Charisma

Your Personal Power Weapon!

Personal Power… the mere thought of those words make us feel empowered, wouldn’t you agree?

People who convey their personal power are people who have mastered the fine art of Charisma. And when we talk about charisma we can immediately think of having a positive attitude and an outgoing personality. This is why charismatic people attract like-minded individuals and situations that help them succeed.

And what exactly is charisma?

Charisma can be defined as a trait that can be found in some people with magnetic personalities and extreme charm. Charismatic people are usually calm, assertive, and self-confident. They are also authentic, able to focus on others, and masters at active listening.

They make others “feel important”.  They smile easily and do not take life too seriously. Many of them have also a gift for public speaking. They are loved by many and even envied by a few.

Can you think of someone you know who is naturally agreeable and friendly? Perhaps a person who you feel drawn to? Have you seen that person in a room full of strangers? Most likely they’ll start chatting and making friends in no time at all… right?

This is what being a people person means. Charismatic people are unbelievably nice and pleasant. They can charm almost anyone into doing anything, really!

A person with this personal magnetism can achieve greatness because they attract the precise people and situations that propel them to success. These people earn the trust and support of those around them with ease. And they can do anything they want to with the plethora of people behind them. All because they know how to use their charming personality to their advantage!

Charisma: Innate trait or can it be developed?

Some scholars affirm that certain personality traits like charisma can’t be learned; that we must be born with it. I disagree. I believe we all are born with the potential to be charming. If we really think about it, isn’t charisma a reflection of an abundance of self-confidence? And if this is so, why couldn’t we learn to overcome our self doubt and limitations? Do you agree with me?

Here are a few tips that can help you become charismatic. With practice, we can learn to exude self-confidence and become the people person we’d like to be.

1. Be authentic and true to yourself

Hypocrisy and selfishness can be perceived and will eventually drag you down. Be genuinely nice and interested in people.

2. Become an active listener

Learn to listen and sympathize with people to earn their trust, appreciation and love. When people have problems they want to be listened to. This is why people go to therapy! Active listening means not just hearing, but putting your heart into listening attentively.

Make eye contact when the person talks to you. Your body language is also important. Nod in agreement when appropriate. Listen as if every word matters. You will earn “brownie points” as they feel your empathy.

3. Learn to laugh out loud

Not in a silly way, but by finding humor in small things and not being too darn serious about life in general. A person oozing with an awesome sense of humor attracts crowds and eventually, success. People like to be around happy and positive people!

Also, learn to laugh about your own blunders. It will make you likable as you convey humbleness. People feel comfortable with a down-to-earth person.

4. Practice random acts of kindness

You don’t have to be a millionaire to blow your savings to charity and be noticed. What truly matters are little acts of kindness. It doesn’t need to be elaborated nor does it require prior planning. Be spontaneous and do it from the heart.

It can be a simple act like giving someone a flower, a phone call to ask how things are going or a word of encouragement for someone that’s feeling down. Even helping a senior cross the street counts!

5. Be willing to change

You must be willing to develop your personality openly. Focus on getting rid of bad traits and habits that may inhibit your growth. A charismatic person cannot be shy, grouchy, ill-tempered, or pessimistic. They do not snap at anyone, and know how to stay in control.

6. Develop self-confidence

Be able to stride to the other corner of the room and introduce yourself to people with that winning smile of yours. Just remember to be confident, not arrogant.

7. Cultivate your relationships

Your relationship with others should never be neglected. Be willing to go out and have fun with family and friends. Feeling happy around those who matter most to you will allow you to relax and practice all of the above points.

When you develop charisma you have an “edge” over others. You become powerful. People will feel drawn to you; they will trust you. You will feel like a magnet. People will look to you for leadership. They will try to emulate you, and this will allow you to influence them.

This can be exciting!

But please do not forget that all of this comes with a big responsibility. Don’t use it to manipulate others. Do not abuse this power. Instead, use your charisma to become a better and more lovable person.

Use it to your advantage but never to take advantage.

Use your charisma wisely and you will become a winner!