Charisma

Charisma

Your Personal Power Weapon!

Personal Power… the mere thought of those words make us feel empowered, wouldn’t you agree?

People who convey their personal power are people who have mastered the fine art of Charisma. And when we talk about charisma we can immediately think of having a positive attitude and an outgoing personality. This is why charismatic people attract like-minded individuals and situations that help them succeed.

And what exactly is charisma?

Charisma can be defined as a trait that can be found in some people with magnetic personalities and extreme charm. Charismatic people are usually calm, assertive, and self-confident. They are also authentic, able to focus on others, and masters at active listening.

They make others “feel important”.  They smile easily and do not take life too seriously. Many of them have also a gift for public speaking. They are loved by many and even envied by a few.

Can you think of someone you know who is naturally agreeable and friendly? Perhaps a person who you feel drawn to? Have you seen that person in a room full of strangers? Most likely they’ll start chatting and making friends in no time at all… right?

This is what being a people person means. Charismatic people are unbelievably nice and pleasant. They can charm almost anyone into doing anything, really!

A person with this personal magnetism can achieve greatness because they attract the precise people and situations that propel them to success. These people earn the trust and support of those around them with ease. And they can do anything they want to with the plethora of people behind them. All because they know how to use their charming personality to their advantage!

Charisma: Innate trait or can it be developed?

Some scholars affirm that certain personality traits like charisma can’t be learned; that we must be born with it. I disagree. I believe we all are born with the potential to be charming. If we really think about it, isn’t charisma a reflection of an abundance of self-confidence? And if this is so, why couldn’t we learn to overcome our self doubt and limitations? Do you agree with me?

Here are a few tips that can help you become charismatic. With practice, we can learn to exude self-confidence and become the people person we’d like to be.

1. Be authentic and true to yourself

Hypocrisy and selfishness can be perceived and will eventually drag you down. Be genuinely nice and interested in people.

2. Become an active listener

Learn to listen and sympathize with people to earn their trust, appreciation and love. When people have problems they want to be listened to. This is why people go to therapy! Active listening means not just hearing, but putting your heart into listening attentively.

Make eye contact when the person talks to you. Your body language is also important. Nod in agreement when appropriate. Listen as if every word matters. You will earn “brownie points” as they feel your empathy.

3. Learn to laugh out loud

Not in a silly way, but by finding humor in small things and not being too darn serious about life in general. A person oozing with an awesome sense of humor attracts crowds and eventually, success. People like to be around happy and positive people!

Also, learn to laugh about your own blunders. It will make you likable as you convey humbleness. People feel comfortable with a down-to-earth person.

4. Practice random acts of kindness

You don’t have to be a millionaire to blow your savings to charity and be noticed. What truly matters are little acts of kindness. It doesn’t need to be elaborated nor does it require prior planning. Be spontaneous and do it from the heart.

It can be a simple act like giving someone a flower, a phone call to ask how things are going or a word of encouragement for someone that’s feeling down. Even helping a senior cross the street counts!

5. Be willing to change

You must be willing to develop your personality openly. Focus on getting rid of bad traits and habits that may inhibit your growth. A charismatic person cannot be shy, grouchy, ill-tempered, or pessimistic. They do not snap at anyone, and know how to stay in control.

6. Develop self-confidence

Be able to stride to the other corner of the room and introduce yourself to people with that winning smile of yours. Just remember to be confident, not arrogant.

7. Cultivate your relationships

Your relationship with others should never be neglected. Be willing to go out and have fun with family and friends. Feeling happy around those who matter most to you will allow you to relax and practice all of the above points.

When you develop charisma you have an “edge” over others. You become powerful. People will feel drawn to you; they will trust you. You will feel like a magnet. People will look to you for leadership. They will try to emulate you, and this will allow you to influence them.

This can be exciting!

But please do not forget that all of this comes with a big responsibility. Don’t use it to manipulate others. Do not abuse this power. Instead, use your charisma to become a better and more lovable person.

Use it to your advantage but never to take advantage.

Use your charisma wisely and you will become a winner!

 

Creative Visualization

Creative Visualization

A simple and excellent technique to help you create your reality is creative visualization. With it, you make a conscious decision with a solid intent to manifest the deliberately created images in your mind.

This powerful technique has been used by top performers and athletes successfully worldwide. Sales people are trained to visualize themselves closing the sale, and marathon runners endure mental training in which they are taught to use imagery to see themselves crossing the finish line.

There is no reason why creative visualization wouldn’t work for you. The only thing you need is faith in your powerful mind and in what it can create, plus a bit of determination and patience. So get excited and let’s learn how to use this technique effectively.

“Whatever the Mind Can Conceive and Believe, It Can Achieve” 

~ Napoleon Hill,  Think and Grow Rich

Start by elaborating on one goal. It works better if you concentrate in achieving one goal at a time. Start by writing down a few specifics of the goal you want to achieve. Take the time to modify it and re-write it until it resonates with exactly what you want to see happen, details and all. Then, read it aloud every morning as you wake up and every night right before you retire. Do this for at least three days before you start visualizing. Make sure you are saying it with unwavering conviction and have faith that you will see it manifest.

On day four, prepare for your creative visualization. Set aside some time and plan to dedicate some time to your practice. Choose a quiet place and prepare to relax by sitting in a comfortable position and placing your hands facing up on your lap.

Take a few deep breaths by slowly breathing in through your nose, and slowly breathing out through your mouth, until you feel a slight tingling in your muscles which means you are relaxed.

Now focus on your goal and draw a detailed picture of it in your mind, just as you have written it and repeated it. Let’s say you want to experience swimming with dolphins.

Imagine this exact picture in your mind as vividly as possible: Visualize the dolphins and the blue ocean, hear their squeaks and whistles, smell the salty ocean, touch their soft, slippery skin when you rub their bellies, feel the cold water on your skin and look at the dolphins eyes to feel connected to them and the experience. Now, notice the happiness this experience is bringing to your senses.

Take the time to love every aspect of your experience as you imagine it. Bring it to life by FEELING every aspect of it and use as many of your senses as possible. Picture it exactly as if you were there!

One amazing added advantage about creative visualization is that you can feel and obtain the same benefits of the actual experience by just living it in your mind

Our subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between real or make-believe, so when you engage all of your senses in the “imaginary” experience, you’re actually making your mind “believe” it is happening right then and there. This practice will release the energy which will move the right elements to bring what you want into the physical plane.

Be patient and persistent. For some of us it may take longer to see results, but if you have faith and know in your heart it will happen, it just will.

You can apply the creative visualization technique to almost every aspect of life, from goal setting to memory improvement, from sports performance to weight loss, from self-healing to enhancing mood, from problem-solving to decision-making, and everything in between.

You can even use creative visualization to create abundance and prosperity!

Once you get a hold of it, you can visualize virtually anywhere and anytime. Just find a quiet place where you can be by yourself and not be disturbed for a few moments. I’ve heard some people get so good at it, they can do it while riding the train or sitting at the beach on a busy Sunday morning!

Remember… just relax and keep the focus on what you want to do, achieve or acquire. Add as many details as you can and engage your emotions. Simply keep replaying this inner film in your mind as if you were actually participating in it. And if you want to make your visualization more vivid and effective, you can create a vision board and/or state affirmations. These techniques will give life to your imagery.

Before you know it, you’ll be living it!

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Self Talk

Self-Talk

How You Communicate with Your “Self”

Self-talk, inner chatter, on-going self-dialog, the little voice in our heads… either you are conscious of it or not, we all do it… all day long.

From the moment we are born, we are interacting with and absorbing information from our surrounding environment. This is how we grow up, by relating to, connecting with and learning from the encounters and events that happen around us. In time, we become creatures of habit and develop into the unique individuals that each one of us is.

Actually, scientists have proven that we retain in our brains every single thing we have ever seen, heard, read, talked over, touched, tasted, and smelled, much like in a huge data-base of information that keeps on growing as time passes; however, we don’t always have conscious access to it all. And that is a good thing in a way. Think about it! It would be mind boggling!

But, for better or for worse, every experience no matter how small, is still in there, recorded in your brain, giving raise to your uniqueness and affecting the way in which you think and interact with the world at large.

Part of that learning and adapting includes the development of self-talk patterns. Yes, we literally learn to have conversations with ourselves and in time, this becomes habitual. Most of us do it silently, but some folks talk to themselves out loud. I’m sure you’ve seen people who do this! 😉

As we know, the more we practice a certain thing and anything, the more rooted the behavior becomes. This is no different with inner chatter. However, self-talk can create extra burden and stress because we often let it run wild without realizing how it’s impacting our life.

This is not to say that all self-talk is harmful. Actually –and fortunately- most of it is not. If you need to pick your child at school by noon, keep a dental appointment, or getting up to speed at work, you may find yourself exerting self-talk around these issues.

Thoughts such as “I need to hurry up to get to my 3:00 o’clock dental appointment on time” or “I have to submit this report by 5:00 o’clock today” actually help us function as responsible human beings, and it is perfectly normal and healthy. However, when the self-talk becomes negative, judgmental, gloomy, or even cynical, it can be harmful and self-destructive.

Such is the case of the person that continuously repeats to himself that “I’ll never be able to lose weight” or “Learning that skill is just for smart people” or “I’ll never get out of debt because…” or… you get the idea.

When negative dialog goes on in your mind frequently, you are reinforcing this kind of self-talk that becomes –you guessed it- an habitual behavior. This kind of chatter creates, feeds and supports limiting beliefs. It is what keep people stuck.

As if that was not enough, the problem goes deeper than that. You see, your subconscious mind wants to please and protect you. After all, it is responsible to keep you alive and well, all within your comfort zone. Furthermore, your subconscious mind takes everything at face value. It doesn’t know the difference between right and wrong and cannot discern among reality and fiction. Thus, to prove yourself right, your subconscious mind makes every effort to bring your affirmations –either positive or negative- into your reality. Here is the sequence of this vicious cycle:


Negative self-talk plus persistence leads to habits which create limiting beliefs that give raise to self-defeating behaviors which affect your results that help reinforce the behavior which leads to more negative thoughts!

Self-talk directly affects your moods, emotions, behavior and actions. Thus… Your on-going self-talk is giving shape to your future, literally! No wonder self-talk becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy!

The good news is that we all have the ability to reprogram our minds for the better. After all, we are intelligent beings with free will and in constant evolution. The first thing is to acknowledge that something needs to change, and then follow up with persistent action. Let’s discuss this step by step…

The human brain is the most powerful computer in the world, and it seems as if it cannot be turned off. The average adult has between 55K and 60K thoughts per day! We spend most of our awake hours thinking… amazing, isn’t it?

Even now, as you read this, there is an underlying and subtle chatter going on in your mind, frequently several thoughts happen at the same time… stop reading this, close your eyes and listen for a moment…

The amazing thing is not that we are able to have thousands of thoughts on any given day, but that this activity goes on inside our brains in a wild and rampant way, and it remains unacknowledged most of the time.

Once you become aware of your self-talk, you are a step closer to identifying which of your inner voices is causing you more harm than good. Yes, some ‘voices‘ are more harmful than others. Feeling strange yet?

Now, the known mantra “Control Your Thoughts and Change Your Life” takes new meaning, doesn’t it? Here are the steps to transform your self-talk into a positive experience

  • Awareness

    As stated above, this is essential to gain control over your self-talk. Dedicate 15 minutes each day for a week to just pay attention to your inner chatter. Go to a place where you won’t be interrupted and relax. Just observe what goes on within your mind without trying to alter or direct your thoughts in any way. Do not judge or give your opinion either. Just become an observer while you let your chatter run wild. Take mental notes.

  • Analysis 

    Now take a few moments to analyze the validity of the negative inner talk you just witnessed. Do you actually believe your thoughts are accurate and realistic? If you examine this carefully you may even be able to identify the roots of your limiting belief! To better explain this, let’s set an example. Let’s pretend you are looking for a job and you found yourself thinking that you were so nervous in yesterday’s interview that you’ll never be able to land that job.Do you perceive your nervousness like an opportunity to learn and grow, or like a challenge or even a threat to your self-esteem and future employment?

    Do you perceive the experience as an opportunity to prepare better for the next interview or as a self-defeating behavior that you cannot control? Can you relate this limiting thought to something that happened in your past?More often than not, when you dissect your inner talk in this manner you’ll be able to expose the reality of the situation in a favorable way by realizing that there is always room for improvement, that you are capable of changing your circumstances, and that your negative though is never absolute.

  • Determination

    Once you are more aware of your self-talk and do this on a regular basis, be determined to find a way to stop your thought process every time you catch a negative inner chatter; i.e. I use the word STOP or CANCEL and either say it out loud or see the letters in bright colors on the screen of my mind. A more drastic measure that works for some people is to wear a rubber band on your wrist and let it snap on your skin every time you discover a negative thought.

  • Affirmations

    When you learn to stop your negative inner chatter as it happens, you will soon realize that if you don’t substitute it with something else, your mind will tend to go back to the original thought once the STOP sign is gone. This is when you need to be ready to affirm yourself positively every time you catch a negative talk going on in your mind.Let’s stick to the example above. If you catch yourself thinking “… I get so nervous when I interview that I’ll never find a job.” As soon as you notice this chatter, go immediately to STOP and soon after switch to “Every time I get interviewed I become more confident and get closer to get hired for the job of my dreams.” Even if it sounds fake to you, remember that your subconscious does not know the difference between fact and fiction. When you do this often, your conscious mind will eventually catch up and believe it as well.

  • Visualization and Focus

    As you state the positive affirmation, see yourself in that situation on the screen of your mind. Visualize yourself being hired, shaking hands, filling out paperwork to start working, or whatever image that helps you reinforce your affirmation. Focus on this image for a few minutes. Feel it. Enjoy the feeling that this scenario causes. Breathe. Know that you will get the perfect job!Because of their automatic nature, it can be quite challenging to change negative thoughts. However, since false beliefs and cognitive distortions are learned behaviors they CAN indeed be changed. Just know this. Fortunately for us, there are new programs that facilitate these changes, such as “The 8 Secret Self-Talk Programs” that focuses on changing your programming wherever you need it most.

Above it all, remember to be patient with this process and practice, practice and practice, until it becomes second nature for you which will develop into a NEW and productive habit. All you need is determination, perseverance, and the right attitude.

Here are a couple of extra suggestions for you… A powerful self-help technique that I use until this day, is autosuggestion. I recently wrote about how this technique helped me when I was under stress during my student and College years. Also, the following video may help you better understand the mechanics of “negative self-talk“…

Note: Tools for Abundance has no association with Darryl Cross.
This video is shared for informational purposes only.

Improve Your Self Confidence with Subliminal Messages

Improve Your Self-Confidence

with Subliminal Messages

Did you know that self-confidence is an illusion? Yes, it is all in your mind!

smilingLet me explain… Our brains are truly amazing in a multitude of ways. One of them is the ability to become increasingly resourceful as we grow up by developing different pathways to adapt and make progress for a variety of purposes in life.

This extremely intricate matter develops as every human being goes through his own unique life path, and these infinite variations affect our self-confidence and personality as we go.

Life experiences give origin to a vast network of neuro-pathways in which 1000’s of messages are sent every second, every day. Because of its complicated structure no two people are alike.

During the course of our lives our brains grow, develop, reshape, pick up patterns some of thinking and eliminate others -which become normal to each one of us, and even help us to do a large amount of tasks on auto-pilot; and we all do this despite sharing the same functions at the organ and system levels.

And then, environmental factors also play a role for developing self-confidence. For instance, thanks to a good teacher a child may have a positive experience in school, thus he learns to enjoy studying and use his brains more for that purpose. Another may go on to excel in sports, and develop the perfect mindset and patterns of thinking that are required for sports success. These kids have had good experiences that helped them enhance their self-confidence.

If the majority of their experiences are like these, most likely these kids will grow up into adulthood feeling and looking naturally confident. They will develop a confident voice and because of that, people will listen when they talk. They will go on to thrive on social situations.

But not all experiences are positive. So as we progress through life and add on from our experiences, we also end up storing patterns of thinking and self-beliefs that are not always helpful to develop a healthy self confidence or achieve our full potential.

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Sadly, at one point or another, we all receive negative feedback which creates a negative response mechanism in the brain.

An example of this is the person who is told that they are not good at something. If the person believes that predicament, a negative response is triggered in his brain and his self-confidence suffers. If these experiences become habitual, they may eventually become the cause that prevents them from achieving success in a variety of things.

When a negative reaction in the brain stems from this kind of feedback, it creates a shutdown of certain neuro-pathways. To a certain point, this is a good thing. This mechanism of our mind gets activated to protect us from rejection and criticism; however, everything has a downside.

As the person goes through this experience, his core gets affected, his self-confidence gets eroded, and imaginary limitations develop.

Not all experiences are life shattering, but as we go through life, these patterns of behavior and self-beliefs become a firm part of our personality, of who we are, and because of them we rarely live up to our full potential. The good news is that these self-imposed limitations can be broken as we learn to rewire our brains.

Perhaps you have found yourself wondering why you seem more introverted and “naturally” shy that your friends, co-workers or a certain family member. You have perhaps felt like these confident people have something special to their names and that you will never be really confident like them, but now you have learnt that this isn’t true.

Confidence is a skill which anyone can learn, and it may be easier than you think!

Here is How…

climbing_outSubliminal messages offer a simple way to reprogram our subconscious mind.

These audio messages help you eliminate specific negative beliefs that are holding you back. They replace unhelpful thoughts with affirmative ones to help you recover the belief in your SELF, a necessary trait to recover your self-confidence and reach success.

As these messages target your subconscious mind directly, they induce changes that affect your perceptions and in turn improve upon your self-belief. Subliminal messages are a powerful tool because you are not consciously aware of the messages. This is a good thing as they bypass the critical component of the conscious mind and gradually build to shape your mind in a beneficial way, starting at the “basement” of your SELF, so to speak.

Once the new beliefs are instilled in your subconscious mind, they will naturally spill into your conscious mind and propel you to begin gradual changes in your way of thinking. Slowly and steadily they will replace old useless beliefs with positive ones, planting powerful seeds of self-confidence that eventually result in improved patterns of behavior with the consequent results.

Imagine the feeling of having the same set of self-beliefs as a person who is very confident, a person who feels excited to interact with others, who feels more charismatic and extroverted…

Imagine how your life could change if you were free of detrimental self-perceptions and as a result your self-esteem blossomed! Just imagine how much more you could achieve in life feeling at the top of the world!

All of this and more is possible with subliminal messages as they rewire your subconscious mind and redesign your life in many different ways for the better. You can try Subliminal MP3s for FREE and decide for yourself. Get three highly effective albums now, and experience amazing changes for yourself!

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