Personal Magnetism

The Art And Science of

Personal Magnetism

Do you ever wonder why some people who are far less physically-attractive than you have the ability to draw to themselves the exact people they need to for them to prosper? What if you could develop your Personal Magnetism to attain anything you want in life?

I recently found a little ebook that will help you achieve exactly that. And you are not going to believe how easy is to get this ability! Keep on reading and prepare to me amazed…

The Art And Science Of Personal Magnetism” by American Pioneer New Age Movement author, Theron Q. Dumont (alias Yogi Ramacharaka and William Walker Atkinson) offers a clear explanation of how to exert a powerful, irresistible influence on the reason or will of another. Think about it… what could you get if you had this power?

Absolutely Everything!

Mr. Dumont describes the two distinct poles of personal magnetism and how success depends on the coordination of the force between these poles.

We are dual organisms with both mental and physical phases of manifestation in mind and body, so when these poles coordinate with each other it results in the work of manifesting energy and creating effects.

You see, the problem for most of us is that we have one of our poles more defined than the other, but the individual that manifests to the higher degree of personal magnetism is the one who’s developed along both poles of activity synchronistically.

According to Mr. Dumont, the mental pole of personal magnetism depends for its force and energy on the ability of the mind to create thought-waves and to project them beyond the limits of the brain, into the personal atmosphere of the individual, and even beyond the range of his own personal atmosphere when necessary.

When accompanied with the physical magnetism generated by the other pole of magnetic activity, this mental magnetism strongly affects other persons that are within the field of action of these thought-waves r vibrations. However, without a good supply of the physical magnetism, these thought-waves fail to have sufficient strength to produce explicit results.

It would seem that the physical magnetism was needed to give “body” to the mental magnetism, just as the mental magnetism is needed to give color, character or “soul” to the physical magnetism. The two phases of magnetism must work together to gain he best effects.

So how do we coordinate these poles within us?

Mr. Dumont explains the characteristics of the poles, how they work together as well as the simple and straightforward very effective technique to make them work synchronistically to our advantage.

I highly recommend you get this ebook and learn how you can develop your own Personal Magnetism. This is an All-Time Classic of metaphysical science that will have you develop the ability of personal magnetism in no time at all. Get this classic now! Just click on the ebook cover image for access to details and immediate download after purchase.

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Lucid Dreaming

Exploring

Lucid Dreaming

Do you remember all the hype around Virtual Reality about 10 years ago?

If you believed what the experts were saying back then, we would be spending our time today exploring alternative worlds and having a lot of fun with adventures as special agents, powerful warriors or even superheroes … all as if we were really living the experience right there and then.

Sadly, technology has not gotten quite there yet … but some exciting prototypes are being tested as I write this (Dec, 2016.) However, there are people who enjoy adventures in virtual reality one, two or more times per week, and without fancy technology. These fortunate few have learned to harness the power of lucid dreaming.

Unlike usual dreams which can be hazy, strange and frequently forgotten as soon as you wake up, lucid dreams are very different and quite special because when you dream in this fashion you are actually awake inside your dream!

In other words, imagine this: You are warm in your bed and start dreaming. Only you know you’re dreaming, yet the things you are dreaming about are ‘out of the ordinary.’ Nevertheless, the world around you seems as ‘real‘ as the one you’re in now, as you are reading this article. Exciting, uh?! But you might be asking…

Why Would I Want to Learn Lucid Dreaming?

A sleeping person who is dreaming lucidly knows that he(she) is awake inside the dream and can even remember the dream, totally or partially after he awakens. The amazing thing is that those who have developed this amazing ability are able to control or redirect the outcomes of their dreams. This could be compared to plotting a sci-fi movie in which you get to decide what you do (how about flying like Superman?) and how the story ends.

Now, think about it… This is HUGE because you can manipulate your dream to your liking and experience the dream ‘as if’ it was a reality which helps you modify limiting beliefs, handle fears, achieve seemingly impossible things, and reprogram your subconscious mind to succeed at anything you want!

Imagine the possibilities!

Let’s say that you had fear of heights and that you have trained yourself to lucid dream. You go to sleep and through a series of prompts, you begin to dream lucidly.

This means that you are awake within your dream. Then, you purposefully picture yourself climbing a ladder in total confidence. You can add as many details as you want and see yourself totally confident, fearless, courageous, and enjoying the experience. Since your subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between yes and no and can’t discern reality from fantasy, you will be living and feeling the experience as if you were actually there.

Think about it… you can use lucid dreaming as a self-development technique to achieve goals, enhance your self-growth and become the person you want to be, easier, faster, and  having fun… almost effortlessly!

Types of Lucid Dreaming

There are two ways with which lucid dreaming begins. The first one is called the dream-initiated lucid dream. It refers to a person who is asleep, starts dreaming and then begins to be conscious of the fact that he is dreaming while being able to remain asleep. The second one is called the wake-initiated lucid dream. In this one the person is still fully awake yet falls into a state of dream and can ‘live‘ the experiences as if they were real as well.

How To Lucid Dream

The good news is that everyone can develop the ability to dream in this fashion. There are simple methods and techniques to develop the ability to lucid dreaming which have been proven to be effective and safe for many people. To start, all you need to do is believe that you will be able to achieve the goal of gaining this ability, and you will.

Here are some points to learn and follow:

  • Practice Reality Checks

If you are in a state of disbelief about something that you consider out of the ordinary or abnormal, check it out against something that is real. That’s how you’ll know you are dreaming. For instance, grab a pencil with your right hand right now and try to pierce the palm of your left hand with it. You will feel pressure and if you do it long enough, you will feel pain. This will indicate that you are awake. If you were dreaming, you’d be able to pierce the palm of your left hand and see the pencil going straight through, with no resistance, blood or pain.

The practice of reality checks while awake will eventually leak into your dreams and will become the signal that let’s you know you are actually asleep. When this becomes habitual, you will start to dream about this and soon conclude that indeed you are dreaming. Make it a habit to practice reality checks like these while you go about your day.

  • Write Your Dreams in a Journal

As soon as you are awake, recall your dream and write it down with precision; such as place, people, events, facts, and what exactly happened; write down as much details as you remember. Don’t wait long as significant points become blurry soon after awakening.

When you keep a dream journal, you will soon discover that there are common dream patterns or details that are present in your dreams.

This will help you first identify if the dream is lucid, and then it will help you fall into this kind of dream on purpose and more often.

  • Concentrate on Dreaming Lucidly

Before falling asleep, focus your attention and concentration on having a lucid dream. Soak your mind deeply in the subject by reading, learning, and thinking about it as much as possible. Talk about this interest of yours with others and make it a subject of curiosity and exploration so it becomes a frequent instance in your mind.

  • Establish Your Own Sleeping Schedule

Lucid dreaming can be induced by establishing a sleeping time and pattern, because as with any habit, the more you do it the more predictable it becomes. So plan to determine the best time for you to go to sleep and stick to it to train your mind to fall asleep at a certain time and follow patterns with ease in this manner.

  • Create a Personal Reminder

A personal reminder can be a small object to help you confirm that you are awake after having had a lucid dream. It will be your clue to determine whether you are indeed awake or not. When you see and feel this object in your hand, it creates a signal that prompts you to realize that you are indeed awake.

Here’s an example of this

If you watched the mind-bending movie “Inception” by acclaimed filmmaker Christopher Nolan and leading actor Leonardo DiCaprio playing the character of Cobb, you’ll recall that at the end of the movie the viewer is left to make his/her own conclusions based on perception and interpretation of what happens to the spinning top.

Was Cobb still dreaming when he went back to his children or was the spinning top about to fall over and confirm the scene was an awaken reality? The top was the signal (personal reminder) that Cobb used throughout the movie to determine whether he was awake or dreaming because no top will spin indefinitely, unless it is in a dream.

  • Mnemonic Induction of Lucid Dreaming (MILD) Technique

This technique was introduced by Stephen Laberge, a psycho-physiologist and leader in the scientific study of lucid dreaming, and founder of “The Lucidity Institute.” The technique allows you to recall your dream in as much detail as possible and becoming conscious that you are dreaming by repetitively telling yourself that you are dreaming.

Of course, these are  a few basic principles of this practice. To become very good at lucid dreaming, more learning, understanding and practice are needed. Experts can do this effectively and at will, and the benefits are only limited to one’s imagination. Just think about this… anything is possible when you are dreaming, and the subconscious mind does not differentiate between fact or fiction… what would your plan be if you were to dream lucidly tonight?

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Autosuggestion

Autosuggestion

A Powerful Self Help Technique

One of the memories I hold dear to my heart, is my father’s persistence in my learning and practicing autosuggestion as a self-help technique. At first, I thought this was a silly little thing and didn’t give it too much thought. However, every time he saw me getting stressed about upcoming school tests, he’d remind me of the power of autosuggestion, recommend an approach and encourage me to give it a try.

So one day I did… and –of course- nothing happened. Nonetheless, I decided to keep on trying as he’d warned me that it would take practice and consistency for it to work.

After all, I had nothing to lose, and if he was right, it would help me get rid of this annoying thing that I experienced every time I had a test at school.

You see, every time I was about to start writing answers to the questions posed on my test, my palms would start sweating profusely to the point that the pencil would become slippery and I could not write fast enough, let along legibly!

This was not only tremendously annoying, but it slowed me down and stressed me more. So I kept on practicing autosuggestion as instructed by my father, until the day I was able to notice the change that made me a believer.

As I felt less anxious and more confident, my palms stopped sweating. Not only that but the more I practiced, the better the results I got. Needless to say, I consider autosuggestion an invaluable technique that I practice to this day for a variety of things, from getting up early in the morning without an alarm clock (give it a try, it is fun and it’ll make you a believer!), to more elaborated goals.

But what exactly is autosuggestion and how it can help you?

Long before affirmations and the law of attraction became common talk, autosuggestion was used for many purposes, either consciously or unconsciously.

As you certainly know, the subconscious mind receives all kinds of information from the conscious mind. These bits of information come through our five senses and are related to how we see and perceive the world around us. When these experiences are repeated continuously, they sink into the subconscious mind and become an intrinsic part of who we are, what we believe and how we behave.

Unfortunately, some of these experiences may not be working on our behalf. And fortunately, there is something that can be done about that. With this I mean that we can condition our subconscious mind to hold certain beliefs to enhance our experiences; and through repetition, they become the reality we experience on a regular basis.

The autosuggestion technique helps you precisely with this. It is a technique that when learned and applied correctly, has the power to influence the subconscious mind according to your instructions. In other words, autosuggestion helps your subconscious mind believe a specific affirmation with an intended goal.

An interesting fact is that autosuggestion goes one step beyond positive affirmations. This is because affirmations are broader in structure while the autosuggestion technique bypasses your thinking mind and the awareness of your material body to go and affirm your unique human spirit identified with the words: I AM. This fact alone makes it a more powerful statement directed precisely to your subconscious mind.

Here is an example for you to compare. The first statement is a positive affirmation; the second line has two autosuggestion statements. More on that in a moment.

I enjoy happiness and wealth

I AM happy” and “I AM wealthy

I invite you to read both lines out loud. Did you feel the difference while stating out loud “I AM”?

I am not saying that affirmations don’t work. What I’m implying is that autosuggestion statements can be a more powerful technique for some of us. As individuals, we know well that what works for one may not work for another. Give both a try and see what works for you. That is the ultimate goal, after all.

The following three steps will help you practice autosuggestion effectively in your life:

  • “I AM” statements.

Always use “I AM” to state your suggestion in the present moment and in the first person. As you have already experienced, there is something intrinsic and very powerful in those two words. These words center you right at the precise moment you state them.

As mentioned above, one simple example of this is “I AM happy”. When this self affirmation is stated on a regular basis, it becomes an autosuggestion which eventually sinks into the subconscious mind where it will be taken at face value. Moreover, this practice will help you focus on happy moments on a more regular basis versus the anxious driven, overwhelmed or sad moments you may be experiencing in your life.

An interesting thing to notice is that those sad, anxious moments won’t just disappear in a blink; however, your subconscious mind will become trained to focus on “happy” moments instead; thus, bringing more of those experiences to your life. If you have ever met a person with huge problems and wondered how they manage to smile and live life on a positive slant, now you know how.

  • Align your auto-suggestion with relevant emotions.

When you add feeling to the statement as if it’s happening right now, your subconscious mind takes it as an actual reality in the moment of now.

It’s important to mention that the subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between reality or fantasy, nor among true or false, or yes or no. This applies to feelings as well. Thus, when you make an “I AM” statement with feeling, your subconscious will take it at face value, just as if it’s happening right now, giving more power to the autosuggestion.

  • Repetition is powerful.

Write your statement exactly as you want to impress it upon your subconscious mind. Then read it aloud several times until you memorize it. Make it a point to repeat it as often as you remember throughout your day and preferably state it out loud. This engages more of your senses, reinforcing the statement you are thinking about.

Commit to do this often, several times per day, until it becomes second nature to you and you see your statement come to pass. It is NOT recommended to use two or more autosuggestion statements in one sentence as it delays the actual experience of both. For instance, when I wanted to get rid of my sweaty palms while taking school tests, I just focused on “I AM confident.” This statement allowed me to get rid of my test-taking anxiety, and answer the questions in a relaxed manner, which resulted in dry palms.

Once your goal is attained, you can move into using a new autosuggestion for another area of your life.

Want to master autosuggestion easier and faster? (I wish this had been available to me back then!)

Statistics show that the average adult processes over 60,000 thoughts every 24 hours and of those, 90% happen at a subconscious level.

When you consider this, you can clearly see why most of us live on automatic. Now, while some of these things are perfectly OK to do without conscious involvement –such as brushing our teeth or tying our shoes- I’m sure you’ll agree with me that more important things require not only involvement on our part but conscious intervention.

This is where autosuggestion can play a major role in changing your life for the better.

I encourage you to add this method to your self development techniques arsenal. Learn it and practice it on any area of your life, from day to day living to more elaborated and bigger life goals. As you practice and get better at it, you’ll become more and more amazed at the results you can create!

“Live as if it were already manifest and you shall find it manifest.”

~ Henry Harrison Brown, author.
“How to Control Fate through Suggestion” – 1901

Positive Attitude

The Power of  

Positive Attitude

At a deep level, we all know that a negative attitude can have a destructive impact in our lives. However, many people seldom stop to realize this and frequently allow external factors, events, and conditions to direct their lives.

Actually, we not only have the power to change our views, moods and circumstances as we go through life, but we have a responsibility to do so!

Do you have your own good reasons to change negativity into positivity? I’m sure you can think of a few of your own. Here are some of my thoughts and beliefs ont he subject matter. See if you agree:

  • When you develop a positive attitude, you tend to focus on the positive traits of people around you, so you become an upbeat person, which leads to the improvement of your relationships. Compare that to noticing the flaws on people regularly. Would they want to establish a relationship with you if all you can see is the “wrong”in them?
  • When you are a positive person, you become more productive. Positive people get excited about their projects at home and at work because they see the goal as an accomplishment instead of ‘one more task to do.‘ When you perceive your responsibilities as burdensome, you end up procrastinating and getting stressed which only further feeds the cycle of discouragement and negativity.
  • When you are a positive person, you become more attractive. YES. Positivity shows. People feel drawn to you as if you were a magnet. You beam good vibes; you feel good about yourself and about the world. And, it becomes contagious.
  • When you are a positive person, you become healthier. Regardless of the origin of aches and pains, positive people tend to heal and recover faster and stay healthier for longer periods of time. Actually, there is scientific evidence that supports this: when you have the inclination to savor happy moments in your life frequently, your brain gets re-wired as endorphins get released often. This fact positively affects your health.

By the same means, negativity is contagious in both, inner and outer worlds. When you have a negative thought, it’s usually followed by more negativity as you try to justify the first thought. If you don’t become aware of this, negative inner chatter  becomes the norm and starts ruling your life, affecting your mental, emotional and physical health.

In the outer world, when you feel pesimistic or negative, those around you feel your vibes and they either walk away to avoid you or react to your moods and modes, making it a vicious negative cycle for all involved.

Thus, being negative is detrimental to your overall well-being -in and out- and to the well-being of those around you. It’s even been proven that -all other elements equaly present- plants thrive around positive people. They are healthier, greener and grow faster!

As you’ve probably heard a million times by now,  ‘like attracts like’ and this is especially true when it comes to attitudes. If you have experienced an uncomfortable feeling around a person who you’ve never met or in a room full of grouchy people you know this is true. The opposite happens when you are sharing a moment with happy people. Just think about the vibes found in a wedding, the birth of a baby or a birthday party, and you’ll know what I mean.

Moreover, living in a negative state is a waste of energy and time! When you think about it, it is way easier to adopt positivity and live a happier life regardless of the circumstances around you because when you think about it, everyone has ups and downs in life and we ALL have something to be grateful for. We should focus on the things to be grateful for often in order to experience a positive life. Like my mom says… “If the problem has a solution, why worry; and if it doesn’t, why worry?” It all comes and goes in due time.

Instant Positive Attitude by David Baird, shows you how to lower stress, increase self-confidence and reprogram your mind for a life of success, all by adopting a positive attitude. This is NOT just another book about positive thinking or the reasons that support having a positive attitude. It is a book that will give you the “how” so you can do certain things to live in positivity every single day of your life.

Take a look a these few points in the table of contents:

  • The three major factors that influence attitude… and how you can quickly and easily gain control of each!
  • 9 traits of a successful person… and how to ensure that you have all 9!
  • 12 common obstacles to success… and how to overcome them like a world champion hurdler!
  • How to turn failure into a stepping stone for success … if you don’t read anything else, you absolutely must read this important advice!
  • The two most influencing factors on our behavior… and how to gain control of both of them!
  • The three things you must have to succeed in life… and how to ensure that you have all of them in abundance!
  • How to turn failure into a stepping stone for success… if you don’t read anything else, you absolutely must read this important advice!
  • How to overcome the fears that can negatively impact your positive attitude
  • How to learn to trust yourself and have confidence in your decisions
  • How to ensure your children grow up with a positive attitude
  • And so much more!

Did you notice the trend in the table of contents? David Baird concentrates on the “How” to do things to make positivity a part of your life, not JUST on telling you that you should have a positive attitude. This is why this book is far from ordinary.

And it includes these fabulous bonus… How to Develop the Interpersonal Skills You Need to Succeed Today!

Now that I think about it, this is not just a book but a complete system that shows you exactly HOW to live a positive life. It includes everything to learn the power of positivity, Get it now while it is available at a very low introductory price. With a 60 day money back guarantee, you’ve got nothing to lose and a lot of positivity to gain.

It is a must for those who want to improve the quality of their lives!

Highly recommended!

 

 

 

Building Self-Esteem in Children

Building

Self-Esteem in Children

Self-esteem refers to the way an individual perceives his/her self-worth in reference to their abilities to do or accomplish something. This is the reason it is vital to help children develop a good self-esteem from the early years, so they can have a more positive life experience overall.

When children have a high sense of self-worth or self-value, their attitude to respond to life’s challenges is more optimistic in nature; thus, they react more positively to challenges and as such thet are able to navigate through the ups and downs of life easier. After all, children who have a ‘can do‘ attitude are naturally more able to achieve milestones and experience success.

The benefits of high self-esteem in children are numerous. Research has shown that kids who have a high perception of their self-worth or self-value tend to succeed more and achieve more in their adult life. Children who go through life believing that they have the ability to accomplish anything generally turn out to be adults that their parents will feel proud of. Besides pride, as parents we want to see our children grow up to be happy and successful adults.

Self-Esteem in Children – How to Shape it from the Early Years

Several studies conclude that self-esteem can be developed by focusing on two main key points: a sense of being secure, loved and supported which results in a healthy feeling of belonging, and a sense of capability and self-trust.

The first point, feeling secure, loved and supported, is directly influenced by the adults in the child’s life; mainly how they perceive her, how they treat her, and how they react to what she does.  Parents, teachers, family members and other significant adults in the child’s life should make an effort to encourage and prise the child even when the child fails at something. This will ensure he feels supported and the sense of belonging will strenghten throughout the years, as he realizes that he can count on the adults in his life for guidance, learning and support.

The second point, a sense of capability and self-trust, will naturally develop throughout time as the child feels secure, loved and supported.

A word of caution… smothering children in adoration to the extent that they would be incapable of doing things independently isn’t the way to go, either. Experts in this field of research call for a balance between showing them reliable and consistent proof that they are loved, while allowing them to do things without overbearing and independence-crushing supervision.

The importance of self-esteem in children can be made manifest by the changes and developments that children experience as time goes by. If you’re a parent and you want to save your child from suffering the effects of low self-esteem, the following ideas can help you improve the way your child develops her self-perception:

  • Be positive
    Everything that you can say to your child is better said in a positive way. This is even more important if you need to reprimand or correct your child. Focusing on the positive would teach him that there is a better way to look at or do things, and that he can always choose the more pleasant take on life.
  • Provide a loving environment
    Children who are assured of the fact that they are loved tend to be more confident in everything they do. If she is sure that her existence in the world is being noticed in a lovingly way, she will have a higher opinion of her self-worth.
  • Praise your child for a job well done
    Most parents take good behavior for granted and just correct their children when the behavior is less desirable. When you make an effort to notice good behavior and make a positive comment, you will be building and reinforcing your child self-esteem. As a nice side effect, you will get a smile or grin from your child that will surely warm your heart.
  • Effort counts more than results
    Let’s acknolwdge that children learn as they grow up; thus, there will be inevitable blunders and slipups on the way. Recognize the effort more than the result and make sure he knows that it is OK not to get everything right the first time. Let him know that setbacks and hurdles are just a part of life and that instead of feeling bad about the situation, he can learn from it and do it better next time around. If he is old enough to understand and make comparisons, share with him situations in which you failed and what you learned from the experience. He will value you by knowing you also make mistakes every now and then. If you do this often, you’ll get a beautiful side effect: the parent-child relationship will get stronger over time.
  • Practice active listening
    Parents don’t usually think that active listening is an essential part of building self-esteem in children. However, when they get interested in their child’s activities and play, they get to listen to what they say. This helps in two ways: your child feels that she is important to you (and builds her self-esteem as she feels loved and accepted), and it will allow you identify self-esteem issues if they ever arise.

There are plenty of ideas, techniques and tools to help us build self-esteem in general, and many of them are good, but one is excellent especially for children:

The Children’s Self Esteem Online Program and Certification by none other than Dr. Joe Rubino, a subject-matter expert, offers a comprehensive approach to building self-esteem in children, yet it is easy to learn and follow.

This program is fantastic for any parent, educator, teacher, grandparent and every other adult that interacts with children. You will get strategies, ideas and insights to help the children in your life grow up to become their best. Additionally, if you are a coach or want to be one, this program offers a certification – a valuable and useful asset you can add to your qualifications.

Either way, this program should be in the hands of all who want to empower the next generation and help them develop their confidence to life a well-rounded and joyful life. After all, the children of today are our future. Let’s help them become the best version of themselves!

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Building Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence

Building Self Esteem and Self Confidence

How would you assess your own self-worth?

There is a difference between self-esteem and self-confidence. One builds upon the other, and when a person possesses these two traits, the benefits are powerful and can be life-changing.

Self-confidence is a personal attribute that starts to build up from childhood, and refers to the ability to recognize and acknowledge one’s capability to undertake any endeavor.

This characteristic often develops from within, with the support of the people you grew up with, mainly your parents, teachers and other significant adults in your life.

A person who is self-confident is certain that the things he/she needs to do will be done accordingly, without being doubtful or needing to be affirmed by others because they believe in themselves.

Self esteem, on the other hand, is your own overall perception of your value as a person; it refers to how you regard yourself with respect to your responsibilities, obligations, efforts, relationships, and social status. Self-esteen also develops from childhood depending on how the people around you perceived and treated you; however, since it is subjective, it is something that you can always work to improve.

The interesting thing about these two traits is that they create a self-fulfilling cycle in which one builds upon the other. Thus, the more self-confidence you have, the higher your self-esteem will be and vice versa.

Factors in Building Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence

Several factors affect these two personal attributes. If a child lives in a nurturing, motivating and affirming environment, he/she is most likely to grow up confident and highly esteemed. On the other hand, a hostile and critical environment instills fear, rejection, insecurities and other factors that erode self-confidence.

The childhood years may either boost or lower a child’s self-esteem and self-confidence. These can go up and down according to the experiences the child encounters while growing up. Traumatic events in life such as abandonment, separation and death can greatly affect a child. Even physical characteristics and mental capabilities can create a dent on self-confidence and self-esteem.

People who come in contact with a child or young adult also influence these traits. Even adults are prone to lose or gain confidence and self-esteem. For instance, if a man loses his job and is having a hard time finding another, his self-esteem gets damaged and as a consequence, his self-confidence gets eroded as well. Fortunately, this may be temporary, and may even boost self-confidence when he eventually finds a better job.

The family and immediate circle of influence are the basic support systems of every person. These people have an impact in developing these traits. To succeed in any life endeavor, it becomes crucial that a person gains these characteristics. When self-esteem and self-confidence are high, the person is better prepared to face the challenges that come in life.

Motivation, respect, love, caring, and understanding play very important roles in personality development. We should not underestimate the power that these factors have in achieving happiness and success. While there are unavoidable circumstances in life, taking stock of yourself allows for a more open and accepting attitude toward these adversities when they inevitable show up in your life.

Luckily, self-esteem and self-confidence are malleable, meaning, we can always work on improving them.

How to Build Your Self Esteem and Self Confidence

When you build your self-esteem, you will be able to reverse the negative perceptions that have been pulling you down.  From this position, your self-confidence rises allowing you to turn adversities into opportunities. 

An important thing to remember is that the value you have for yourself will be the basis for the way other people perceive and value you. It is you who is in charge of setting the parameters for others to value, respect and even admire you. People with high self-esteem seldom get taken advantage of.

Here are a few points to remember. Put them in practice for yourself…

  • Boost your confidence and self-regard by being authentic in any given situation and at any given time. Do not try to impress on others. Just be yourself. You are valuable as you are!
  • Pay close attention to the way in which you talk to yourself. If you make a mistake don’t judge yourself. If you catch yourself having self-derogatory thoughts, stop. Acknowledge that nobody is perfect, learn from your mistake and move on. Self-talk is extremely important; it can either increase your self-confidence or smash it… and you do it all by yourself!
  • Keep a good opinion of yourself. We all have had experiences in which we have felt proud of ourselves. Think of those moments often and use them as guideposts to remind you of what you are capable of.
  • Be cautious of the people you interact with. Avoid those whose negativity is overwhelming. Surround yourself instead with people who are cheerful and positive. You’ve heard the law of attraction principles that dictate “like attracts like.” Be optimistic and happy yourself, and eventually you will attract like-minded individuals to your life.
  • Positive thinking or optimism is also a mobilizing factor towards raising your self-esteem and increasing your self-confidence. Even when things don’t turn out as expected, explore possibilities before you start thinking of the experience as a total failure. What did you learn about what just happened? Reflect on the learning lesson versus allowing yourself to feel defeated.
  • Keep your pockets full with wisdom and knowledge. Learn to pick up lessons from the past and use them to improve your skills and know-how in the present. Again, nobody is perfect! Life is -after all- a learning experience.
  • Research and learn about personal development and self growth topics, and internalize what you find. Visit blogs and sites that spread positive messages to uplift your spirit. By the way…

Thank you for being here!! 🙂

  • Grab every opportunity that will enhance your personal traits or improve you as a person. Take a class, help a neighbor, share a great tip, tell a child “I Love You”… look for opportunities to help yourself by helping others. It will make you feel good and enhance your self-esteem!
  • Believe in yourself. Be open to a healthy competition at work, in sports, and even on a board game. Be humble enough to accept that you will not always win; however, you will always find growth through the experience. Take what you learn and do it better next time. It will increase your self-confidence!

Remember, self-development is an on-going process. Learning to know yourself, your abilities, capabilities and strengths as well as your weaknesses and accepting them, will determine the kind of person you become. Love yourself so you will be able to love others.

Recommended Resources

One of my favorite tools for a variety of self-improvement areas is hypnosis. Here is my favorite website that offers you several options to increase your self-esteem, help you build an abundance of natural self assurance, believe in yourself and become more confident, outgoing and successful in life with easy to use hypnosis downloads!

Another excellent resource is this audio alternative: The “Guide to Self Esteem and Self Confidence” by Andy Guides. Visit this site to listen to a sample and get complete details of this comprehensive audio course. Andy leaves absolutely nothing out!

Don’t have much time? Want a more pro-active approach? How about increasing your self-confidence with subliminal audios… all while you sleep? Learn about subliminal messages and how they can help you at the core by reprogramming your subconscious mind for a healthy self-esteem and self-confidence, here.

Lastly, I invite you to download “How to Boost Your Self Esteem“, a free eBook for you, courtesy of Tools for Abundance.  In it, you will discover the steps to invite success, happiness and contentment into your life. It’s the perfect primer to get you into the right mindset before you delve into hypnosis or subliminal messaging.

Remember, the only one who can make you excel is YOU and no one else!

Want to start feeling “like a million” right now? Join me in spreading peace around the world! Never have a few simple clicks been this powerful!

You alone could be responsible for sheltering and feeding thousands of innocent refugees with just a few simple clicks of your mouse. Come see what happens when kindness meets technology…

 

Love Yourself

Love Yourself

… and Transform Your Life!

We live in an amazing world, filled with abundance that manifests in so many forms; one of them being the individuality that makes each one of us uniquely valuable and beautiful in a very special way.

Unfortunately, many people fail to recognize their amazing abilities, talents, and characteristics, as they spend hours and days comparing themselves to others that are seemingly more intelligent, more beautiful, more attractive, slimmer, taller, richer, stronger, younger, and the like.

All of these comparisons lead to self-criticism and feelings of inadequacy which are only reinforced by what the media says we should look and feel like; and to achieve that, we need to get this or that gadget, lotion or potion, of course.

To add insult to injury, many harbor the belief that loving oneself is narcisistic; an act of selfishness based on ego, detachment, and self-indulgence. This is due to the cultures and traditions that many of us were raised into. These cutures do not teach, promote or support self-love as a part of growing up wth a healthy self-esteem. Actually, some take it a bit further. They judge people that talk openly about their talents or that put themselves first, because that is what they learned to do as they grew up.

Despite this all, we know inherently that self-love is an essential part of a healthy psyque and a well-rounded individual. Self-love is extremely important as the central point to a well balanced life, yet many people don’t even know how to love themselves in a way that doesn’t nurture any of those undesirable adjectives listed above. The good news is that like anything else, you can learn to love yourself without feeling selfish or ‘out-of-place.’

First, become aware of the feelings you have been harboring about self-love as a result of the way you were brought up. To do this, think of the way you feel when you receive a compliment about a talent you have or a job well done. Do you feel uncomfotable? Shy or inadequate, perhaps? If so, this may reveal the block you have toward accepting and loving yourself.

As you think of this, realize that you cannot give something that you don’t have, and that applies to love as well. In other words, you cannot truly love others if you don’t love yourself first. On the contrary, when you don’t love yourself you become needy and you tend to look for love ‘out there‘ to fill the emptiness. Each one of us wants to be loved. Love is, after all, a human basic need and the true power that moves the world.

However, seeking love from a needy stance is a risky proposition because you may end up accepting love from people who do not have your best interest at heart. This is not genuine love and it will not last long. This kind of situation eventually leaves you feeling isolated, sad, and even depressed.

Secondly, realize that you are not perfect, nobody is. I know you know this; however, it is important to acknowledge this and bring it to awareness because from this perspective, you will not expect perfection from yourself.

Also, once you get to this point, it will be easier to learn to love yourself with respect and unconditional acceptance. Know that in spite of your flaws and imperfections, you are entitled to and worthy of love, and the first love you deserve is from yourself.

This does not mean that you will settle in your old ways. Personal growth lays its foundation in self-respect, self-recognition, and self-love. From that stand, you will be seeking improvement in whatever area you want to better yourself at.

Lastly, I suggest you make a list of the things that you love about yourself. Don’t be shy. You know your talents and abilities. Then, dedicate some time to read and re-read them often, and learn to value yourself as much as you deserve it. Don’t let yourself down. Learn to be your best friend by supporting and applauding the successes you’ve had because of your individual traits and talents.

Benefits of Self-Love

Once you learn to love yourself you will get a feeling of permanent contentment and satisfaction. Your self-esteem improves and you become more self-reliant because you don’t need the validation of others or ask their permission to do anything. You don’t need approval to be who you are and pursue your dreams on your own terms. You don’t have to be a ‘people pleaser‘ either, and you can certainly can say ‘no’ without feeling guilty when you authentically cannot help someone.

Love has so many different connotations. Learning to feel love for yourself is the foundation behind living an emotionally and spiritually sound life with the potential for many successes. There is much potential, talent, ability and drive within you to do great things – you just need to start loving yourself and give yourself the opportunity to try whatever you want to try.

When you love yourself you put out your abilities which translates into doing your best at any given task. You embrace the fact that you deserve just as much happiness and success as anyone else. You will also open the gates to receive much love as well, for genuine, true love is reciprocal at best.

In closing, some of us may still need help to break those cultural blocks we were discussing earlier. If this is your case, I suggest you give EFT (Tapping) a try. This amazing technique is easy to learn and implement in just a few minutes. It can be done by anyone and in any place. This technique is very powerful to help you overcome all sorts of challenges. As a matter of fact, the statements you will be using regularly when you practice Tapping start with “Even though (fill in the blank with the situation you want to change)___________ I completely love and accept myself.”

When you think about it, loving and accepting yourself regardless of circumstances plays a major part of EFT’s success. No wonder it works!  Give it a try and prepare to be amazed!



Love yourself and witness a complete transformation in every area of your life!

 

 

Quantum Manifesting

Quantum Manifesting

One of the first things we learn about the law of attraction and quantum manifesting, is that in order to manifest our desires, we must begin by taking control of our thoughts. However, even before we attempt to take control or change our thoughts, we must become aware of a few facts, and consciously acknowledge and accept them.

First and foremost, know that you are the creator of your own reality and destiny. This implies a great deal of responsibility. If you are ready to change your life experience, you must accept this responsibility in its entirety.

This means you start by studying your thought patterns to then understand why you act the way you do and clearly see why you are getting the results you experience.

Second, realize that everything you wish for already exists on another plane of existence or in different form. As you know, everything IS energy and as such it cannot be created nor destroyed, only modified. Thus, like a child playing with play-dough, you have an amazing opportunity to mold and create what you want starting with what you have.

Third, atoms are made up of non-solid subatomic elements that are neither particles nor waves; however, they can behave like both. As strange as this may sound, this allows for these bits of energy to behave according to the observer and his intention. In other words, they are 100% malleable and from that premise you can conclude that there is only one constant in every ‘experiment’ in your life and that is YOU.

If all this is new to you -or if you want to review the concept in a simple and fun way- I invite you to watch this short video-cartoon to learn more about this scientific fact: Proof of Mind Over Matter by Dr. Quantum 🙂

 

Did you watch it? Now you know it is YOU who gets to decide how these particles are to behave in order to create what you want in your life… when you think about it, the possibilities are truly unlimited! As soon as you internalize these concepts and make them yours, you start living from the knowing versus from the wishing for, hoping for, dreaming of…  and once you achieve this inner knowing, then and only then will quantum manifesting become as easy as child’s play.

As hard as it is to believe the unseen, consider this… Buckminster Fuller, American inventor, author and creator of the term “Spaceship Earth” said that 99.99% of science is invisible to our five senses and nevertheless it is very real!

I’d like to add an example that we can relate to because we all have experienced it at one time or another… the common cold. Caused by a microscopic virus that cannot be seen with the naked eye… does the fact that we cannot see the virus makes it non-existent? That’s non-sense, right?

The fact is we -human beings- live interacting with our surrounding environment through our five senses, but this doesn’t necessarily mean that we perceive ALL that exists. It’s been proven, for instance, that certain animals can perceive high pitch sounds that are non-audible to humans. This only means that there is stuff happening around us that we are not even aware of!

Furthermore, we are creatures of habit and like such, we are used to certain things behaving in a certain way. Thus, it takes time to create a shift in our personal and collective paradigms. Add to this that we are living in the middle of one of the largest paradigm shifts that mankind has ever experienced and it is easy to see why we may experience some resistance to openning our minds to the possibilities when we first hear of quantum theory and quantum manifesting.

About 300 years ago, Sir Isaac Newton revolutionized the world when he began describing the phenomena that surrounded him in a mechanical and practical way that explained how everything worked and why it worked the way it did.

At the time, everything was easily proved as he used ‘observation’ with the naked eye as his main scientific tool. For instance, when he observed an apple falling from a tree, he discovered gravity.

Those concepts evolved into the laws of physics that ruled the world for about 200 years. Then, a new era of sub-atomic energy emerged in the late part of the 19th century and everything changed.

The new Quantum Mechanics Theory has opened a new door to view and experience the world around us in a very different way and it challenges Newton’s laws as scientists begin to admit that the mere act of observing can change the result of any experiment according to the observers’ intention. Looking at this concept a bit deeper we realize that the observer and the observed are not separate… you and I, and every other person and thing in the universe, are all connected. You’ve probably heard that we are “star dust” and it makes perfect sense. Every single thing in existence today came from the primordial energy, which was the size of a pea when the Big Bang ocurred!

This understanding is what creates the new paradigm, a completely new way to perceive the world, life, our reality and every single thing. Everything is subjective. We are part of a consciousness that is interconnected and it is all ultimately, one energy.

“Every intention sets energy into motion…
Whether you are conscious of it or not.”

 ~ Gary Zukav, Author / “Journey to the Soul”

The concepts above lead to the Quantum Manifesting principle. When we learn to use our mind to ‘observe’ our reality the way we intend it to be, we are actively engaging in quantum mechanics to manifest our desires; meaning, we are attempting to mold and create a certain reality.

We do this by applying what we know of the wave/particle duality to our advantage. In other words, the observer (you) of an intention (the ‘experiment‘) can change the outcome according to intention where the purpose itself rearranges particles in a precise way out of waves with multiple possibilities.

The keywords here are intention and observation. Picture the waves of possibility extended throughout space and all the way to the infinite. They are one thing and all things simultaneously. They are in this state indefinitely when they remain unobserved.

Once observed with a particular intention, these waves contract abruptly (quantum jump) aligning themselves into precise patterns according to that specific intention and create an outcome that materializes accordingly. This is what we call Quantum Manifesting.

When we live passively throughout life, we are manifesting by default, by chance and as things happen… it all happens unconsciously. Know that when you are not making a decision, you are making a decision… the decision not to decide; thus, things happen randomly and on automatic.

Realize that you –as an observer have the potential to manifest by true intention and choice through Quantum Manifesting by deciding to do so. Knowing this… what will you decide? what will you choose to manifest in your life experience from now on?

Now you know! 

You cannot pretend you don’t know once you know

Fascinating, isn’t it? I invite you to take a private look at the Quantum Cookbook and discover how YOU Can Create Your Own Reality by using universal laws and principles to your advantage!