The Art of Influencing

The Art of Influencing

 

To fully understand the art of influencing others,
I like to refer to this quote…

“No man is an island”

This saying basically means that we perform better and achieve the best results when we collaborate with each other or work as a team.

Napoleon Hill referred to this as “Master Mind“, a group of people that get together to discuss and share ideas with the purpose of a better outcome for all concerned.

This concept applies to all aspects of life, including our family life, our social life, and our business matters; thus, collaboration is a very important aspect for peaceful human coexistence.

We are, after all, social beings. However, you have probably found by now that it is not always easy to get others to follow you or even acknowledge the benefit of taking a particular route together in order to achieve success.

Many people have different ideas or misguided views about what works at producing great results. This probably has to do with individual opinions and life experiences; but more often than not, it has to do with lack of know-how and vision.

Therefore, if your goal is to be successful at teamwork and achieve goals through a group effort, refining your persuasive abilities should be a priority in your “must-learn” list. Learning the art of influence persuasion is key when it comes to enticing people to follow your command in a particular thing in life.

Your ability to achieve personal and professional fulfillment is not necessarily the same ability that others in your personal and business circles have; hence you must learn the fine art of influencing towards approaching life and business from a certain angle with a precise objective in mind.

But… before we continue, let’s clarify one important point. The art of influencing otherss has nothing to do with manipulative obscure techniques to have others surrender their will and have them act as your puppets or servants for your sole benefit. Influencing others is about team work towards the achievement of a mutually beneficial goal.

Aggressive Persuation vs. Assertive Persuasion

It is definitely possible to influence people to see things from a certain angle if some amount of force is applied. This is called aggressive persuasion. It uses manipulation and pressure in a way that when people are implicitly warned, threatened, or faced with a consequence or form of punishment for doing other that what you say, they will adhere to your requests out of fear of losing something, either tangible (a job) or intangible (love.)

Therefore, aggressive persuasion creates fear, anger, resentment and other negative emotions. It is very unlikely toproduce long term results with this kind of pesuation.

There are innumerable examples of this kind of negative persuasion and aggressive influencing in history… can you think of one? Hint: You can find plenty of examples in governments based on authoritarian practices, and even closer to home if you know an authoritarian parent. No matter what example you look at, you’ll find out that in instances of aggresive persuation, the results are always short lived; i.e. revolutions, civil wars, and rebelious children, are examples of this.

Even when you have people’s best interest at heart (like in the case of your children doing their homework and chores), there is an added downfall to aggressive persuasion. When people feel pressed and are coerced in this manner they’ll often miss the point and never get to grasp why doing things your way may truly be the best approach for them. This happens despite the fact that your intentions are genuinely good!

Assertive persuasion, on the other hand, is the true art of influencing others in a positive manner and with a common and beneficial goal in mind. This type of persuasion, motivates people to eagerly collaborate with you because they are being exosed to the benefits they’ll get by following your command, even when they are consciously unaware of this!

To an extent, assertive persuasion is like gentle coercion without the consequences of non-compliance being highlighted. When people are offered the opportunity to see the positive outcome of their actions, they experience positive emotions that prompt them to embrace cooperation and this benefits everyone. The great news is that it is not difficult at all to learn assertive persuasion to influence people in this manner. All it takes is fine tuning your observation skills, learning to read people, and communicating effectively based on what you observed.

Once you’ve mastered the fine art of influencing, you will begin to experience more oomph in your life that will manifest in less struggle, more cooperation, and true teamwork in your personal and professional life.


 

Whether you want your child or life partner to grasp the importance of becoming a group prayer by cooperating in household chores, or your co-workers or employees to understand how fair delegation of duties can positively impact the end result, the art of influencing others with assertive persuation will definitely take you to new heights.

If you wish to create and sustain positive change, both in your family and in your professional life, I highly recommend you study assertive persuation and master the art of influencing others – positively.

The Code of Influence by Paul Mascetta is a fantastic program to learn the art of influence persuation from someone who’s spent years researching persuasion in marketing, human behavior and psychology, and the works neuroscientists and psychologists like Carl Jung, BF Skinner, Leon Festinger, Sigmund Freud, Erik Erickson, Kurt Lewin, Abraham Maslow, Ivan Pavlov and many others. Paul has certainly influenced his way to success… BIG time!

Visit Paul’s site! You’ve got here an excellent opportunity to learn this valuable skill from somebody that has mastered what he preaches; something that will certainly help you succeed at exerting assertive influence right at home and in the marketplace!

AND… if you are ready to take your influencing skills to the next level, get The Code of Influence and I will send you a special gift… your own copy of “Influence: How to Exert It” by Yoritomo-Tashi, founder of the first “Japanese Dynasty of Shoguns” — a $11.97 value — yours free as a bonus gift! Take a look here but do NOT buy it if you are ordering “The Code of Influence” by Paul Mascetta. Just send me a copy of your invoice and I will send you access to “Influence: How to Exert It” as a thank you gift, right away.

I believe the best way to learn anything is to soak our minds in the subject at hand. Paul Macetta will take you by the hand and teach you how to persuade others assertively in today’s world; while Yoritomo-Tashi’s ebook, will give you a different perspective. His teachings date back to the XII century; nevertheless the principles work today just as well as they did back then!

Once you learn these techniques, you’ll be on your way to influencing people of all walks of life in the benefit of all concerned.

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Sleep and Grow Rich

Sleep and Grow Rich

Several years ago, this 1962 ebook by Ben Sweetland landed on my desktop. The title reminded me of the great Napoleon Hills’ masterpiece “Think and Grow Rich” but I didn’t think about it much at the time and saved it for future reference.

Grow Rich While You SleepLast Saturday, while searching my hard drive for something interesting to read, I bumped into the dusty old file and decided to see what the books was about. Truth is, I hadn’t heard of Ben Sweetland before, so I started with a search to see what I’d discover.

Ben Sweetland was a well-known psychologist and a famous lecturer throughout the United States. He was also known for his syndicated column called “The Marriage Clinic” and for several books he’d written, including “Add Years to Your Life and Life to Your Years”, “Fourteen Golden Secrets”, “I Will” and “I Can”… with such positive titles, I decided to dive into reading the little ebook I had found in my virtual shelf.

As I started reading  “Grow Rich While You Sleep” the main idea of the ebook became obvious…

The mastering of your success depends on your creative mind.

However, something else caught my attention… Dr. Sweetland placed an emphasis on building a success consciousness by giving clear assignments to the creative mind, so it can go to work while we sleep!

Then, he actually gives the tested commands he used himself throughout his life to achieve the success he did! He describes how he used this technique to tap into his creative mind and came up with solutions to every single problem he had, all while he slept!

He also states that once you learn how to implant these commands properly in your creative mind, your conscious mind will be forced to comply with the given order every single time.

Wow! This means that our future is shaped mainly during our sleeping hours!

This very comprehensive ebook teaches you how to attain not just material riches, but psychological, spiritual, physical and mental riches, as well.

Of course, if we are going to use this power, we must sleep peacefully and soundly. As an added bonus, Mr. Sweetland discusses the main reasons of sleeplessness (by the way, those reasons still apply today!) and gives us solutions to induce a deep and restful sleep naturally, something we can all benefit from living in today’s fast-paced world!

I was also very pleased to find a series of precise 1, 2, 3, ‘do-this-then-that’ exercises throughout several chapters. You see, according to Dr. Sweetland, achievement begins with thought but ‘knowing’ this is not enough… what good does it make to learn that your thoughts lean toward negativity more often than not?

sleep and grow richDr. Sweetland not only helps you discover what your thoughts are, but goes on to guide you to change the negativity with specific instructions. Did you know that we work harder at being a failure than at being a success?  This is not only strange but opposite to what most of us believed. However, once you finish chapter #6 (and the story of Joe Benson) it will all make sense to you.

Amongst my favorite chapters are “Why you are like you are”, “You are twice as good as you think you are”, and the one titled “Developing a Health Consciousness” is like it had been written for me!

My jaw fell to the floor when I read about concise proof of mind over matter examples. Here’s is one… Would you believe it if I told you that blond people who lost sight early in life will look young longer than those with sight? This is because their minds hold the picture of how they looked the last time they saw their reflection! Amazing, isn’t it?

The ebook is filled with real life examples and thought provoking concepts, such as the unreality of money, how rich is rich?, and money is a myth, which helps you gain a new understanding of money and a new awareness of true riches. (This section deserves a high-five, for sure.)

The whole book is both, inspirational and practical. A true gem. The more you read, the more drawn and inspired you’ll become… but if you were to ask me, what you will learn in chapter #12 is definitely priceless… The step-by-step process to give precise assignments to your creative mind while you sleep. This chapter alone is worth the price of the entire ebook and so much more…. no worries, though. The ebook sells for peanuts if compared to the content it delivers.

I could go on and share many more priceless chunks and bites of this ebook, but I’d be missing brilliant points too, so I rather let you see the complete ‘table of contents‘ and decide for yourself how you can Learn to Think Your Way to Riches and Success!

Towards the end of the book, Dr. Sweetland asks himself this question… Would it be possible for an average man or woman to read this book and then, by following its suggestions, turn the tide of mediocrity to a life of happiness and opulence?

His answer was a resounding YES!

If that is not motivating, I don’t know what is! “Grow Rich While You Sleep” covers nearly everything you need to know about the Ancient Wealth Secrets that can turbo-charge your earnings potential into overdrive… AND it points out the steps to do it. The best part is that once you get the steps in order, the rest happens while you sleep!

I invite you to gain a new and improved rich consciousness with this ‘no-fluff-all-wisdom’ insightful ebook! If you haven’t yet clicked on the links above, get it here…   Grow Rich While You Sleep!

May You Grow Rich as You Sleep!

 

 

Autosuggestion

Autosuggestion

A Powerful Self Help Technique

One of the memories I hold dear to my heart, is my father’s persistence in my learning and practicing autosuggestion as a self-help technique. At first, I thought this was a silly little thing and didn’t give it too much thought. However, every time he saw me getting stressed about upcoming school tests, he’d remind me of the power of autosuggestion, recommend an approach and encourage me to give it a try.

So one day I did… and –of course- nothing happened. Nonetheless, I decided to keep on trying as he’d warned me that it would take practice and consistency for it to work.

After all, I had nothing to lose, and if he was right, it would help me get rid of this annoying thing that I experienced every time I had a test at school.

You see, every time I was about to start writing answers to the questions posed on my test, my palms would start sweating profusely to the point that the pencil would become slippery and I could not write fast enough, let along legibly!

This was not only tremendously annoying, but it slowed me down and stressed me more. So I kept on practicing autosuggestion as instructed by my father, until the day I was able to notice the change that made me a believer.

As I felt less anxious and more confident, my palms stopped sweating. Not only that but the more I practiced, the better the results I got. Needless to say, I consider autosuggestion an invaluable technique that I practice to this day for a variety of things, from getting up early in the morning without an alarm clock (give it a try, it is fun and it’ll make you a believer!), to more elaborated goals.

But what exactly is autosuggestion and how it can help you?

Long before affirmations and the law of attraction became common talk, autosuggestion was used for many purposes, either consciously or unconsciously.

As you certainly know, the subconscious mind receives all kinds of information from the conscious mind. These bits of information come through our five senses and are related to how we see and perceive the world around us. When these experiences are repeated continuously, they sink into the subconscious mind and become an intrinsic part of who we are, what we believe and how we behave.

Unfortunately, some of these experiences may not be working on our behalf. And fortunately, there is something that can be done about that. With this I mean that we can condition our subconscious mind to hold certain beliefs to enhance our experiences; and through repetition, they become the reality we experience on a regular basis.

The autosuggestion technique helps you precisely with this. It is a technique that when learned and applied correctly, has the power to influence the subconscious mind according to your instructions. In other words, autosuggestion helps your subconscious mind believe a specific affirmation with an intended goal.

An interesting fact is that autosuggestion goes one step beyond positive affirmations. This is because affirmations are broader in structure while the autosuggestion technique bypasses your thinking mind and the awareness of your material body to go and affirm your unique human spirit identified with the words: I AM. This fact alone makes it a more powerful statement directed precisely to your subconscious mind.

Here is an example for you to compare. The first statement is a positive affirmation; the second line has two autosuggestion statements. More on that in a moment.

I enjoy happiness and wealth

I AM happy” and “I AM wealthy

I invite you to read both lines out loud. Did you feel the difference while stating out loud “I AM”?

I am not saying that affirmations don’t work. What I’m implying is that autosuggestion statements can be a more powerful technique for some of us. As individuals, we know well that what works for one may not work for another. Give both a try and see what works for you. That is the ultimate goal, after all.

The following three steps will help you practice autosuggestion effectively in your life:

  • “I AM” statements.

Always use “I AM” to state your suggestion in the present moment and in the first person. As you have already experienced, there is something intrinsic and very powerful in those two words. These words center you right at the precise moment you state them.

As mentioned above, one simple example of this is “I AM happy”. When this self affirmation is stated on a regular basis, it becomes an autosuggestion which eventually sinks into the subconscious mind where it will be taken at face value. Moreover, this practice will help you focus on happy moments on a more regular basis versus the anxious driven, overwhelmed or sad moments you may be experiencing in your life.

An interesting thing to notice is that those sad, anxious moments won’t just disappear in a blink; however, your subconscious mind will become trained to focus on “happy” moments instead; thus, bringing more of those experiences to your life. If you have ever met a person with huge problems and wondered how they manage to smile and live life on a positive slant, now you know how.

  • Align your auto-suggestion with relevant emotions.

When you add feeling to the statement as if it’s happening right now, your subconscious mind takes it as an actual reality in the moment of now.

It’s important to mention that the subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between reality or fantasy, nor among true or false, or yes or no. This applies to feelings as well. Thus, when you make an “I AM” statement with feeling, your subconscious will take it at face value, just as if it’s happening right now, giving more power to the autosuggestion.

  • Repetition is powerful.

Write your statement exactly as you want to impress it upon your subconscious mind. Then read it aloud several times until you memorize it. Make it a point to repeat it as often as you remember throughout your day and preferably state it out loud. This engages more of your senses, reinforcing the statement you are thinking about.

Commit to do this often, several times per day, until it becomes second nature to you and you see your statement come to pass. It is NOT recommended to use two or more autosuggestion statements in one sentence as it delays the actual experience of both. For instance, when I wanted to get rid of my sweaty palms while taking school tests, I just focused on “I AM confident.” This statement allowed me to get rid of my test-taking anxiety, and answer the questions in a relaxed manner, which resulted in dry palms.

Once your goal is attained, you can move into using a new autosuggestion for another area of your life.

Want to master autosuggestion easier and faster? (I wish this had been available to me back then!)

Statistics show that the average adult processes over 60,000 thoughts every 24 hours and of those, 90% happen at a subconscious level.

When you consider this, you can clearly see why most of us live on automatic. Now, while some of these things are perfectly OK to do without conscious involvement –such as brushing our teeth or tying our shoes- I’m sure you’ll agree with me that more important things require not only involvement on our part but conscious intervention.

This is where autosuggestion can play a major role in changing your life for the better.

I encourage you to add this method to your self development techniques arsenal. Learn it and practice it on any area of your life, from day to day living to more elaborated and bigger life goals. As you practice and get better at it, you’ll become more and more amazed at the results you can create!

“Live as if it were already manifest and you shall find it manifest.”

~ Henry Harrison Brown, author.
“How to Control Fate through Suggestion” – 1901

Job Interview

Successful Interviewing Tips to

Find the Job of Your Dreams!

You can call it anything you want… “laid off,” “let go” or “downsized”… at the end, it all means the same. What matters the most is the emotional turmoil that goes through a person’s mind once the news sinks in, from self-esteem to relationships to actually being able to pay the bills, the enormous burden can be felt in every area of life.

I don’t have to tell you about statistics. We are all quite familiar with the common challenges and the problematic times we are facing worldwide. But…. if you have lost your job, I’m going to ask you to read this article as you may find a couple of bits of useful information to use in your next job interview. So, step back for a little bit, and try to see things from a different perspective.

Re-focus your mind even if for a few minutes and allow yourself to see this experience as a blessing in disguise; as a time to re-evaluate your talents and finally have the opportunity to be, do and have whatever you want in your life. The Internet is filled with countless stories of people who thought everything was lost when they got laid off, only to discover that it was the best thing that happened to them a few weeks or months down the road.

In other words, now is the time to get courageous, go out, get a job interview, or step up to start a new and exciting career. Luckily for us these days, becoming an entrepreneur not as difficult as it once was!

You literally have thousands of resources at your fingertips to help you land a job interview for the job of your dreams, and if you are willing (or able) to relocate, your options are multiplied. Besides the common sources such as the local papers (especially weekend editions), your local library and the multiple employment search engines in the Internet, you may want to consider hiring a Head Hunter to help you get job interviews that match your talents, education, and goals. Networking groups, the gym and even your friends are good sources too. Don’t be afraid to reach out in a big way!

Not sure what you want to do or how you can take your experience into a new career or business venture? You may want to consider hiring a Life Coach to help you explore your options. What I want to convey here is that regardless of how terrible the horizon looks at this time, there are always better days ahead. Trust me on this.

I realize how frightening this situation can be (I have been in your shoes myself!), especially if you had been employed at the same place for several years. Hitting the job market again can be intimidating, for sure! So, I’m going to take you through the basic points so soon enough, you can land the job of your dreams.

Your Resume

Once you’ve found a job that you are interested in, it’s time to update and submit your resume with the goal of getting called for a job interview.

This first step may seem like a huge task, especially if you had been employed for a long time before you were let go. Thus, remember that your resume is the first item to represent you and sell you to a potential employer even before you meet face to face. It should reflect who you are in an extremely positive light. It should make you stand out among other applicants and urge the person in charge of hiring to want to call you first!

Also know that a resume should not be a “one-size-fits-all” kind of deal. In other words, you should plan to modify your resume and cover letter (more on this in a bit) according to the specific position you are applying to. There are plenty of sites and services to help you create a winning resume. A comprehensive search and dedicated time will get you writing your resume profesionally and relatively fast. You may also consider hiring a professional resume writer.

Your Cover Letter

In most cases, you will also need a cover letter to accompany your resume. In general, the cover letter should be as concise and to the point as possible. Don’t ramble on and on, let your resume do the talking. The cover letter is just a basic introduction to your resume where you can include your main qualities that make you the perfect candidate for the position you are applying for. Above it all, use very positive language and be concise. Some experts recommend using bullet points. I believe it is a good idea as it draws attention to your main talents first.

If you don’t have a specific person to address the letter to, you should address it to “Ladies and Gentlemen”. DO NOT address it to “To Whom It May Concern”. That is considered unprofessional and very non-businesslike.

Just as with the resume, you should match your cover letter to the specific position you are applying for. Think about your talents and experience and match them to the specifics of the position. Be truthful and always proofread extensively to make sure that there are no typographical errors and that your punctuation and grammar is all correct.

Preparing for the Job Interview

A good, solid resume and cover letter will get you a job interview. At that point, you’ll be given the opportunity to shine and stand out from other applicants. And… how do you do that? Preparation is key in the process. Being prepared for a job interview includes two main points: knowing about the industry and your prospective employer, and knowing yourself. It means paying attention to details like personal appearance, punctuality, and demeanor. And it means feeling confident about your interviewing skills. Do your homework and be prepared!

You may want to prepare by thinking of a couple of instances where you handled difficult situations successfully. They may ask you this. Also, make a list some of your attributes, and have those present in your mind to answer specific questions. Talk to former co-workers with whom you worked closely. Ask them to list some work related traits about you that they most admired. While you are at it, ask them if you can list them as references.

Try to find some faults as well just in case they come up as questions. By studying your faults, you will be able to choose one that is somewhat innocuous and turn it around into a positive. For example, if you are obsessively organized, this could be presented as a fault but most employers look at organizational skills as assets not liabilities. So in an interview, I would tell them “one of my shortcomings was that I wanted to be too organized.”

Practice how you will answer possible questions during your job interview. You want to be perceived somewhat spontaneous, but you also want to appear self-confident and professional. The way to do that is to rehearse, not exactly what you will say, but how you will say it. This will increase your confidence tremendously.

A great method is to rehearse in front of a mirror. Study your posture, the way you make eye contact, the tone of your voice, and your body language. Ask a friend to do pretend interviews with you. The more you repeat a scenario, the more comfortable you will begin to feel with it.

What To Wear

First, you must dress properly. Generally speaking, it’s a good idea to wear a suit for a job interview or a classy dress if you are a woman. Go with something simple, in a neutral tone. The more conservative your field, the more conservative your suit should be.

It’s also a good idea to match your interview attire to the prospective job. If you are applying for a job working on a warehouse floor, you will look out of place wearing a formal suit. Keeping that in mind, dress a little better than you would for a day at work and make sure your clothes are neat and clean. A good, classic style and cut for a suit is a good choice since it’s appropriate for many situations. Do not wear jeans unless the job you are applying calls for it.

In all instances, wear closed-toe shoes. Sandals are never appropriate for a job interview. And, of course… sneakers are not appropriate either.

If you are a woman, don’t wear an excessive amount of jewelry or makeup. You want to make a good impression at your job interview without distractions and just with your personality and qualifications. If you have long hair, it’s better to wear it up.

You’ll want to bring an extra copy of your resume along with your reference sheet. Leave the backpack at home. A woman can carry a small to medium sized handbag. A man can carry a briefcase if he wishes. A folder or a portfolio are good options as well.

The Job Interview

Once at the interview, you are going to be asked many questions by your potential employer. They will ask about you, your education and past experience. In particular, they’ll want to know about your strengths and weaknesses, and what you did to problem solve when a difficult situation occurred. If you prepared as suggested above, you’ll do great!

Speak slowly and clearly. Pause before you answer a question. Your answers will seem less rehearsed and it will give you a chance to collect your thoughts. Keep in mind that a very brief pause may seem like an eternity to you but it is not.

Since the interviewer’s job is to make sure that not only your skills, but that your personality is a good match as well, you must establish rapport with the person interviewing you. That begins the instant you walk in the door. Let the interviewer set the tone. For example, if the interviewer is speaking softly, so should you.

It’s alright for you to show your true personality, but be careful not to go over-board. Humor may help relax both, you and the person doing the job interview and may help you communicate much easier; but… use caution with humor and never joke about race, politics, faith or anything of that nature.

As you may know, body language gives more away about us than speech. Eye contact is very important but make sure it looks natural. A smiling, relaxed face is very inviting. Hands resting casually in your lap rather than arms folded across your chest also is more inviting. If you normally move your hands around a lot when you speak, tone it down a bit. You don’t want to look too stiff, but you don’t want to look like you’re a bundle of nervous energy.

After The Interview

After the interview, it is essential to follow up with a “Thank You” note. This serves two purposes. First, it tells the employer that you are grateful for their time and the opportunity to inverview. You want to do the polite thing by sending out a note thanking them for that. Also, a thank you note brings you back to mind which can be good if they are close to making a decision on who to hire.

And then, you are done with your part. It is now waiting time. You may get a call for a second interview or you will get a call to discuss salary and starting day. Congratulations!

If you are not chosen for the job, you may want to make a phone call to the person who interviewed you and ask why you weren’t chosen for the position.

Simply explain to the interviewer that you are looking for ways to improve yourself for your next job interview and would appreciate his/her input.

Above it all, do not despair. You may have to go through several job interviews until you land the job of your dreams. You may also find yourself yearning to turn a beloved hobby into a business. Many people have done this. Like them, you can Become A Successful Entrepreneur and realize great success. Remember… it is YOUR life and YOUR time to decide what to do… feeling fulfilled will allow you to live a happier life. Isn’t this what life is all about?

Sleep Learning

Sleep Learning

Facts and Myths

Sleep learning is a technique that helps you harness the power of your subconscious while you sleep. When practiced, it facilitates the learning of new skills, foreign languages, new concepts, and several other self-help  improvements that you may want to implement on a particular area of your life.

Sleep learning -also called hypnopaedia– is not a new concept. In fact, it dates back to the 1930’s and it became more known after Aldous Huxley’s 1932 novel titled “Brave New World“, a fictional story of a Polish boy that was able to recite an entire radio broadcast in perfect English after a radio receiver had been left on during his sleep.

Novels aside, sleep learning has been highly debated and associated with ambiguity mainly because there have been conflicting theories about it. So the question remains… is it really possible to absorb information as you sleep? Can you truly learn new concepts, enhance your memory and learn by utilizing your mind’s full potential… all while you sleep?

Between 1955 and 1968, several studies indicated that it is very possible to learn during sleep when these 3 factors are in place:

  • The suggestions are aligned with the intention to reach a certain goal. This can be done successfully through subliminal messages.
  • The suggestions are received at the right time; during the REM sleep episodes of wakefulness that occur throughout the night or during alpha wave activity (alpha patterns are a normal part of REM sleep, they induce a semi-arousal period offering an optimal opportunity for learning), and…
  • The individual fully agrees with the suggestions and intention to participate.

Because of this findings, it was determined that hypnopaedia can be successfully used as a secondary learning method that supports daytime learning. It also seems to increase the speed of learning during daytime hours, a very useful skill for High School students and working adults alike.

In more recent studies, sleep has been associated with learning and memory enhancementSleep learning seems to hook procedural memories, which aid in learning new skills. It is thanks to procedural memories that you can master a tune on the piano, a chess strategy or a video game.

Thus, the answer is… yes, sleep learning is not only possible, but very helpful; however, there are some myths that need debunking before we proceed.

Here are the two main misguided beliefs about subliminal sleep learning

  • It won’t introduce knowledge directly. It won’t work by implanting information and facts into your brain like if it was a tape recorder. In other words, don’t expect to wake up speaking French if you have never studied it before. Conscious learning must take place during waking hours for sleep learning to work as an enhancer. Only then, it will help you take in data easier and faster.
  • It doesn’t work overnight or immediately. Like many other things that must be learned, practice makes perfect. It is a process in which the message sinks into your brain slowly as you listen often. With each session you become more sharp-witted and focused as your ability to learn starts improving until you absorb information quicker and more naturally.

The Benefits of Subliminal Sleep Learning

So now you know it. Sleep learning is not magical, mysterious or miraculous, and it’s certainly not instantaneous either.

However, more people are using it successfully as they learn about it. There are many reasons why it may be a good idea to engage in this kind of learning. Here are a few of them:

  • It is 100% non invasive. When used as indicated, the messages sink into your mind effortlessly while you sleep. This makes it easy to use where no additional action is needed from you. This is attractive for many as their lifestyle and routine doesn’t have to change. You can play the album at night and won’t interfere with your normal daytime activities.
  • You will experience gradual transformation, and it will support the actions you take.
  • It will facilitate congruence between your subconscious and your conscious minds, so you go about your actions in a way that is conducive to the achievement of your goals. You will be tapping into more of your natural abilities through your right brain and your left brain.
  • Sleep Learning can provide you with a short cut to learn almost anything. More importantly, it offers a way to enhance your self-development in nearly every imaginable way.

One more reason that subliminal messages for sleep learning are becoming more popular is because they are a form of mild hypnosis in which entering trance is not needed to achieve results. When using long term, these messages create important improvements to your subconscious mind and considerably improve your ability to learn. This is not to say that hypnosis does not work or is more complicated. One technique may work better for some people than others.

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One case that I recently heard of, is that of a student in Budapest, Hungary, who wanted to learn English quickly so he could participate and win a BBC contest. He decided to use the sleep learning technique and was able to memorize 1026 English words in six weeks during his sleep while just reviewing the information during the day. And… He won the first prize!

There are many stories like this conducted all over the world with great success. Imagine what you could do to prepare for tests, pass exams, undertake a new career, prepare your public speaking engagements and presentations, and even for fun! 

 

 

Speed Reading

The Advantages and Rewards of 

Speed Reading

One of the main means for us to acquire knowledge is by reading. Since most of us are visual learners, reading is one of the most effective ways of feeding the mind with information to promote intelligent thinking, imagination, innovation and to expand our creative and intellectual edge as a whole.

An amazing fact about the human brain is that it can take in unlimited amounts of data. When you pair this with the natural appetite for knowledge that most of us have, you’ve got an awesome combination.

Since you are into Personal Growth and Self Improvement, it’s easy to assume you are fond of reading, and would love to read (and learn) more in less time. After all, with all the breakthroughs and incredible content available to us nowadays, we would need another lifetime just to learn and absorb all that we want to read!

Do you agree? If so, speed reading may be a powerful skill to acquire. In fact, this is a MUST for people that are required to read a lot in school or at work. Fortunately, the idea of attaining this skill has been widespread. I believe that this skill should be incorporated as part of the usual curriculum in schools. After all, we are living in the Information Age, and the amount of available data in all kinds of subject matters is not showing signs of slowing down anytime soon.

On the contrary, as information is being made mmore available, people from all walks of life take it upon themselves to pursue and attain a speed reading ability. Since you’ve landed on this page, most likely you are part of this group of people who recognize the importance and the advantages of acquiring this skill.

The good news is that a variety of programs exist today that allow you to learn to read extra fast without decreasing comprehension and while enhancing the retention of the information read. Some of these trainings can be quite pricey but fortunately, you do not actually have to spend hundreds of dollars to attain this talent.

Learning the basics is relatively easy- there’s almost no need for expert guidance. As with the learning of any new skill, all it takes is a good guide, the desire to learn and the commitment to practice it by yourself. As with anything else. repetition is key. It strengthens and solidifies the learning, so the more you practice it the better you get at it.

Here are a few steps on the basics of speed reading.

  • Get your vision checked

    First, let’s talk about the obvious. Poor vision can be a hindrance. It strains your eyes as you read, making them become easily fatigued. So, if you believe your vision is not at 20/20, visit your ophthalmologist or optometrist and get your eyes checked. You may need prescription glasses. This will also help you with increased focus and concentration when you are reading.
  • Consider the place in which you read

    Choose the right setting in which to read. If indoors, make sure the temperature is not too cold or too hot and that the area is well ventilated with fresh air. This will keep you from getting drowsy. Sit in a comfortable chair suited for reading. Your spine should be well aligned too. This alone will help make your reading more enjoyable. Also, make sure you always read in a well-lit area to prevent eye tiredness and damaging your vision; preferably with the shaft of light coming from your back (over your shoulder) and into the book.
  • Free yourself from distractions

    If studying, it may be a good idea to get rid of any music in the background, unless it is a classical piece by Mozart which can help with comprehension. A busy room may also be distracting. Also, if you read outdoors, avoid places that are too noisy, such as kids playing nearby or close to a busy street or park. It’s very important to minimize distractionsto enhance comprehension and retention.
  • Be aware of your reading time

    Use your watch or a clock to keep track of your reading pace. Make sure you take note of the time you start reading and the time you finish. This way you will be able to first, see how fast you read; and it’ll help you track your progress as you learn speed reading as well.
  • Get rid of fillers in the items that your read

    This is one of the first things people do when trying to improve their speed reading. Try to focus your attention on the words that play a major role in every sentence. You may also want to skip words and focus on the complete thought. This ability -known as skimming– involves searching the words within the sentences for clues to meaning. This comes naturally for some, but most people require learning how to ‘skim’ though the pages.
  • Speed over comprehension

    When you start at speed reading, concentrate on hastening your pace leaving comprehension for later. Try to read one page as fast as you can and then take a pause to assess what you understood. As you go about your day, try to remember what you read and evaluate your retention of information as well. With constant practice both, your comprehension and retention will sharpen by themselves.
  • Avoid re-reading

    Re-reading will make you waste more time making your reading actually slower. The key is to use a guide, such as your finger or a pointer when reading a sentence. The usage of guides is called meta guiding. This will facilitate your reading and will lessen the chances of having to re-read words or sentences.
  • Do not read out loud

    Sub-vocalization as it is called, can slow you down because you end up reading word per word. Aside from that, your own voice could also act as a distraction and affect your focus.
  • Practice

    As the cliché goes, “Practice Makes Perfect.” You’ll need desire to learn this skill and persistence to acquire it. By applying yourself to the task of learning you’ll eventually master speed reading.  Above it all, do not stress over it. It can affect your learning curve and get you frustrated. Do it gradually, keep it fun. Before you know it you’ll get a hang of speed reading.

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Public Speaking

Beginners Guide to

Public Speaking

Did you know that fear of public speaking ranks #2 among most people’s top dreads? Yes, it goes above and beyond fear of illness, fear of flying or heights, and even fear of terrorism, and death itself.

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Yes, it is amazing that most people rather die before standing on a podium to give a speech! And I know better, cause I’ve been in that position myself… I’m not saying that I wanted to die, just that it is one of the most uncomfortable situations I’ve been in, especially at the beginning of my public speaking career. I must tell you that it gets easier with time, but stage fright never goes away completely.

Speaking in front of a congregation or to a crowd may be a harrowing experience for most of us. From physical symptoms such as accelerated pulse, blushing, breaking out into a sweat, dry mouth, nausea, and blurred vision, hand tremors, amongst others, to the internal dialog we must deal with (such as “People will laugh at me“, “I won’t be able to communicate my message clearly“, or “I will make a fool of myself“), the whole experience can be nerve-wreaking!

And sometimes, when the speaker gets an extreme case of performance anxiety, the words may escape his mind and the message may end up lost without getting the point across. This situation only aggravates things. The presenter may experience feelings of insecurity, defeat, fear of being criticized and rejected, and other uncomfortable feelings that no one wants to experience and much less in public.

Regardless of how good your presentation is, how much you prepared for it, or how well meant your message is, if the delivery is random and messy, it will be invaluable.

The good news is that public speaking is an art that can be learned. It includes not just mastery of the subject, but self control and lots of practice. Being well prepared for your speaking engagement has no substitute. And, with dedication and constant practice, you will be speaking to your audience confidently in no time at all.

You must be wondering why I said above than stage fright never goes away completely. Glad you are paying attention 🙂

Well, it’s true. Stage fright never goes away 100% mostly because many factors are beyond your reach. For example, the location, equipment malfunction, your plane being late, and even the type and size of the audience you will present to, among other things. Assuming all other factors are in check, the art of public speaking has to do more with self-confidence than anything else. This means that even though stage fright might be present, the more confident you become, the easier it will be to keep the anxiety in check.

Here are some pointers for you to follow during your public speaking endeavor:

  • Practice Visualization
    Several days before your speaking engagement, take time to do this exercise. Take a deep breath and relax. Now picture yourself in front of the audience delivering the speech confidently and see the crowd listening with interest, taking notes, smiling, nodding in agreement, and finally standing up and giving a round of applause as you finish. As with any visualization, the more you do it, the more effective it will be and the more confident you will feel. For a successful visualization, add details and emotion. Feel it “as if” you were already there, giving your presentation!
  • Practice Your Presentation or Topic Beforehand
    Make sure your presentation is topic-oriented, appropriate for what the audience is expecting and at the level of understanding. This includes even the language you will use. Draw a small audience to practice with. Assign a timer and an evaluator during the simulation exercise. The timer records the length of your delivery so that it fits perfectly within the allotted time, giving you the opportunity to cover all of your information, and possibly leaving time for Q&A. The task of the evaluator, on the other hand, will be to check on the manner of your delivery – as well as the content of your topic.
  • Be Confident
    Being a bit nervous is quite alright but over doing it can detrimental. Confidence relieves nervousness in any undertaking and especially in public speaking. You can build the confidence needed to prevent feeling anxious by working on simulated speaking sessions prior to the speaking engagement. Show your confidence by mastering your topic -not mere memorizing- but by truly knowing your topic inside-out. Everything that you need, such as equipment and technical requirements, must be set up and tested prior to the presentation day.
  • Present-ability and Body Language
    First impressions count. Dress appropriately for the occasion. Comfort is a primary consideration. Clothes/suits that you don’t feel comfortable with can affect your stance and disposition on stage. Use your body language to your advantage. Present in a charismatic way that draws the attention of your audience.

    Stand tall and erect (good posture), maintain eye contact, and precision-time your movements on stage.
    If you need to use gestures to express a point, that is OK but don’t overdo it. Moving lightly can release some tension and nervousness. A hand in the pocket also works wonders while on stage rather than flicking your hands around. Always pay attention to your audience’s reactions in the course of your presentation. There may be signs of ineffectiveness and you may need to make little adjustments as you go to capture your audience attention back. Injecting humor when appropriate is good but make sure the topic of your presentation allows for it. Be careful not to overdo it either.

  • Speak with Conviction
    Believe in every word you say. This will radiate through your audience and will manifest your confidence and mastery of the topic you are presenting. During an open forum, listen to the questions being asked and respond accordingly.

Finally, remember to take sips of water as you go to prevent dry mouth, walk from one side of the stage to the other at a nice pace, and be conscious of the fact that you are talking to an audience not an individual, so change your eye focus from one person to another as you talk.

click meHere is a secret… we know that every speaker gets nervous at one point or another, even after years of delivering speeches and lots of practice. This is because every audience is different, the topics may vary and our level of confidence changes from one day to another for a variety of reasons.

Some days we may feel more confident than others, so take that into consideration and feel at ease with this fact. It is perfectly fine to feel a bit anxious but that doesn’t have to disable you when you’re speaking in public.

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