. We can learn to take life less seriously and we can also learn to laugh at ourselves and at the silly events around us. Truth is, if we pay attention, we’ll discover that life offers us plenty of opportunities for us to laugh big!

Here are a few benefits you get when you laugh often…

  • Physical health
     
    Several studies have shown that laughter reduces blood pressure, boosts the immune system, relaxes tight muscles, and reduces incidence of chronic diseases. Also, some studies suggest that people who laugh often live longer and age healthier as compared to those who worry too much.As a matter of fact, every time we laugh our brains produce endorphins. These natural hormones have the power to modify the axon of nerve cells which not only stimulate mood, but counteract the effects of stress, and help control pain and hunger.
     
    Laughter also offers us an opportunity for personal growth as we move through life feeling uplifted and encouraged. Dr. Andrew Weil, America’s foremost practitioner of integrative medicine, recently recommended active participation in Laughter Yoga, an exercise routine for complete well-being, as a way to heal and improve a variety of physical symptoms…But, if you thought that was not enough… laughter also keeps our facial expression youthful because it’s like exercise for the face! Good news is, anybody can practice laughter yoga to awaken the joy within naturally and improve the quality of their life!
  • Motivation and Inspiration
     
    Adopting a good sense of humor and laughing often can give you the extra push when the going gets tough. If you have ever tried to become inspired and motivated while feeling down, you know how close to impossible that is. While we all have challenges in life at one point or another, the ability to laugh can provide us with the needed positive outlook that makes the difference between overcoming the challenge successfully or not.
  • Interpersonal Relationships
     
    Laughter makes us more attractive to others. It’s fun to be around people with a good sense of humor and an uplifting personality, wouldn’t you agree? If you have ever tried to strike a conversation with a straight face versus a smiley one you’ve experienced this first hand!
  • Mind Power and Learning
     
    When you laugh, you perceive your reality more optimistically; you are able to see more possibilities which translate to more probabilities no matter what situation you may be facing. It is as if your mind becomes more powerful, more open.Compare this to trying to solve a problem from a gloom and doom starting point… Moreover, when you are happy, you will learn better. Practice humor when studying, and you will retain the information easier. It works. Give it a try!
  • Positive Energy
     
    Much has been talked about how to manifest what we want in life, and attracting ‘like’ vibrations is one of the main points discussed by masters and gurus alike. It is all about energy – you’ve heard this many times over, I’m sure. Thus, one of the main ways to attract what we want is by creating and maintaining a high vibration or positive energy… and laughter helps enhance and grow your vibrational energy too!

It’s true. Life has many challenges, and while we cannot control every single thing that happens to us, we have full control on how we react to different situations. More importantly, there are always choices, and we do have control over those choices. We can choose how to react to what happens and we can also choose to take life more lightly, and explore what choices we have to resolve the situation. We can also choose to find humor in our daily lives, and we can choose to laugh more often. So… Choose wisely!

In closing, it is true that laughter comes easier to some people; however, it is very possible for all of us to develop a “funny bone” and allow a unique sense of humor to emerge. We can all learn to be funny, witty,  and charming while reaping the benefits of a great laugh! Where to start? – you might be wondering… How about learning how to become the laugh of the party? Click the banner below for full details!

Laughter offers us the opportunity to create a destiny of health and happiness.

And… everyone loves people who makes them laugh!

So, what are you waiting for? Start laughing out loud today!

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Increase Your IQ

Increase

Your IQ

You have probably heard about how to increase your IQ, but wondered if this was for real or just a myth. This is precisely what we are going to demystify in this article.

To start, let’s realize that for years we have been lead to believe that we are born with a certain IQ that we inherited from our parents, and it is either high, average or low. Notice that I said “we have been lead to believe” because as you will soon find out, this belief can now be debunked.

The latest social statistics have proven that people with a higher IQ are not just smarter, but also happier, healthier and wealthier; and fortunately for us all, the results of several recent studies conclude that IQ can be treated just like any other muscle in our body -meaning, it is not only possible but highly probable to build it by using certain specific training techniques.

So, the question going through your mind by now must be… Does this mean that anyone can increase their IQ? And if so, how can I increase mine?

Before we explore this exciting possibility, I want to share even better news with you. As I mentioned, recent studies have shown that it is not only very possible to increase your IQ, but also that there are special shortcuts to building your mental IQ muscle, in the same way that protein and creatine are shortcuts to building physical muscle.

Having learned this… would you believe me if I told you that just 6 months from now your IQ could be 25% higher than what it is today? And what if I told you that all you need to do was to perform a simple and fun exercise that does not take too much time, to help you increase your IQ easily? The ONLY requirement is to be persistent and do it DAILY… would you commit to that?

In fact, there is strong evidence that by doing this one easy exercise, you can dramatically increase your IQ – and even be on your way to genius thoughts! OK, I know… now you must be anxious to learn what this simple, easy and incredible genius exercise to supercharge your brain is… right?

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Here it is: You need to keep a daily journal or diary. Yes, that simple! Every day you must commit to jotting down all of your thoughts and ideas on paper.

Better yet, do it several times a day if your time allows. You must do it faithfully for at least 6 months and you will increase your IQ rapidly expanding your brain’s capacity as well as your intelligence… guaranteed!

Unbelievable? I know, but before you dismiss this completely, consider these facts:

  • Catharine Morris Cox Miles, American Psychologist is known for her research in the fields of Intelligence and Genius. She studied the habits of 300 geniuses , such as Isaac Newton, Albert Einstein, and Thomas Jefferson, amongst others. She discovered that all of them had different activities and daily patterns except for one thing they had in common: they all were dedicated journal or diary keepers.

    A different study based on her research determined that only 1% of the world’s population routinely engaged in journal writing on a daily basis. The same study also found that the same 1% that dedicated time to their journals every day almost always turned out to be super high achievers. Better yet, they also almost always lived longer than the average person in their same time, place and era.
  • Thomas A. Edison wrote an incredible three million pages of notes, letters and personal thoughts in hundreds of personal journals throughout his life. We all know that Edison was considered a genius.
  • The brilliant English physicist and cosmologist Steven Hawking developed amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (Lou Gehrig’s disease) more than 30 years ago and was given just 2 years to live. Even though this condition has left him almost 100% paralyzed and confined to an electronic wheelchair, Hawking is considered amongst the world’s greater thinkers despite the fact that he cannot speak, write, or even move except for a few fingers that allow him to keep a journal utilizing mechanical aides and a special computer where he constantly records his thoughts, ideas, fields of study and scientific theories, as well as his inner reflections.

    Over thirty years after developing this disability, Hawking shows no signs of slowing down with his contributions to Cosmology and Quantum Theory. Although unable to physically keep a journal, Hawking has managed to develop his brain to that of a genius by keeping a journal.
  • As a young man, Albert Einstein invited a young lady on a date. Einstein took her sailing but she later complained about her frustration as Einstein hardly said a word during the whole day. He instead spent most of the day scribbling in a small journal that he carried with him at all times. It is well known that Einstein did this on a regular basis.

There are many more examples of the amazing power of keeping a journal, but I’m sure you get the idea. This little practice guarantees you increase your IQ over time… can you believe how simple it is? As if that was not enough, I’ve got to share one more great piece of news that is going to sound almost mind-boggling, but it is 100% true…

You do not need to write down anything specific in your journal!

You don’t need to have any great ideas, Einstein like formulas, Hawking cosmological theories, or even anything coherent to get to increase your IQ effectively by daily journaling! This fact was demonstrated in the journal of English inventor Michael Faraday, one of the greatest minds of the 19th Century. Albert Einstein admired him so much that he used to keep a picture of Faraday right along one of Sir Isaac Newton as inspiration for his work!

Faraday filled literally thousands of notebooks with seemingly total nonsense. Many have studied the journals of Faraday hoping to discover the key to his brilliant mind, but they all have become frustrated in the intent.

In “The Einstein Factor: A Proven New Method for Increasing Your Intelligence” by Win Winger Ph.D. and Richard Poe, one researcher wrote: “Faraday’s Diaries have the irritating form of ideas jotted down, repeated and forgotten… a morass or articulate and inarticulate principles, concepts, observations and physical facts.” As you have discovered, one of the best methods to increase your IQ  seems to be carrying a journal with you at all times where you must jot down any random thoughts as they come to mind.

And as if that benefit wasn’t enough, it keeps on getting better. When you keep a diary of your own stories, random thoughts and ideas, you not only get to increase your IQ but become more creative overall as your mind explodes with incredible ideas as you are able to problem solve like never before.

You also get to retain a healthy mind as you age and you get to increase your life span! The evidence for this was documented during a fascinating study on a group of nuns in Mankato, Minnesota. The nuns are unique in that just about all of them live well past the average age of death for women in that area of Minnesota.

Most of these nuns live well into their 90s, and some even surpass the 100 year mark. At the same time, a great majority of them has never shown any signs of senile dementia or Alzheimer’s Disease. What do you think these sisters all have in common?

You got it… they are all fanatics about journal keeping because it is a requirement of their particular order.

And just in case you are wondering, the study also proved that all the nuns had above average IQs as well. Of course, there could have been other elements to their good physical and mental health, such as genetic factors and the serene lifestyle that comes from living in a convent and praying everyday; however, keeping a journal was the single key element they all had in common.Now, it’s time for you to decide. To increase your IQ, start by getting a notebook and carry it everywhere you go. Make it a habit to jot down your random thoughts while on the subway, in a waiting room, and even during lunch. Reflect upon what you write, and eventually you’ll increase your IQ and enjoy a super-powered intelligence! This is all great news, but be patient as it takes some time for you to see results… remember, just as exercising a muscle, persistence is key.

So, what if you wanted to speed up the results? After all, we live in a technology based world, quite different to that of Einstein and Newton!

Here is my advise: keep a journal and develop the habit of writing as much as you can just as the world’s top geniuses do; AND also take advantage of the leading techniques for increasing your IQ that have all come together inside the brand new course, called Guaranteed IQ.

This simple technique creates a Slight Lifestyle Change that when tested on a million people, it boosted their IQ scores by an average of 14%… yes, that is fourteen percent and it was over a short period of time!

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Charisma

Charisma

Your Personal Power Weapon!

Personal Power… the mere thought of those words make us feel empowered, wouldn’t you agree?

People who convey their personal power are people who have mastered the fine art of Charisma. And when we talk about charisma we can immediately think of having a positive attitude and an outgoing personality. This is why charismatic people attract like-minded individuals and situations that help them succeed.

And what exactly is charisma?

Charisma can be defined as a trait that can be found in some people with magnetic personalities and extreme charm. Charismatic people are usually calm, assertive, and self-confident. They are also authentic, able to focus on others, and masters at active listening.

They make others “feel important”.  They smile easily and do not take life too seriously. Many of them have also a gift for public speaking. They are loved by many and even envied by a few.

Can you think of someone you know who is naturally agreeable and friendly? Perhaps a person who you feel drawn to? Have you seen that person in a room full of strangers? Most likely they’ll start chatting and making friends in no time at all… right?

This is what being a people person means. Charismatic people are unbelievably nice and pleasant. They can charm almost anyone into doing anything, really!

A person with this personal magnetism can achieve greatness because they attract the precise people and situations that propel them to success. These people earn the trust and support of those around them with ease. And they can do anything they want to with the plethora of people behind them. All because they know how to use their charming personality to their advantage!

Charisma: Innate trait or can it be developed?

Some scholars affirm that certain personality traits like charisma can’t be learned; that we must be born with it. I disagree. I believe we all are born with the potential to be charming. If we really think about it, isn’t charisma a reflection of an abundance of self-confidence? And if this is so, why couldn’t we learn to overcome our self doubt and limitations? Do you agree with me?

Here are a few tips that can help you become charismatic. With practice, we can learn to exude self-confidence and become the people person we’d like to be.

1. Be authentic and true to yourself

Hypocrisy and selfishness can be perceived and will eventually drag you down. Be genuinely nice and interested in people.

2. Become an active listener

Learn to listen and sympathize with people to earn their trust, appreciation and love. When people have problems they want to be listened to. This is why people go to therapy! Active listening means not just hearing, but putting your heart into listening attentively.

Make eye contact when the person talks to you. Your body language is also important. Nod in agreement when appropriate. Listen as if every word matters. You will earn “brownie points” as they feel your empathy.

3. Learn to laugh out loud

Not in a silly way, but by finding humor in small things and not being too darn serious about life in general. A person oozing with an awesome sense of humor attracts crowds and eventually, success. People like to be around happy and positive people!

Also, learn to laugh about your own blunders. It will make you likable as you convey humbleness. People feel comfortable with a down-to-earth person.

4. Practice random acts of kindness

You don’t have to be a millionaire to blow your savings to charity and be noticed. What truly matters are little acts of kindness. It doesn’t need to be elaborated nor does it require prior planning. Be spontaneous and do it from the heart.

It can be a simple act like giving someone a flower, a phone call to ask how things are going or a word of encouragement for someone that’s feeling down. Even helping a senior cross the street counts!

5. Be willing to change

You must be willing to develop your personality openly. Focus on getting rid of bad traits and habits that may inhibit your growth. A charismatic person cannot be shy, grouchy, ill-tempered, or pessimistic. They do not snap at anyone, and know how to stay in control.

6. Develop self-confidence

Be able to stride to the other corner of the room and introduce yourself to people with that winning smile of yours. Just remember to be confident, not arrogant.

7. Cultivate your relationships

Your relationship with others should never be neglected. Be willing to go out and have fun with family and friends. Feeling happy around those who matter most to you will allow you to relax and practice all of the above points.

When you develop charisma you have an “edge” over others. You become powerful. People will feel drawn to you; they will trust you. You will feel like a magnet. People will look to you for leadership. They will try to emulate you, and this will allow you to influence them.

This can be exciting!

But please do not forget that all of this comes with a big responsibility. Don’t use it to manipulate others. Do not abuse this power. Instead, use your charisma to become a better and more lovable person.

Use it to your advantage but never to take advantage.

Use your charisma wisely and you will become a winner!