Success Mindset

Develop a

Success Mindset

You’ve heard it before. To succeed at anything, you must develop a Success Mind Set but what exactly is “mind set” and how can we use it to our advantage?

Mindset is best described as the mental attitude that takes shape based on life experiences, environment, education and the ideas of the people we interact with the most.

 

Your mindset influences your interpretation of life’s events and predetermines the way in which you commonly respond to situations. Eventually, your frequent responses settle and become habits, and they give rise to your predominant state of mind.

People with a positive mindset tend to find opportunity in every problem. They are problem solvers by nature while those with a negative mindset feel as if the world is collapsing under their feet every time they encounter an unpleasant life experience.

Obviously, these people’s attitudes are not conductive to creating a state of stability, optimism, well-being and success. For them, a small thing can translate into a huge problem, it’s hard for them to think outside the box, they can’t seem to find solutions, they become easily confused and overwhelmed, and they seem to live in a state of constant anxiety, stress and crisis. Life seems like a real burden for them!

Interestingly, it is not that these people have out of the ordinary, tougher circumstances or a mountain of unusual problems as compared to their counterparts.

You’ve probably met someone that becomes really anxious at something you wouldn’t even consider a big deal. These individuals don’t have the proper mindset to go through the ups and downs of life without an enormous amount of stress. Usually, they are clueless of the fact that while they have no control of circumstances, they do have total control of how they react to those circumstances.

Their thoughts are the starting point for solving -or not- every problem in life.

In short, having a “Can Do” attitude is the main difference between people with a mindset for success and people who live in confusion and feel crushed at the slightest sign of trouble.

Mind set is directly linked to Thoughts, and… Thoughts become Things.

Here is an example to better understand this concept… Take a look at the chair you’re sitting on while reading this article. Before it existed as a physical object, it was conceived in somebody’s imagination. After that initial idea, the thought of building it came to mind and -eventually- after planing and acting on the idea, it was made a reality. That person had the correct mindset, one of creativity and expectancy of positive outcome.

Now imagine if the person thinking about that chair believed it was going to be a huge problem or insurmountable task task to build it, that nobody would like to sit on chairs, that it was a silly idea, that people were better off without chairs, etc. etc… with the wrong mindset, the list of excuses could be unlimited!

Realize that every single thing ever -tangible or not- created by humans, either positive or negative, started as a thought in someone’s mind. Without the proper mindset and optimistic outlook, we’d still be living in caves and sitting on rocks!

Thus, you are the result of your most common thoughts, the ones you have had throughout your lifetime which have brought about very specific results. While we all have positive and negative thoughts throughout our lives, the life experience we manifest at any given time represents the sum our most predominant thoughts.

Thoughts are powerful indeed. As conscious beings, we have the privilege to control them –by choice. Unfortunately, this is not what most people do. They unconsciously allow their minds to jump from one thought to the next allowing their thoughts to rule their lives without even being aware of it.

But, the important question here is… now that you know what’s going on between your ears, what kind of thoughts will you choose? And most importantly, what kind of life will you choose to lead?

Will you live a life controlled by random thoughts or will you choose your thoughts carefully and develop a success mindset on purpose?

When you get a hold of your thoughts you have the power to create wonderful things in your life, all by just taking command, training and instructing your mind to think properly.

You get to choose what you think!!

Thoughts can be changed and conformed to our advantage, and with this awareness we can develop the right attitude and the mindset needed to succeed at anything we want.

You now you know… you can direct your thoughts at will. All of a sudden the clichéd phrase Success is a MindSet makes perfect sense. Doesn’t it?

“What lies behind us, and what lies before us
are tiny matters, compared to what lies within us.”

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

OK, so success is a state of mind but… is that all we need to achieve goals in life?

Many people still claim that more than mindset, success is only the natural result of proper planning, actual preparation, and focused, relentless action.

This is actually true, but there are a number of exceptions that oppose this common belief. If you have ever wondered why two people with the exact same circumstances and with similar goals don’t get the same results, you know that there must be something less obvious that contributed to the success of one and the failure of the other.

Do you believe it has to do with resolve or determination, or maybe with timing or mere luck? It is true that many elements play a part in it; however, more often than not, the main factor is what is going on inside their head. Adopting a success mindset is the determining factor which makes a world of difference between success and failure, regardless of other circumstances. What’s more, some people will achieve success even though the circumstances seem to be all against them.

Keep on reading the next section by clicking on the link below. You’ll get to discover the MUST haves to develop a success mindset.

Click here to read The Success Mind Set Fundamentals

Self Forgiveness

Self Forgiveness

… the Path to a Peaceful Life

Mistakes… we all make them. No one is immune to them. Some are big, others trivial; some are significant and others inconsequential. After all, we are not perfect; we are only human… that’s how we learn, improve, and evolve.

For some of us, mistakes are just a part of life. We take them as an experience that offers a learning lesson and then move on. For others, however, it is hard to let go and forgive themselves.

How do you take mistakes? Do you acknowledge, analyze, learn and move on hoping not to make the same mistake again? Or do you dwell on them and find it hard to let go and forgive yourself?

For most of us, it depends on the gravity of the mistake. Some are easier to let go than others. If the mistake has been significant, the sense of being chased and assaulted by your past faults can sometimes feel like a huge burden that can lead to self-defeat.

If not dealt with properly and on time, it can take its toll and throw you into the painful and self-inflicted emotional pain that comes from guilt and regret.

All human beings slip up and make mistakes… all of us. Nothing new here but it is always good to remember. Instead of focusing on our flaws and imperfections and on why we couldn’t have been better, smarter, kinder, more compassionate or politically correct, let’s remember that judging ourselves after the fact, is not only unfair but it can get intense. Emotions gets mixed and ugly. They can go from sadness to inadequacy and even into feeling miserable. Taken to extremes, tossing and turning at night will likely follow.

Through all the haze of self-disgust, pain, misery, and self-torture, a very important thing seems to be pushed into the sidelines and overlooked: The mistake does NOT have to define us; the mistake is NOT who we are… if only we learn to separate the faulty behavior from the self we can learn to forgive ourselves.

Self-forgiveness is one of the most beautiful gifts that we can give to ourselves. When we give ourselves permission to humbly accept our faults and see ourselves with compassion, wonderful things can happen.

When you detach yourself from the mistake, you will see things with a fresher perspective, and from that mindset, you can explore ways to evolve and improve; you can liberate yourself from crushing emotions, and you start allowing feelings of self-compassion as you become more nurturing toward yourself. Self-forgiveness empowers you to move on and redeem yourself.

You can now see how self-forgiveness is instrumental for the personal development and self-growth of a person. The problem is, few people manage to view mistakes as opportunities to grow. Thus, they must learn to view mistakes from a different light, as a product of being human versus a product of wickedness, and use that knowledge to remind themselves that the mistake is not an extension of who they truly are.

Faulty thinking in this regard is what makes it common for people to feel that they don’t deserve forgiveness, especially from themselves.

Still, many might have the mistaken idea that the more they emotionally beat themselves about their mistakes, the better the world will regard them.

But you don’t have to surrender to that mistaken idea. The following points will guide you towards self-forgiveness and the well deserved moment of glorious liberation:

  • What happened?
    This is the very first step towards self-forgiveness. Take a few moments to analyze what went wrong with the sole intention to learn and prevent similar mistakes from happening again. Re-create in your mind what happened and see what prompted your actions and how you could have handled it in a different, more productive way.
  • Why did it happen?
    Try to identify why you acted -or reacted- the way you did… where you stressed out? tired? sleepless? upset perhaps about something unrelated? Self-forgiveness is not about making excuses or trying to dismiss the situation. It’s about having the opportunity to explore why things happened the way they did leaving guilt and shame aside while still feeling accountable for your mistake.
  • What can you do about it?
    Taking responsibility for your actions and accepting the facts are important steps towards self-forgiveness. Also, being humble and asking for forgiveness will help you overcome your own emotional turmoil. Asking for forgiveness from those affected leaves the ego out of the equation. This allows for self-acceptance and self-forgiveness as well. This is how you acknowledge and accept what has happened as you mend the situation.

Awareness and Self-Forgiveness

Once you go through the 3 points above, you will clearly know that your mistake was an act and it is not who you are. When you detach yourself from the behavior, you are able to let go of guilt and release regret as you become aware of the fact that your mistake does not have to define you as a person. For whatever reason and under whatever circumstances the mistake was made. Just remember that you only did the best you could at that time.

Open your heart and remember who you truly are.

Next, you will be able to see the mistake as an opportunity to learn. Remember that wisdom over a certain thing cannot be attained without the outlay of a mistake, and as a human being you are not exempt from that rule.

The only way to realize that you can do better is to fail at something. When you make mistakes, remember that you have been given the opportunity to learn one or more important lessons. These teachings can help you avoid making the same mistake in the future, and most importantly, it can help you become better at handling that particular thing or event in the future.

As this awareness settles, take a few moments to rest your mind and relax your body. Allow yourself to feel your self-forgiveness as a warm wave that releases the extra weight of your soul, lifts your negative emotions and bathes your being with light.

Finally, if you find yourself still dwelling on experiences of this kind, if you feel embarrassed, burdened, or keep on judging yourself, just know that the longer you go over and over the mistake in your head, the more your self-confidence and self-esteem will be affected.

The good news is that you don’t have to live feeling guilty indefinitely. Take a look at The Release Technique site where you can learn more about what release is and how this technique can help you let go of guilt, regret and emotional pain for good!

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”

~ Mahatma Gandhi

Affirmations to Attract Love

Affirmations to Attract Love
 into Your Life!

Ahhhh… LOVE. Without a doubt, love is the ultimate life experience, an amazing occurrence that can make us feel completely alive. From senses to emotions, everything seems heightened and magnified; our reality is transcended, our world becomes more colorful, more vibrant. When we are in-love or feel love in any of its facets, life seems more meaningful than ever. This is because love nourishes our soul, literally… no wonder is what every human being strives for. Wouldn’t you agree?

Psychologists claim that the entire range of human needs has its roots in the need for love.

When you think about it, you realize that the desire for fame, fortune and financial success emerges from our need to be admired, accepted, respected, and… loved. And now that you know this…

What do you think you could do to live a life filled with love? How could you create a joyful life where love remains the main constant ingredient – no matter what? How could you experience the ecstasy and bliss of love in your day to day life?

Whether you want to attract a perfect partner, enhance the relationship you already have, or experience self-love and the astounding manifestations of living in “love” in your day to day life, you can create this state by crafting and using positive and loving affirmations according to your desires, dreams and goals.

Here is a handful of loving affirmations that you can start using right now to attract, embrace, receive, give and experience the many facets of this magnificent feeling.

You do not have to use them all. Choose only the affirmations that resonate with who you are, the ones that strike an emotional chord, and the ones you can relate to. For affirmations to work, it is essential that you feel comfortable as you state them out loud. Choose the ones that are in line with who you are, and that feel truthful to yourself.

You may want to pick a few that hold special meaning to you and then add a few of your own or combine them according to what you want to attract to your experience…

  • I am a powerful being filled with light and love.
  • I love and accept myself exactly as I am.
  • I now express my love to all those I meet.
  • I am a radiating being of divine love.
  • Divine love is working through me now.
  • I bathe in the unconditional love of my Creator.
  • Love radiates from me at all times.
  • I completely and lovingly accept myself.
  • As I radiate love, I attract my perfect partner.
  • Love comes to me easily and effortlessly.
  • I give and receive love effortlessly and joyfully.
  • Others love me candidly and joyfully.
  • I feel loved by … (my parents, my partner, my friends, etc.)
  • The more I love him/her, the more he/she loves me.
  • I express love freely and openly.
  • As I give love, I am instantly filled with love myself.
  • I radiate love to all persons and places, to all living creatures and things.
  • People are just waiting to love me, and I allow them.
  • I breathe in universal love.
  • I attract loving, beautiful people into my life.
  • Love is healing my body and my mind constantly.
  • I always deserve love.
  • I am attracting loving relationships into my life.
  • I project love to everyone I meet.
  • I love and approve of myself unconditionally.

The very last affirmation of the list above, “I love and approve of myself unconditionally” is one highly recommended by Louise Hay, author of “Heal Your Body” and many other enlightening and life-transforming books.

Memorize it and repeat it often. It is empowering!

Once you create and choose your own affirmations, practice them for a few days until you can chant them easily. When you are ready, take your affirmations to the next level by infusing them with positive feelings so that manifesting your desires becomes more natural, easier and automatic.

You can achieve this by combining your affirmations with 7 of the most powerful manifestation technologies of our times: visualizationsubliminal imagery, alpha sound technology, assignment writing, sentence completion, goal setting and whole brain wave synchronization.

Yes, that is a mouthful but when these technologies are used together your results will be almost magical.

Daunting? Not at all. By using this one of a kind software program for just 10 minutes a day you can seamlessly integrate affirmations with these 7 powerful technologies to create a well rounded “everything you need to succeed” approach that produces the results you want at an unprecedented speed. It’s really that easy! If you can turn on your computer, you can use this magnificent software to sculpt your new reality at will.

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The Breathing Technique

The Breathing Technique

“Life is absolutely dependent upon the act of breathing.
Breath is, literally, Life.”

Breathing is an innate physiological function common to all of us living beings. Not only do we take it for granted but believe it is not something that needs to be learned. After all, breathing is the very first thing we do when we come into this world and the very last right before we leave.

Taking this into consideration, it’s safe to affirm that babies are the most skilled human beings when it comes to breathing properly. Since they do not have present problems or worries about their future, they are mainly happy to exist and they show exactly that with every breath they take.

Why is it then that we unlearn how to breathe properly as we grow older?

As strange as it sounds, most of us do not know how to breathe properly. Shallow breathing –reaching only the upper chest- tends to be the norm for the majority of people, especially if we live a rushed and stressful lifestyle.

As we experience a variety of emotions every single day, each of these feelings generate a reaction that in many cases goes unperceived. From fear of disapproval and rejection to guilt, anger, sadness, worry and concern, these and other stressors create emotions that affect our physiology and the way we breathe, on a moment by moment basis. Just observe an angry person’s breathing pattern and you will witness this first hand!

To make matters worse, some people experience breathing problems due to already existing health conditions such as sleep apnea, allergies, excess weight, COPD, and asthma among others. When you add to these conditions the effects that emotions have on breathing patterns, it’s easy to see how many individuals are breathing-deficient.

“The developed man is the ‘all-around man’ who recognizes body, mind and spirit and renders to each its due. Neglect of either is a mistake which must be rectified sooner or later; a debt which must be repaid with interest.”

When we think about these implications, the importance of proper breathing becomes obvious.  Even for people who are otherwise healthy, breathing properly may mean the difference between feeling tired and sleepy all day long versus feeling vibrant and ready to tackle their daily tasks.

Let’s review a handful of effects that shallow breathing has over our physical health.

Physiologically speaking, improper breathing causes hypo-ventilation which prevents proper oxygenation of the blood. As muscle cells are deprived from oxygen, fatigue, stiffness, pains and aches, sleepiness, and exhaustion become common.

Moreover, when brain cells suffer from lack of oxygen, the results are nervousness, irritability, headaches, foggy thinking, and difficulty with concentration and problem-solving.

If this is not addressed, this condition can spring into on-going lack of motivation and lack of vitality, and eventually it can turn into depression. As if that was not enough, there are some aspects of improper breathing that are not commonly known or discussed, even though these can profoundly impact the overall health of a person in a more profound way. We’re talking here about the spiritual, psychic, and mental aspects of breathing.

From the spiritual viewpoint, breathing is a process of exchange in which we ‘take in’ from the universe, and we give back to it with every single breath. It is a rhythmic exchange of ‘Chi‘ or energy, a basic and natural part of the life and world we all share.

And it goes even further. When a person breathes properly, he/she is able to take in and capture the energy from the surrounding environment and can send focused prana to a specific organ in his/her body with the purpose of making it stronger and more invigorating. If you have ever practiced Qi-Gong, you know what I’m referring to. This is an extremely powerful technique to help the healing process and/or to keep the body functioning at peak performance.

“One who has mastered the science of storing away prana, either consciously or unconsciously, often radiates vitality and strength which is felt by those coming in contact with him, and such a person may impart this strength to others, and give them increased vitality and health. What is called ‘magnetic healing’ is performed in this way, although many are not aware of the source of their power.”

Now let’s discuss the psychic side of breathing. When you breathe properly you can literally recharge your vital energy and even learn to project your healing thoughts toward others. You can also learn to do this at will by just using the power of breathing to accumulate and then release prana with a specific intention and target.

As such, breathing can be used in conjunction with Reiki for distance healing purposes. You can influence others at a distance giving that your motives are pure and of good will. When you combine deep breathing with the power of thoughts, you can also charge water to enhance its hydrating and natural healing properties. How amazing is that?!

Lastly, there’s the mental influence that breath exerts. Not only can the body be controlled by the mind under the direction of the will, but the mind itself can be trained and cultivated by the exercise of the controlling will, all by using proper breathing. From self-confidence, to self control and increased mental power, the advantages are diverse and exciting.

“The Occidental teachings show that the physical health depends very materially upon correct breathing. The Oriental teachers not only admit that their Occidental brothers are right, but say that in addition to the physical benefit derived from correct habits of breathing, Man’s mental power, happiness, self control, clear-sightedness, morals, and even his spiritual growth may be increased by an understanding of the Science of Breath.”

As you’ve learned, the benefits of proper breathing are huge, and they influence every part of your being. This is a powerful reason for us all to dedicate time to re-learn (or remember?) how to properly breathe as when we were babies. Fortunately, it is not difficult at all.

The “Hindu Yogi Science of Breath” a complete manual of the Oriental Breathing Philosophy of physical, mental, psychic and spiritual development will provide you not only with the facts, but with exercises that you can easily practice on your daily life.

All it takes is learning the how and then give it some practice. You do not need to learn yoga or assume any particular position to properly breathe. In due time, it will become second nature to you and you will be breathing properly as you go about your day. Give it a try. Your body, mind and soul will thank you accordingly

“The atoms of the human body are in constant vibration. Unceasing changes are occurring. In a few months there is almost a complete change in the matter composing the body, and scarcely a single atom now composing your body will be found in It a few months hence. Vibration, constant vibration. Change, constant change.”

All quotes on this page were taken from “Hindu-Yogi Science of Breath” by Yogi Ramacharaka. Inspired? Get the book by clicking on the image below, and re-learn to breathe for emotional, spiritual, and physical well-being!

 

 

Positive Attitude

The Power of  

Positive Attitude

At a deep level, we all know that a negative attitude can have a destructive impact in our lives. However, many people seldom stop to realize this and frequently allow external factors, events, and conditions to direct their lives.

Actually, we not only have the power to change our views, moods and circumstances as we go through life, but we have a responsibility to do so!

Do you have your own good reasons to change negativity into positivity? I’m sure you can think of a few of your own. Here are some of my thoughts and beliefs ont he subject matter. See if you agree:

  • When you develop a positive attitude, you tend to focus on the positive traits of people around you, so you become an upbeat person, which leads to the improvement of your relationships. Compare that to noticing the flaws on people regularly. Would they want to establish a relationship with you if all you can see is the “wrong”in them?
  • When you are a positive person, you become more productive. Positive people get excited about their projects at home and at work because they see the goal as an accomplishment instead of ‘one more task to do.‘ When you perceive your responsibilities as burdensome, you end up procrastinating and getting stressed which only further feeds the cycle of discouragement and negativity.
  • When you are a positive person, you become more attractive. YES. Positivity shows. People feel drawn to you as if you were a magnet. You beam good vibes; you feel good about yourself and about the world. And, it becomes contagious.
  • When you are a positive person, you become healthier. Regardless of the origin of aches and pains, positive people tend to heal and recover faster and stay healthier for longer periods of time. Actually, there is scientific evidence that supports this: when you have the inclination to savor happy moments in your life frequently, your brain gets re-wired as endorphins get released often. This fact positively affects your health.

By the same means, negativity is contagious in both, inner and outer worlds. When you have a negative thought, it’s usually followed by more negativity as you try to justify the first thought. If you don’t become aware of this, negative inner chatter  becomes the norm and starts ruling your life, affecting your mental, emotional and physical health.

In the outer world, when you feel pesimistic or negative, those around you feel your vibes and they either walk away to avoid you or react to your moods and modes, making it a vicious negative cycle for all involved.

Thus, being negative is detrimental to your overall well-being -in and out- and to the well-being of those around you. It’s even been proven that -all other elements equaly present- plants thrive around positive people. They are healthier, greener and grow faster!

As you’ve probably heard a million times by now,  ‘like attracts like’ and this is especially true when it comes to attitudes. If you have experienced an uncomfortable feeling around a person who you’ve never met or in a room full of grouchy people you know this is true. The opposite happens when you are sharing a moment with happy people. Just think about the vibes found in a wedding, the birth of a baby or a birthday party, and you’ll know what I mean.

Moreover, living in a negative state is a waste of energy and time! When you think about it, it is way easier to adopt positivity and live a happier life regardless of the circumstances around you because when you think about it, everyone has ups and downs in life and we ALL have something to be grateful for. We should focus on the things to be grateful for often in order to experience a positive life. Like my mom says… “If the problem has a solution, why worry; and if it doesn’t, why worry?” It all comes and goes in due time.

Instant Positive Attitude by David Baird, shows you how to lower stress, increase self-confidence and reprogram your mind for a life of success, all by adopting a positive attitude. This is NOT just another book about positive thinking or the reasons that support having a positive attitude. It is a book that will give you the “how” so you can do certain things to live in positivity every single day of your life.

Take a look a these few points in the table of contents:

  • The three major factors that influence attitude… and how you can quickly and easily gain control of each!
  • 9 traits of a successful person… and how to ensure that you have all 9!
  • 12 common obstacles to success… and how to overcome them like a world champion hurdler!
  • How to turn failure into a stepping stone for success … if you don’t read anything else, you absolutely must read this important advice!
  • The two most influencing factors on our behavior… and how to gain control of both of them!
  • The three things you must have to succeed in life… and how to ensure that you have all of them in abundance!
  • How to turn failure into a stepping stone for success… if you don’t read anything else, you absolutely must read this important advice!
  • How to overcome the fears that can negatively impact your positive attitude
  • How to learn to trust yourself and have confidence in your decisions
  • How to ensure your children grow up with a positive attitude
  • And so much more!

Did you notice the trend in the table of contents? David Baird concentrates on the “How” to do things to make positivity a part of your life, not JUST on telling you that you should have a positive attitude. This is why this book is far from ordinary.

And it includes these fabulous bonus… How to Develop the Interpersonal Skills You Need to Succeed Today!

Now that I think about it, this is not just a book but a complete system that shows you exactly HOW to live a positive life. It includes everything to learn the power of positivity, Get it now while it is available at a very low introductory price. With a 60 day money back guarantee, you’ve got nothing to lose and a lot of positivity to gain.

It is a must for those who want to improve the quality of their lives!

Highly recommended!

 

 

 

The Power of Gratitude

The Power Of

Gratitude

Thank You is probably one of the universal phrases that gives meaning to life. It is an everyday thing – it transcends culture, race, tradition, gender, status, language, and age.

No matter how you see it, expressing gratitude to someone for something – be it a thing, a person, an event or even a simple deed, speaks of a person’s predisposition to life as they acknowledge something good received.

Gratitude knows neither boundaries nor limits. It does not take too much effort or time to express it but its impact can last from a few hours to a lifetime; hence The Power of Gratitude.

Being grateful is a personal act of conviction that often leads to having a positive outlook of life, for a person’s point of view in life depends largely on how he/she perceives things, events, people or anything that comes his/her way. As you can imagine, gratitude goes hand in hand with having a positive attitude which helps you process matters in a lighter way even when things are not going the way you expect them to.

Having a grateful heart will always help you cope with the complexities of your life. Yet, many still wonder if it’s possible to be grateful for the challenges that show up in one’s life every now and then… Can we –somehow- be thankful for a tragedy that has impacted our lives forever?

This is a very personal decision; some people are, some others are not. Keep on reading for you to lean how gratitude can help in difficult circumstances and so you can arrive at your own conclusion…

How Does the Power of Gratitude Work?

Each one of us has a good number of reasons to be grateful for, every single day. Waking up in the morning and realizing that we are breathing, alive, and for the most part, healthy is the first one.

This may seem simple –or even trivial- however, let’s look at the bigger picture… Being in that position, it means we have been given the opportunity to do something of value, to rectify the mistakes committed yesterday, to be creative and contribute to your community, to go to work and to enjoy your family, among other things. It also gives you the possibility to meet new people and do some good for society and even the world at large. And, it gives you the option to learn a thing or two which can help you cope with challenges and improve your life in one way or another.

Thus, be grateful for having been given another day!

And then, every once in a while, we encounter circumstances that were not expected. This is when the Power of Gratitude makes itself obvious, as being grateful can mark the difference between feeling miserable or experiencing an overall pleasant life.

For someone who is used to being thankful only for the good things in life, physical and psychological symptoms of brokenness may take over when a challenge or sad moment inevitable arises as part of life. Mental anguish, panic, anxiety, fear, and a variety of physical symptoms may manifest, and when not dealt with properly, these can lead to more serious health problems once the heart and the mind have been compromised.

The grateful person, on the other hand, takes things from a different perspective. From this position, one is able to see the blessing in disguise that comes through some adversities. For instance, you have most likely heard of a single mother who lost her job and just when everything seemed lost, she found a better opportunity that will allow her to provide better for her children.

As a grateful woman, she did not allow for her world to crumble. She strived to rise above the situation. Her emotions were kept in balance, and her logical processes in check. What seemed like devastation at first, turned out to be a shift toward a better direction in life… this is what a blessing in disguise looks like!

We can all cultivate this kind of attitude for the difficult moments in life by only realizing that expressing gratitude doesn’t come from the mind but from the heart. From this premise alone you can determine the Power of Gratitude and the impact it can have in your life.

As an added benefit, let’s consider the metaphysical viewpoint of gratitude. The grateful person emits positive vibrations, which in turn attract more positive experiences to their life. If you follow law of attraction principles in your life, you already know how powerful this can be!

I invite you to listen to Dr. Deepak Chopra’s mini meditation on The Power of Gratitude… less than 3 minutes that will leave you with a smile on your face… promise! 🙂

Points to Consider on The Power of Gratitude

  • When you are grateful you are treating yourself well

    Gratefulness does not prevent or discard difficult situations in life – rather accepts them and allows for a more firm resolve and will to face them and make the nest of of them. Being grateful also enhances your ability to solve problems logically while keeping your heart engaged to give you comfort as you move along the experience.

  • Gratitude is a transformative trait

    Once you adopt a grateful state of being, your life is likely to be changed forever. You will exude an aura that soothes and calms others, even without you being aware or others knowing why. You will unconsciously decline abrasiveness, rudeness and aggressiveness because you will be able to see beyond things, people and events. You will be able to remain serene and be compasionate toward those that have not reached the state of being that you have. You will smile often. When you choose to be grateful, you make it a habit to accept and think of situations as gifts, no matter what they bring; and, when experiences are taken as gifts that present themselves to teach you something, you will always welcome them.

  • Gratitude is more powerful when things are not bright

    A grateful heart is not choosy. Instead, it warmly welcomes anything that comes along, embraces the lessons and, like a triumphant warrior, moves forward much stronger and firmer than before. In deep retrospection and reflection, gratitude is a powerful armor against false pride, anger and bitterness – the things that corrode a one’s personality.

Gratitude often brings the best out of people. Grateful people are humble, caring, kind, and considerate. They are optimistic in nature and usually live happier lives. This is why cultivating and practicing gratefulness is to your benefit; it is a vital element for your self-growth. This is where the power of gratitude lays.

There are simple practices that we can engage in to help us cultivate gratitude. Discover a handful of them by downloading “Be Grateful… Thanks!” a free report, courtesy of Tools for Abundance and the Abundance4Me ezine. I am grateful for you. I Thank You for being here and for being a faithful subscriber.

Love Yourself

Love Yourself

… and Transform Your Life!

We live in an amazing world, filled with abundance that manifests in so many forms; one of them being the individuality that makes each one of us uniquely valuable and beautiful in a very special way.

Unfortunately, many people fail to recognize their amazing abilities, talents, and characteristics, as they spend hours and days comparing themselves to others that are seemingly more intelligent, more beautiful, more attractive, slimmer, taller, richer, stronger, younger, and the like.

All of these comparisons lead to self-criticism and feelings of inadequacy which are only reinforced by what the media says we should look and feel like; and to achieve that, we need to get this or that gadget, lotion or potion, of course.

To add insult to injury, many harbor the belief that loving oneself is narcisistic; an act of selfishness based on ego, detachment, and self-indulgence. This is due to the cultures and traditions that many of us were raised into. These cutures do not teach, promote or support self-love as a part of growing up wth a healthy self-esteem. Actually, some take it a bit further. They judge people that talk openly about their talents or that put themselves first, because that is what they learned to do as they grew up.

Despite this all, we know inherently that self-love is an essential part of a healthy psyque and a well-rounded individual. Self-love is extremely important as the central point to a well balanced life, yet many people don’t even know how to love themselves in a way that doesn’t nurture any of those undesirable adjectives listed above. The good news is that like anything else, you can learn to love yourself without feeling selfish or ‘out-of-place.’

First, become aware of the feelings you have been harboring about self-love as a result of the way you were brought up. To do this, think of the way you feel when you receive a compliment about a talent you have or a job well done. Do you feel uncomfotable? Shy or inadequate, perhaps? If so, this may reveal the block you have toward accepting and loving yourself.

As you think of this, realize that you cannot give something that you don’t have, and that applies to love as well. In other words, you cannot truly love others if you don’t love yourself first. On the contrary, when you don’t love yourself you become needy and you tend to look for love ‘out there‘ to fill the emptiness. Each one of us wants to be loved. Love is, after all, a human basic need and the true power that moves the world.

However, seeking love from a needy stance is a risky proposition because you may end up accepting love from people who do not have your best interest at heart. This is not genuine love and it will not last long. This kind of situation eventually leaves you feeling isolated, sad, and even depressed.

Secondly, realize that you are not perfect, nobody is. I know you know this; however, it is important to acknowledge this and bring it to awareness because from this perspective, you will not expect perfection from yourself.

Also, once you get to this point, it will be easier to learn to love yourself with respect and unconditional acceptance. Know that in spite of your flaws and imperfections, you are entitled to and worthy of love, and the first love you deserve is from yourself.

This does not mean that you will settle in your old ways. Personal growth lays its foundation in self-respect, self-recognition, and self-love. From that stand, you will be seeking improvement in whatever area you want to better yourself at.

Lastly, I suggest you make a list of the things that you love about yourself. Don’t be shy. You know your talents and abilities. Then, dedicate some time to read and re-read them often, and learn to value yourself as much as you deserve it. Don’t let yourself down. Learn to be your best friend by supporting and applauding the successes you’ve had because of your individual traits and talents.

Benefits of Self-Love

Once you learn to love yourself you will get a feeling of permanent contentment and satisfaction. Your self-esteem improves and you become more self-reliant because you don’t need the validation of others or ask their permission to do anything. You don’t need approval to be who you are and pursue your dreams on your own terms. You don’t have to be a ‘people pleaser‘ either, and you can certainly can say ‘no’ without feeling guilty when you authentically cannot help someone.

Love has so many different connotations. Learning to feel love for yourself is the foundation behind living an emotionally and spiritually sound life with the potential for many successes. There is much potential, talent, ability and drive within you to do great things – you just need to start loving yourself and give yourself the opportunity to try whatever you want to try.

When you love yourself you put out your abilities which translates into doing your best at any given task. You embrace the fact that you deserve just as much happiness and success as anyone else. You will also open the gates to receive much love as well, for genuine, true love is reciprocal at best.

In closing, some of us may still need help to break those cultural blocks we were discussing earlier. If this is your case, I suggest you give EFT (Tapping) a try. This amazing technique is easy to learn and implement in just a few minutes. It can be done by anyone and in any place. This technique is very powerful to help you overcome all sorts of challenges. As a matter of fact, the statements you will be using regularly when you practice Tapping start with “Even though (fill in the blank with the situation you want to change)___________ I completely love and accept myself.”

When you think about it, loving and accepting yourself regardless of circumstances plays a major part of EFT’s success. No wonder it works!  Give it a try and prepare to be amazed!



Love yourself and witness a complete transformation in every area of your life!

 

 

Make Yourself Happy

Make Yourself

Happy!

David Schwartz, author of “The Magic of Thinking Big” and “The Magic of Getting What You Want”, was a world renowned expert on motivation. In his speeches, he used to tell a personal story; a moment he had with his young son.

When his little boy was just 6 years old and graduating from Kindergarden, David asked him what he wanted to become when he grew up. Without hesitation, the boy replied that he wanted to become a teacher. David then asked what is it he wanted to teach, to which the boy promptly replied “I want to be a teacher of happiness!

What an incredible profession that would be, wouldn’t you agree? But… can happiness be taught? Can you learn to make yourself happy?

You see, most people believe that happiness is a result of situations and circumstances that make one’s life; something that just happens to some lucky ones which cannot be intentional, predictable, or measured. For some others, happiness is about the possession of things: once I have this or that, I’ll be happy. Yet a few more think that is an all or nothing scenario: either you are happy or you are not. So according to them, you cannot make yourself happy because there is always something going on… and that is that.

Truth is, there is no straight path to happiness out there, or a possession that brings happiness; and certainly there is no luck associated with it either, for every person and circumstance is unique. In my opinion, it is very possible to make yourself happy, but there is only one road that leads to REAL and lasting happiness. This road originates within; it is one that is built upon the constant effort to adapt and adjust to whatever comes our way… and not taking life too seriously!

This doesn’t mean that we are just to wait and see what comes our way either, for happiness is also pro-active. To make yourself happy, you must go out and make things happen and then adapt to whatever results you get from your actions for not always you’ll get the results you had expected. In this manner, you must continuously and persistently dedicate time and effort to the pursuit of happiness, openly accepting what you encounter on the way, adapting to events as you go, having a positive attitude, and making things better when at all possible.

We’ve all heard that life is compared to a roller coaster. I believe it’s a great analogy as ups and downs are a part of living regardless of who we are, where we’re from, and what we have –or have not.

We all get to ride the roller coaster from the moment we are born; however, for those who are truly happy, the ups and downs are irrelevant for the most part. They make no excuses nor they believe they have problems with no solution. They believe there are just situations to be resolved or to overcome. Even when drastic events happen -such as the passing of a loved one- these people manage to get back into happiness relatively fast.

So, how can the majority of us adapt to this way of living? Can this be taught as Dr. Schwartz’ young boy proposed? Is it possible to make yourself happy and live in a relatively constant state of happiness?

The answer is ‘Yes,’ you can teach yourself to be happy! A good starting point is to acknowledge that not one person on this planet is absolutely happy 100% of the time. From this perspective, you put your mind at ease so when some unavoidable circumstances happen, you are not caught off guard.

It is much easier to create happiness from this perspective. Next, it is essential to stop thinking that you must ‘be or have‘ something to become happy. Remember, happiness is an inner job.

Here are a few points to help you make yourself happy

  • Commit to being happy today – right now!

Don’t take anything for granted. Listen, you are reading this article right now. I don’t know you; I don’t know where you are, who you are, where you’ve been or what you do. Yet I know with certainty that you DO have something to feel happy about… right now, no matter what. Even if you cannot think about anything to be happy about, the fact that you have your eyesight, a screen to read this article, and Internet connectivity, is cause enough to feel happy. Just ask a person who’s lost their ability to see and you will value what you have so much more!

  • Recognize that happiness is NOT a continuum in time

Happiness is an emotion not a permanent state of being, and like every other emotion it cannot be felt all the time. Sometimes you feel happy, others sad, some other times you feel frustrated or angry, and then you feel joyful and thrilled, and some other times you just feel neutral. All of these feelings are what make us human, so our nature is perfectly fine as it fluctuates according to the ups and downs of life. The important thing is not to dwell on any particular feeling caused by one event or circumstance. Remember that that nothing is permanent, and you will make yourself happy once you realize that happiness is built from moment to moment.

  • Realize that you have the power to create happiness at will

Engage in something creative, like flower arrangement, sculpting or painting. Invite friends over to watch a movie. Cook your favorite dish for dinner. Go out and do something fun! Whatever has made you happy in the past, you can recreate it and make yourself happy again. Consciously experience the happy feeling you feel and make it a commitment to‘re-live the feeling’ every time you need it by just recalling the event. Remember, your imagination is powerful and just by evoking, we can recreate and feel as if we were living the moment all over again!

  • Learn to access your “now” moment at will

Have you ever felt totally absorbed in an experience, such as watching a sunset, listening to your favorite tune or watching a great movie? These are moments in which you make yourself happy as time and worries disappear, even if temporarily. When you experience moments like these, you are truly in the “now”, and as you surely got it by now, when you live in the present it’s easier to feel happy because you and the thing of your attention become one.

  • Discover your passions and rejoice in the feeling

Sometimes we get so busy and absorbed in our daily routines, that we forget what makes us happy. Do you love to walk on the beach, read a book on your favorite chair, observe wildlife, play ball with your kids, volunteer or pay a visit to the less fortunate? Give yourself the time to do something that gives you great pleasure and learn to enjoy the feeling as you do it. Then, sit under the canopies of trees to reflect on your feelings, enjoy the “after taste” and just “be” with your feeling without time concerns or limitations.

When you remember your happy experiences, do it vividly by including colors, smells, sounds, sensations, and tastes. In this manner, you train your mind and your body to recall not only the memories, but the feeling of the experience itself.

Every time you dedicate quiet time to be alone with the thoughts, memories and feelings that you get to choose, you bring upon feelings of happiness at will. As you open the doors to your heart in this way, you get to know yourself better by recognize the particular experiences that make you happy, so you will eventually seek happy experiences of the same nature intentionally and purposefully. You’ve come full circle now!

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Tips To Be Happier

Tips To Be Happier

All of us have difficult days every now and then, days in which we wish we were feeling more positive to endure the complexities of life. We may try to convince ourselves that these things happen in life, that it’s no big deal, and that this soon ‘shall pass.’ While these thoughts are positive in nature and even a bit encouraging, they may not be enough to get us into a better state of mind. Truth is, it may not be as easy as it sounds.

Have you experienced something like this yourself? If you feel stuck in your own emotional loopholes when the going gets rough, and if you find that feeling happier is a struggle sometimes, these “Seven Tips To Be Happier” will help you lift your mood in no time at all, so you can feel happy NOW

  • Take a walk
     
    Most of us know that taking a short daily walk is a wonderful form of physical exercise. And when we are feeling down it is also beneficial for our inner state. So, if you feel overwhelmed or if things are not going your way, take a walk in a natural location where you can admire plants, birds and yes, even butterflies.
     
    Take deep breaths and feel your lungs expand with fresh air. Make it a point to focus in the beauty of nature and smile. Forget about your problem for a few minutes. You will not only feel more relaxed and happier, but will look at your situation from a different angle when you return to it.
  • Listen to beautiful music
     
    Research has proven that music is a great tool to shift the listener’s state of being within moments. Its effects can be almost magical.When you feel blue, dig out that CD you haven’t listened to in years or tune in your favorite radio station to something you have not listened to in awhile, or even something totally new. If stress is getting the best out of you, classical music may be helpful as well. Vivaldi tones are known to improve mood and overall well-being.

    You may want to jump to the bottom of this page, and push play before you keep on reading this article so you can experience Vivaldi’s Four Seasons for a few moments of bliss… 🙂

  • Be open to discover and explore something new
     
    Go to a library and read something different than what you’d normally read. Go to a bookstore and browse through the magazine section. What catches your eye? Buy a magazine you wouldn’t normally buy. This will help you open your mind to learning a new thing or two, and/or feel the enthusiasm of discovering a wonderful activity or new hobby.
  • Laugh out loud!
     
    Laughter is the best medicine. We’ve all heard this phrase and it is true! Laughter is one of the best ways to lift your spirits and it is free.Read a humorous book, or watch a comedy. Allow yourself to laugh big! Try to learn a few new jokes to share with others. And don’t take life too seriously. We’ve all been silly at times. We’ve all goofed off some other times. It’s totally OK to learn to laugh at ourselves too!
  • Learn to breathe and meditate
     
    Breathing-meditation is a great exercise that you can do anywhere for just a few minutes and it has wonderful side effects. Simply look for a place where you won’t be disturbed, and sit comfortably with your back straight. Then, close your eyes and place your attention on the flow of air going in and out of your nostrils and follow it all the way to your lungs. Do this slowly.
     
    Relax and smile as you do it. For better results, add an imaginary color to the air that goes in and out. Choose a bright color going in, and a darker color going out. Associate colors with your mood; i.e. pink for happy, brown for unhappy. Breathe happiness in and let go of unhappiness. That’s all there is to it. When you do this for 10 to 15 minutes, you will be pleasantly surprised at how you will feel afterward!
  • Drawing for fun
     
    Do you remember when you used to scribble for hours as a child? We all loved drawing silly little pictures when we were younger. And doodling is not just for kids or artists, so go get a few pens, color pencils, crayons or whatever you have and just draw whatever comes to you for the fun of it. Notice how you get distracted as your state of mind shifts. On a stressful day, this can be therapeutic!
  • Acknowledge the less fortunate
     
    The fact that you are reading this article and have access to the web suggests that most likely you are much better off than most people on this planet. It may be hard to believe, but those two things alone mean that you are better off than most people in the world.
     
    Unfortunately, many human beings live in poverty and barely have access to the basics for survival. There are many people who live in pain, hunger and despair. When you give yourself a few moments to feel compassion for them, you’ll get a warm feeling of gratefulness and happiness for what you have in your life.


 
These seven simple tips are nothing profound, new or life changing, but when all you need is a quick pick me up these may be just what you need.

Want more quick “pick me up” moments? Watch these two mini movies titled Finding Joy can be Simple and Laughter is an Instant Vacation. They will warm your heart and make you smile!

In conclusion, when you put simple ideas, methods, tools and techniques into action you will be helping yourself into living happily, much quicker than you imagine.

The Four Seasons
by Antonio L. Vivaldi

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The Pursuit of Happiness

The Pursuit of 

Happiness

Regardless of your profession or career path, your culture or language, your age or where you live in this vast planet, the pursuit of happiness is one common goal to all of us, human beings. Every time we have a dream, set a goal, pray, or wish for something, the underlying emotion we are seeking is happiness. When we have an experience that causes pleasure or has meaning to us, we bring about a positive feeling that translates into joy.

According to the dictionary, happiness is a state of mind or feeling characterized by contentment, satisfaction, pleasure, or joy. One definition I found at a Princeton University website says that happiness is a state of well-being characterized by emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy.

I believe happiness can be compared to an elusive butterfly going from one flower to another in the garden of life. Let’s use this analogy and imagine a young child walking in the park on a sunny day.

The child sees a colorful butterfly and with eyes of wonder follows its flying pattern. Curiosity makes him want to get close, touch it and even hold it in his little hands.

The child walks with his arms stretched out towards the flower where the butterfly is resting on, but as soon as he gets within reach, the butterfly takes off to land on another flower.

Determined, the child follows the butterfly to the next flower, and then the next, and the next… but no matter how much he chases it, the butterfly always remains out of his reach.

As adults, happiness can seem like a butterfly, always a few steps away… over there… out of our reach. To some, it may become an obsession. They believe that if only… this or that would happen they’d be truly happy. Their minds are caught up in the ‘if only’ mode continuously…. If only I had more money, a better job or my own business… if only I was in a great relationship, if my partner was more loving or my child was a better student… if only I could have the SUV I’ve been dreaming about, live in a bigger home or travel to Hawaii for a week or two… then, I’d be happy.

Even if they were to achieve one of their ‘if only’ desires, the bliss would be temporary. They would sooner or later get accustomed to what they got, and start feeling unhappy because they don’t have –or they want- something else. This feeling gives birth to the next ‘if only’ desire perpetually. Do you know anyone like this?

See, when you go through life feeling blue most of the time, you tend to believe that external events, things, or circumstances you want will give you the happiness you are seeking when these things happen. However, let’s realize that material possessions, circumstances, and events will just bring short-term happiness. These things will never have a lasting effect in your life even if you get to keep them for a while.

Just like the saying goes… “The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence”, if you base your happiness on things, you’ll always be chasing happiness based on things out there, “on the other side of the fence.” Subsequently, your focus and perception are always based on outer events, which will harbor feelings of dissatisfaction, discouragement and unhappiness in your heart and life experience as a whole.

Every human experience encompasses a mixture of pleasant and unpleasant circumstances. Because of this, no one should rely on experiences as a source of happiness unless they want to live in constant turmoil or experience the eroding ups and downs of an emotional roller coaster ride.

If what you want is true, long-lasting happiness, you must become aware of the fact that living happy is a state of  being, not a state of having.

Happiness is an inner condition that can be attained by all who truly desire to live in happiness most of the time. Yes, I say ‘most of the time‘ because certain unavoidable life events will bring sadness, that’s just a part of life. However, if your normal state is that of happiness, sadness will be temporary as you will recover faster from sorrow or despair.

There is no gene that determines who’ll be happy and who won’t. You and I are capable of becoming happy people and living happy lives IF we understand that happiness is never related to the world out there, but to the world within.

The inner contentment that allows you to navigate through the ups and downs of life has its roots deep within your being. Thus, the only true source of happiness comes from finding and embracing who you are as a person, and from there you can live a happy life overall. Finding peace in every aspect of your life is also important… the physical, the mental, the emotional and the spiritual.

Once you accept yourself ‘as you are’ and find peace in all of these areas, you get a sense of completeness in life; and the result is a flowing state of happiness.

If you neglect any one of these areas, you’ll experience a sense of emptiness. You may not be able to identify this nagging feeling right away. It just feels like something is missing. If this happens, it will be hard to get a solid foundation for building permanent happiness within. Like I mentioned above, many will try to fill this incompleteness by looking for outer stuff, such as the cars, the trips, the things.

This is the reason why falling into the elusive butterfly syndrome is quite common for so many people. They may get what they want and feel happy for awhile, only to discover later on that they’re feeling empty all over again. The feeling of frustration lingers and the cycle repeats itself once and again, unless they learn the secret to being happy despite life’s circumstances which starts with working on their inner self.

So… is happiness an elusive butterfly for you? If so, spend some time in quiet reflection. Ask yourself how you’re doing in regard to the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual aspects of your being. If you notice that you are neglecting one of these four important elements of your being,  you’ll know why you are experiencing a sense of emptiness within. This is a good starting point that gives you direction to modify or improve your life experience.

Remember, it is perfectly fine to desire more and get some things to make your life easier, more comfortable or pleasant, but do not confuse the euphoric feeling of getting things with real happiness.  Enjoy the fruit of your labor. You deserve it. But, do not let the object possess your happiness, ever.

The more you experience happiness as an inner job, the more often you will experience the butterfly of happiness landing on your shoulder.

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